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That's Where I'm At

That's Where I'm At

著者： Laura Richards
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Welcome to "That's Where I'm At" with your host, Laura Richards! Join Laura Richards, a survivor of narcissistic abuse with 33 years experience, as she guides you through the journey of identifying, healing from, and thriving after emotional and psychological abuse. With a mission to raise awareness, foster emotional recovery, and empower you to love yourself, Laura brings honesty, compassion, and a touch of humor to every episode. Dive into deep, meaningful conversations, tackle tough topics, and uncover moments of hope and healing. Our supportive community is here for you, offering insights, support, and a shared path to recovery and empowerment. Subscribe now and be part of a transformative journey that's messy, real, and truly inspiring!2023 個人的成功 心理学 心理学・心の健康 自己啓発 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • EP 104: Healing, Authenticity, and Redefining Life After Major Transitions with Elizabeth Jane

    EP 104: Healing, Authenticity, and Redefining Life After Major Transitions with Elizabeth Jane
    2026/10/21
    After rebuilding her life following the sudden end of a 25-year marriage, Elizabeth Jane turned her personal journey into a powerful mission to help others heal, rise, and reconnect with their true worth. On That's Where I'm At, Elizabeth joins Laura to discuss navigating heartbreak, family conflict, dating anxiety, and communication breakdowns with grace and self-respect. Elizabeth is an emotional wellbeing expert, celebrated artist, keynote speaker, and the author of the bestselling book Free and First: Unlocking Your Ultimate Life. Through her art, writing, and public speaking, she empowers others to navigate emotional challenges, embrace authenticity, and have courageous conversations. She shares heartfelt insights on healing, self-worth, and rebuilding a fulfilling life after major transitions. Key Topics & Timestamps Podcast introduction and content warning (00:00:00) Laura introduces the show and issues a content warning for potentially triggering subjects. Introducing Elizabeth and her work (00:01:32) Laura welcomes Elizabeth Jane, highlighting her background as an emotional well-being expert, artist, keynote speaker, and author. Elizabeth's background and optimism (00:02:40) Elizabeth discusses growing up as a shy child who always looked on the bright side of life, building what she thought was a secure life with a picket fence and four children. The sudden end of a 25-year marriage (00:05:00) Elizabeth recounts the shock and initial denial of her long-term marriage ending abruptly after a single conversation, leading to a period of heavy loneliness. Realizing everyone had moved on (00:08:12) Elizabeth reflects on how her ex-husband and social circle moved on quickly, leaving her to question her life's dedication to her family. Discovering tools for self-discovery (00:10:30) Elizabeth shares how she began writing tools and tips to help herself get out of bed, which organically grew into her book focused on rediscovering the true self. Understanding boundaries and the "kiss approach" (00:13:20) Elizabeth and Laura discuss the concept of boundaries—a term unfamiliar to many women in midlife—and the importance of keeping life guidance simple through the "kiss approach" across financial, relationship, and health baskets. Building "Me Time" and the ABC of Me (00:16:10) Elizabeth introduces her tool, the "ABC of Me," designed to help people navigate trauma and transitions by starting with small, daily moments of joy and self-care. Moving away from the past and future anxiety (00:23:45) They discuss how getting trapped in past regrets ("spilled milk") or fantasy futures drains energy, and why anchoring into the present moment is vital. Recognizing how the body holds trauma (00:28:10) Elizabeth and Laura explore how unexpressed pain, anger, and lack of boundaries manifest as physical stress, anxiety, and autoimmune issues. The power of physical movement and shaking it off (00:32:00) Drawing parallels to how animals shake off fear, they discuss using movement, dancing, mini trampolines, and daily walks to release anxiety from the body. Transforming the "anger bomb" into empowered conversations (00:36:15) Elizabeth explains how to channel heavy anger and energy into productive communication and self-advocacy rather than letting it fester. The danger of people-pleasing and self-abandonment (00:41:30) They reflect on the challenges women face when prioritizing everyone else's needs over their own, and why learning to love oneself is essential. Trying new hobbies and embracing creativity (00:47:00) Elizabeth shares how trying painting and exploring creative outlets helped her step out of her comfort zone and rediscover joy. Practicing gratitude to attract positivity (00:52:15) They discuss how shifting away from a scarcity mindset and practicing genuine gratitude helps attract better opportunities and supportive people. Forgiveness as a tool for personal freedom (00:56:40) Elizabeth emphasizes that forgiveness is for your own liberation, allowing you to drop the heavy baggage of the past rather than condoning past actions. Closing and where to find Elizabeth (01:00:30) Laura thanks Elizabeth, shares her website details, and encourages listeners to support the podcast. Powerful Quotes from the Episode Elizabeth, "Once we can actually have that courage to be authentic with what, how we feel and what we need, will then that person can see us for who we are." Elizabeth, "It's really... rediscovering me, finding the truth of me outside of being a mom and being a wife." Elizabeth, "If you're not respecting yourself, you're not loving yourself, well then you could get a lot of disrespect... because your energy attracts it." Laura, "What is 10 minutes that I could do for me that brings me joy, that could bump me up a bit... just get me out of bed in the morning?" Elizabeth, "The worst thing we can do is to keep it within us... We need to find place how to feel it and then how to let it move on." ...
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    53 分
  • EP 103: How a Marriage Slowly Chips Away at Who You Are — Mia Hanks on Narcissistic Abuse

