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  • Why I tap in is such an "odd" way (Pod #729)

    Why I tap in is such an "odd" way (Pod #729)
    2026/10/09
    One of my favorite parts about tapping is how flexible it is. It is flexible in terms of the issues you tap on, how long you tap, how deep you go, and what you say. What most people don't realize is that it is also flexible when it comes to how you tap on the points, which points you tap on, and in what order you tap on them. This week on the podcast, I share lots of different ways you can tap and how you can get deeper results when you play around with them. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube Why I Tap in a Random Order Why are you tapping like that? Those were the first words the person sitting next to me in a coffee shop said to me on Saturday, and she said it with a questioning tone and almost disgust. Today I want to share exactly what I was doing while tapping in that coffee shop, why I do it that way, and why I think it is so effective. One of the things I have become is comfortable tapping in public. Part of that is because I live in New York City, and if I happen to be standing on a street corner doing a little bit of tapping, I'm like the eighth weirdest thing on that street corner, so nobody notices. For the most part, people here let people live and let live. Most of the people I encounter aren't ever going to see me again, and I am tapping to make myself feel better in the moment, so I really don't care that much. When I'm doing work and my computer is processing something, like compressing audio or creating an output, I'm just waiting, so I will start tapping. That's exactly what happened. Every Saturday and Sunday morning that I'm in town, I go to a coffee shop right around the corner, Devoción. I sit in the corner with a beautiful cup of coffee below a giant wall of plants and a giant skylight, and I do some work. On this particular morning my computer was processing something, and I was waiting on a download. They don't have internet on the weekend, so I was using my phone as a hotspot, which takes longer than I like. So I just started tapping, jumping from tapping point to tapping point without saying anything. That is when I got the accusation: why are you tapping like that? My first response was actually excitement. She wasn't asking why I was tapping or what that thing was that I was doing. She knew what tapping was, and she knew enough about it to question my style. As someone who has spent almost the last two decades trying to share tapping with as many people as possible, that was a good thing. The reason she questioned it is that I was hopping from point to point in what appeared to be a random fashion. When you have been taught to do something one way and someone else does it differently, it makes you ask questions. Maybe not as directly as my New York friends, but it does. Most of us were taught to start at the eyebrow and go from point to point, or to start at the tippy top of the head, or on the side of the hand. After going through the body, we might hit the liver spots or the fingers, but it all looks super organized. The reason I don't follow that pattern is that it looks organized, but it's actually a random pattern. Every tapping point is associated with a different meridian. We go eyebrow, side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, chin, because that is the next closest point. I've actually tried it, and it feels more natural to work top down. Tapping on the collarbone, then chin, then under the nose, then under the eye feels like work with each tap, whereas coming down the body just keeps lowering and lowering, and that is easier than working back up to the top. So it makes sense that we tap that way. Why do we do that? The predecessor to EFT, Emotional Freedom Techniques, as most of us know it, was something called Thought Field Therapy, created by Roger Callahan. In Thought Field Therapy, you tapped in a particular order for a particular issue. There might be one sequence where you go collarbone, eyebrow, under the eye, side of the hand, and another where you go index finger, under the eye, tippy top of the head, under the nose. There are a number of prescribed sequences for certain issues, and when you're working with a client, you can muscle test your way to something more useful. Many of Callahan's early students loved Thought Field Therapy and thought tapping was great, but they also recognized it was really complicated. They wondered whether they could find a single algorithm, which is what Callahan called tapping in a given order. Maybe it wouldn't be as powerful as Thought Field Therapy, but it would be much easier to teach. If you've ever tried to explain tapping to someone, you're already getting them over the hurdle of this weird thing where we tap on our bodies. Now you also need to explain that when it's anger, you tap in this order, and when it's sadness, you tap in that order. That is a really difficult thing to share with ...
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  • The 4-steps to find hidden resistance and limiting beliefs (Pod #728)

