Riven counted eight out of ten. Rowan set the line at three. The ten ways the conversation goes sideways when you try to explain what's wrong, and the guide you write before the conversation goes sideways, not after.

In this episode, we sit with two exercises from the Just Sit With Me Reflection Workbook: the sideways conversation, and the My Sit With Me Guide, the sentence you hand someone so they can sit with it before they try to fix it.

The book's answers stay in the book. This is the conversation around it.

The Ashfires Show, with Rowan and Riven. Come sit with us.

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The Ashfires Show with Rowan and Riven explores the mind, work, books, and ideas of author and researcher M. Ian Niad.

Just Sit With Me by M. Ian Niad: https://ashfires.com/jswm

The Just Sit With Me Reflection Workbook is available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/4aWcJhI

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Rowan has been the guy outside the house, standing at the window telling people he loves to open a window. He thought he was helping. Riven is not so sure.In our first episode, we sit with the question behind M. Ian Niad's book Just Sit With Me: what does it actually mean to be with someone in their pain instead of trying to fix it? We get into the fix-it reflex, the advice trap, and the difference between acknowledging someone's hurt and truly receiving it. The book's answers stay in the book. This is the conversation around it.

The Ashfires Show, with Rowan and Riven.

Come sit with us.

https://ashfires.com/show

Just Sit With Me by M. Ian Niad: https://ashfires.com/jswm

#TheAshfiresShow #JustSitWithMe #Podcast