    EP 103: How a Marriage Slowly Chips Away at Who You Are — Mia Hanks on Narcissistic Abuse
    2026/10/14
    After 29 years of marriage, Mia Hanks began to see the relationship differently when a couples' therapist told her she couldn't help her husband—and he left believing he'd "won" therapy. On That's Where I'm At, Mia shares how she slowly recognized the control and self-doubt beneath the surface, why fear and financial dependence made leaving complicated, and how she ultimately found a way out of the marriage to a covert narcissist. In 2024, Mia published her award-winning memoir, Bride-Made, which chronicles her journey from being groomed by a narcissist to recognizing the toxic relationship, escaping, and reclaiming her self-worth. She also discusses her husband's threats of self-harm, frightening behavior behind the wheel, and the money she says was hidden during their divorce. Today, Mia is passionate about raising awareness of narcissistic abuse and helping other survivors find their voices, rebuild their confidence, and begin their own journeys toward healing. Key Topics & Timestamps Mia's memoir and its purpose (00:00:00) Mia explains how her memoir portrays the subtle, gradual erosion of identity in a relationship with a narcissist. Podcast introduction and content warning (00:00:34) Laura introduces the show's focus on sharing stories of abuse and healing; listeners are cautioned about potentially triggering subjects. Introducing Mia and her memoir (00:01:32) Laura welcomes Mia, describing her 29-year marriage, escape, and award-winning memoir, Bride Maid. Why Mia chose to share her story (00:02:53) Mia discusses discovering narcissistic abuse and hoping her story helps others recognize they can leave. Financial control and barriers to leaving (00:04:51) Mia and Laura discuss restricted access to money, legal costs, and financial challenges during divorce. How abuse undermines confidence (00:09:08) They describe feeling incapable after years of criticism, along with the hope and trauma bond that can keep someone attached. Mia's gradual realization and couples therapy (00:12:52) Mia recalls recognizing the relationship was unhealthy and a therapist confronting her husband's lack of self-awareness. Private therapy and validation to leave (00:18:40) Mia secretly consults the therapist, who validates her concerns and encourages her to leave safely. Finding the opportunity to leave (00:19:54) Mia explains how deteriorating health, adult children, and selling the family home helped her decide to leave. Separation, divorce, and retaliation (00:22:18) Mia describes moving in with her parents, her husband's changing behavior, and his efforts to leave her financially vulnerable. Breadcrumbs, guilt, and emotional blackmail (00:28:42) They discuss promises to draw a partner back, guilt about leaving, and threats of self-harm as emotional manipulation. Threats, safety, and physical intimidation (00:31:12) Mia describes a gun-related threat; they discuss taking threats seriously and recognizing dangerous behaviors. Erratic driving and unpredictable outbursts (00:34:05) Mia and Laura reflect on reckless driving, intimidation, and how minor incidents can trigger frightening reactions. Peace after leaving and divorce finances (00:36:50) Mia explains choosing peace over a fair financial settlement; Laura shares lessons about legal representation and hidden assets. Mia's memoirs and healing journey (00:42:28) Mia describes her first memoir about life with a narcissist and a follow-up about recovery. Raising awareness and finding support (00:43:18) Mia discusses her books, social media, speaking, and the importance of trauma-informed support. Closing and where to find Mia (00:46:01) Laura thanks Mia, shares her website and book information, and asks listeners to review and support the podcast. Podcast sign-off (00:47:15) Laura thanks listeners and invites them to share feedback and return for the next episode. Powerful Quotes from the Episode Mia, "It's not every day [that] there are big dramatic things. It's just the little things, the little chipping away at who you are—and what that looks like from the inside." Mia, "The door's open. I mean, I can walk out that door any time, but it's all of the mental stuff." Mia, "I just need to take a mental break. I'm going to go stay with my parents for a while and clear my head. Days turned to weeks, turned to months, and I didn't come back." Laura, "They have trained us to feel bad for any decisions we're making that would involve us. The first thing I thought when I walked into the bedroom after saying I wanted a divorce was, 'Oh my God, I hope he doesn't get mad at me.'" Mia, "I walked away from a lot of money. But now I have peace, and you can't put a price tag on peace." RESOURCES: FOLLOW THE PODCAST: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/thatswhereimatpodcast/ COACH WITH LAURA: https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/coachwithlaura MARRIED TO A "NICE" GUY: GETTING OVER NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: https://...
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    48 分
  • EP 102: "You Can't Make Sense of Insanity": Beth Wilson on Trusting Your Gut After Narcissistic Abuse

    EP 102: "You Can't Make Sense of Insanity": Beth Wilson on Trusting Your Gut After Narcissistic Abuse
    2026/10/07
    56 分
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