    The 4-steps to find hidden resistance and limiting beliefs (Pod #728)
    2026/10/01
    Tapping for limiting beliefs and resistance is a very straightforward process. All you need to do is name the limiting belief, why the limiting belief thinks it is being helpful, and then share the truth about what is really happening. When you combine this with tapping it rewrites your subconscious. The problem is not clearing the limiting belief. Instead the problem is knowing what the limiting beliefs are because the subconscious mind doesn't think about them as limiting beliefs. Instead, the subconscious simply sees the limiting belief as how the world works. If clearing the limiting belief is the easy part, then finding the limiting beliefs is the hardest part. This week in the podcast I am going to share with you the tool I use every day to find limiting beliefs. I use this every time I tap and I use this in every tapping session I do with clients. This is the most useful framework I have ever created and I know you are going to love it! Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio Finding Your Limiting Beliefs with the SAWD Framework Clearing limiting beliefs with tapping is really easy. Basically, all you're doing is naming the limiting belief, naming why it's not true, and naming what is true instead while you're tapping. I went into a lot of detail on that in episode 726. That's not the problem. The problem is naming the limiting belief. So today, I'm going to share the exact process I use every single time I tap to find the limiting beliefs, so it becomes really easy for me to tap on them. This is Gene Monterastelli, and welcome to the Tapping Q&A Podcast, recorded live to tape from Williamsburg in Brooklyn. This is episode 728, originally aired October 1st, 2026. Hi, everyone. I hope this finds you well, wherever you are and whatever time of day you're getting a chance to listen. Thanks for spending a little time with me today. Why Limiting Beliefs Are So Hard to Spot As I'm recording this, we are on the precipice of this year's Integrated Tapping Summit, where I bring together some of my favorite tappers and we answer questions about a specific topic. We knit those answers together, so you're not just hearing from one expert, you're hearing from lots of them. If you're not signed up, you can join us absolutely free at integratedtappingsummit.com. I love the conversations I have because I get to put lots of people's ideas side by side, and I'm always fascinated by the questions that require the most attention. Because the summit is edited, my guests get to sit and let a question wash over them before they answer, and they receive the questions ahead of time so they can think about them. Last year, the question that caught people the most was about limiting beliefs: how do I know I am carrying a limiting belief? This question matters because the subconscious mind doesn't think it's a limiting belief. The subconscious mind just thinks it is true. When it's operating from that belief, it's not saying, "This is a limiting belief that's holding me back." It's just saying, "This is how we stay safe." And since the subconscious mind thinks it's true, it becomes much harder for us to unpack. Giving Away the Transformation Last week I was at a small business marketing conference, and one of the presenters, Brian Mark, a personal trainer, was talking about his approach to social media. He said something fascinating. In the free content you create, in your videos, your social media, and your podcasts, give your audience enough information that they could reach complete transformation without ever hiring you. That's something I've always tried to do. We've been going at this for 17 years, and nothing has been held back. But today I'm going to do exactly that as we look at how to uncover limiting beliefs. I'm going to share a simple framework that I use every single day in my tapping, and it has transformed my results, both when I'm tapping on my own and when I'm working with my clients. If you are new to tapping and have no idea what I'm talking about, tapping is a tool we can use to transform the limiting beliefs and stories we're carrying in our subconscious mind that no longer serve us. If you know what the limiting belief is, tapping on it is easy as long as you know how to tap. I've put together a free guide that teaches you all the basics at learntotap.com. You can take the framework I'm teaching today, combine it with that basic information, and start to heal and transform your subconscious mind. What a Limiting Belief Actually Is Before we jump in, it's important to talk more deeply about what a limiting belief is. It's just a story we're carrying. All of the stories in our subconscious mind are the rules about the way the world works. They guide us moment to moment so that we're not having to think in every single moment, because thinking takes so much energy. It's the reason you can walk...
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  • 3 words that make clearing limiting beliefs easier (Pod #727)

