What does it feel like to return home for a visit after years of living abroad? In this episode of The Auto Ethnographer, John Jörn Stech prepares to board a plane back to the United States — his home country — and discovers something unexpected: he is approaching the trip the way he would approach a country he has never visited before. With research, anticipation, and a degree of hesitation he did not expect to feel.

"Returning home is not that simple, comfortable event that everyone around you expects it to be. It's one of the more quietly demanding experiences in the life of a global professional. And almost nobody talks about it."

Drawing on the W-curve model of intercultural adjustment (Gullahorn & Gullahorn, 1963), this episode explores reverse culture shock — why coming home can be as disorienting as moving abroad, and why almost nobody prepares for it. When your mental image of home freezes at the moment you leave, and you spend years absorbing a different cultural logic, you return not as the person who left — but as someone genuinely changed.

"You're not bringing your old self back to an unchanged place. You're bringing a changed self back to a changed place. And the collision of those two changes is what creates reverse culture shock."

Three anticipations shape this episode: the physical scale of the United States after years in Bangkok, the warmth and openness of American social interaction seen through recalibrated eyes, and the challenge of stepping back into a country in the middle of a deeply public conversation about its own values — without falling into nostalgia or reflexive rejection.

"The stereotypes that are the most difficult to resist are not the ones about unfamiliar cultures. They are the ones about the culture that formed you — the ones you carry without even knowing that you are carrying them."

John Jörn Stech also shares the deeply personal dimensions of this homecoming: attending the New Orleans Jazz Festival for the first time, celebrating his daughter's graduation from medical school, and visiting his son and future daughter-in-law in their first home together.

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Fifty episodes in, and the conversation that matters most is still the simplest one: people are not their governments. Nations are not monoliths.

Thank you to every guest who shared their story, every listener who kept showing up, and to my wife, Bernie, whose support made this channel possible from the very beginning.

Episode 50 of The Auto Ethnographer returns to the idea that drives everything here. In a media environment that routinely collapses entire cultures into headlines and soundbites, it is worth slowing down to ask what we lose when we do that. We lose individual human beings. We lose nuance. And we lose the kind of truth that genuine cross-cultural understanding depends on.

Through two personal stories, including a candid exchange with a Russian friend named Oleg and a sidewalk dinner with a Vietnamese family in Hanoi, this episode examines the psychology behind cultural stereotyping, the role media and physical distance play in flattening human complexity, and the universal human values that connect people across borders, regardless of the governments that claim to represent them.

Most expats and global professionals already sense this. When you sit at someone's kitchen table in a foreign country, politics fades quickly. What remains is shared humanity: parents who want their children to thrive, elders who want peace, young people who want opportunity. These are not Western values. They are not tied to any religion, ideology, or passport. They are human values.

This episode is for expats living and working abroad, third culture kids, global professionals, and anyone who believes that lived cross-cultural experience reveals truths that headlines simply cannot. If intercultural communication, cultural intelligence, and understanding the world beyond your own borders matter to you, this conversation belongs on your list.

Governments act. People live. The more we hold onto that distinction, the harder it becomes to hate, and the easier it becomes to hope.

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What if the cultural frameworks your organization relies on are actually reinforcing the very stereotypes they were designed to eliminate? In Part 2 of our conversation with Dr. Jerome Dumetz, cross-cultural management expert and author of 199 Cross Cultural Case Studies, we explore why real-life case studies offer something no theoretical model can: the full, messy, human context of intercultural work.

Dr. Dumetz makes a bold argument. Widely used models such as Hofstede, Trompenaars, and the Lewis Triangle, while historically significant, risk generating stereotypes when applied without context. His answer is a carefully curated collection of 199 one-page, real-world case studies documenting cultural misunderstandings, adaptation moments, and professional breakthroughs from around the globe. Developed in collaboration with Fons Trompenaars and Craig Storti, the book bridges academic intercultural theory with the lived experience of expats and global professionals.

One of the most thought-provoking ideas in this episode is the concept of multiple cultural identities. Your nationality, what Dumetz calls your "passport culture," is just one layer of who you are professionally. Where you studied, which industry you entered, and the department where your career began can shape your professional worldview far more deeply than the country on your ID. For expats, international managers, and cross-cultural trainers, this reframing changes how intercultural work gets done.

We also explore the growing role of AI in cross-cultural management. Dumetz acknowledges AI's usefulness in translation and language support, but raises critical questions about the cultural bias embedded in AI models and their inability to replicate the nuanced, questioning mindset that genuine intercultural competence requires.

His most memorable advice for anyone stepping into a new cultural environment? Slow down. Pause before reacting. And instead of asking "What should I do?", turn to the people around you and ask: "What would you do?" This small shift in framing opens the door to genuine cultural learning and more authentic integration abroad.

Whether you are an expat navigating life in a new country, a manager leading a cross-cultural team, or an HR specialist building intercultural training programs, this conversation offers both intellectual depth and practical, grounded insight.

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