    3 words that make clearing limiting beliefs easier (Pod #727)
    2026/09/28
    One of the most frustrating moments in tapping is when you know a belief is holding you back, you tap on it again and again, and it simply won't budge. That's because your subconscious mind doesn't see a limiting belief as limiting. It sees it as the truth about the world and the very thing that keeps you safe. Some of those beliefs are genuinely useful. My belief that tigers are not kind and cuddly keeps me on the right side of the fence at the zoo. The trouble comes when a belief is disproportionate and misinformed. Last week, in episode 726 of the podcast, I shared the four-part formula I use in almost every round of tapping. At its heart, that formula is a negotiation with the subconscious mind. Even in the middle of that negotiation, though, the subconscious can dig in its heels, because it doesn't trust what you'll do once the resistance comes down. Over time I have found three words that change that conversation. When I bring them into a round of tapping, I can feel my system decompress almost immediately. This week in the podcast, I share those three words, why they speak the language of the subconscious mind, and a short round of tapping you can follow along with so you can feel the difference for yourself. Once you hear them, you'll want to use them in almost every round of tapping you do. Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube Transcript: Are you tired of fighting your subconscious mind when you're trying to clear a limiting belief with tapping? Today, I'm going to share with you the three words that make clearing limiting beliefs so much easier and that should be used in almost every round of tapping. When we're tapping to create transformation and healing, and we're trying to clear a limiting belief, our subconscious mind doesn't want us to clear that limiting belief. That's because the subconscious mind doesn't see it as a limiting belief. Instead, the subconscious mind sees it as how we stay safe. So if the limiting belief is "I can't be successful at this," what's really happening is the subconscious mind is saying, "If we try this, we're probably going to fail, which is going to be painful, which is going to be embarrassing, which is going to cause all sorts of issues. So what I'm going to do is make success so scary that you don't take action." So it's a tool. It's trying to keep us safe. And it's great that we have limiting beliefs that keep us safe. I have a limiting belief about whether or not tigers are kind and cuddly, so that when I'm at the zoo, I don't climb over the cage and try to cuddle one. It's trying to keep me safe. When I'm driving and all of a sudden it starts raining and gets dark, I immediately start slowing down. That limiting belief is a form of resistance that acts as a governor to keep me safe. So limiting beliefs are not the problem. The problem is when we have a limiting belief that is disproportionate and misinformed. That's why tapping on and transforming limiting beliefs is so difficult. Our subconscious mind does not want to let go of this thing, because to it, it's not a belief. It's the truth about the world. And so it becomes really difficult for us to tap on that particular issue. Last week on the podcast, in episode 726 (link in the show notes), we talked about the four-part structure I use whenever I sit down to tap. That structure exists so that as I'm working through an issue, I'm getting my subconscious mind on board. If you think back to that process, we're acknowledging what's going on, we're naming what the subconscious is doing and what its motivation is, and then we're explaining to the subconscious mind why the way it's acting is actually getting in the way. We're having a negotiation with the subconscious mind. Now remember, since the subconscious mind doesn't think it's a limiting belief but a truth about the world, even when we're in a place of negotiation, it's going to be hard for us to let a limiting belief go. I'm negotiating with the subconscious mind and its efforts to keep me safe, and I'm saying I want to act in a new way, but the subconscious mind does not trust me. So I found three words that are super powerful to introduce in that moment in my tapping, which allow my subconscious mind to get on board with that change. Those words are thoughtless, reckless, and careless. That's what the subconscious mind thinks is going to happen. It thinks if we take this obstacle down, if we take this resistance down, I'm going to go crazy. If I go from being afraid that I'm going to be judged to not being afraid that I'm going to be judged, I'm going to go out there and do 87 million things. I'm going to try all of the things, and I'm going to do lots of stupid things. My subconscious mind does not trust me, and that's the reason the resistance is in place. So when I'm going to change a subconscious belief, I use those ...
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  • Tap for any issue with these 4 steps (Pod #726)

    Tap for any issue with these 4 steps (Pod #726)
    2026/09/18
    Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube Just because we know the power of tapping doesn't mean we know exactly the best way to tap. Today I'm going to share the simple four-part formula I use for almost every single tapping script I write for my clients, for the videos I make, and when I'm tapping on my own. Where This Formula Came From Recently I was talking with one of my clients, and she wanted to do some tapping around being able to create some YouTube videos. She wasn't looking to create videos for the general public. Instead, she wanted to create videos just to share with her family, so they could tap a little more and make tapping easier for them, since they know so little about it. After we did some work on the insecurity of being on camera and producing something good, we started talking about how I actually create tapping scripts. It's not just me talking. There's a very specific formula, and it came out of years of working with thousands of clients and doing tens of thousands of rounds of tapping. Some of that recognition came from paying attention to what was happening in the moment, and a lot of it came from going back and re-listening to those sessions. What I found is that there are four parts that show up in every single one of my rounds of tapping. If you go look at any of the videos I've produced over the last three or four years where you see tapping scripts, you'll see this formula over and over again. The four-part formula works for any issue at all. It could be a limiting belief, a physical sensation, a struggle to take action, whatever it is. It doesn't matter what the issue is. These four steps work every time as a jumping-off point and as a framework. Step One: State What's Going On and How You Feel About It The first step is no different than sitting down with a friend and talking about what's going on in your life. Let's say it's a limiting belief that's holding you back from taking action. It might sound something like, "I really want to create these videos, but I just can't get myself to sit down and do it. I'm disappointed, I'm frustrated, I'm overwhelmed." All you're doing is saying what's going on and how you feel about it. There might be multiple details and multiple feelings, and that's fine. Give yourself permission to roll through it, chapter and verse. This is what's going on. This is how I feel about it. You can even say what you don't know: I'm not exactly sure what's going on, or I'm not sure how I feel about it. It's just honest reporting. The first part is simply providing witness to what's going on in your life. Say what you know, say how you feel about it. Say what you don't know, say how you feel about that too. Step Two: Recognize and Appreciate the System's Intent The second step is recognizing that our system is trying to keep us safe and healthy. There's a difference between our system wanting to keep us healthy and actually keeping us healthy, but that's what it's trying to do. For example, resistance to taking action is trying to keep me safe because my system is afraid of that action. So the second part of this formula is pointing out what the resistance is trying to do. My system is resisting this task right now because it's afraid I'm going to get in trouble, or afraid I'm going to get judged. Once we've acknowledged what it's trying to do, we appreciate that intention. I appreciate the fact that my resistance is trying to keep me safe. Here's something key to notice. We are not saying, "I appreciate the fact that I am resisting taking action." Instead, we're appreciating the intention to keep us safe. That means we're no longer fighting with the resistance, the physical sensation, or the limiting belief. We're appreciating that it's our body trying to communicate something with us and trying to keep us safe. There's a real difference between affirming something's intention and affirming what it's doing. If I'm just saying "stop this, stop this, stop this," I'm battling with myself. Think about working with someone in your life who's acting from good intention but causing problems. It's much easier to get them to act in a new way if you start by saying, "I appreciate what you're trying to do, I appreciate that you're trying to be helpful." That gets them on your side. We're doing the exact same thing with the stories we carry in our subconscious mind and the resistance we're feeling. Step Three: Let It Know How It's Getting in the Way This is where the reframe starts to happen. Now we share with the resistance, the physical sensation, or the limiting belief how it is getting in the way. I appreciate the fact that this part wants me to be safe, but if I don't take action, I'm not going to grow my business. If I don't take action, I'm going to miss out on opportunities. Even though it's trying to keep me safe, it's actually putting me ...
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  • Tapping for anxiety without having to get into the details (Pod #725)

    Tapping for anxiety without having to get into the details (Pod #725)
    2026/09/11

    Over the last week I have heard from a number of clients who have reported feeling a general sense of anxiety and grief around the 25th anniversary of the terrorist attacks of September 11th in New York City and Washington, DC.

    Feeling bad about painful anniversaries and global events is not unusual. A common concern when tapping for this sort of anxiety is that working with the details will only worsen how we feel.

    This week in the podcast, I share a simple tool to tap for that anxiety and general sense of dread.

    I have also provided a printout of the tapping process, which only makes sense after you listen to the podcast.

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  • A new way to tap with affirmations (Pod #724)

    A new way to tap with affirmations (Pod #724)
    2026/08/27

    One of the most frequent questions that I receive in the Tapping Q&A inbox is about whether we should be tapping on positive or negative phrases.

    People are often concerned that if you tap on a negative phrase, you will tap a negative belief into your subconscious mind.

    The good news is that you can't tap negative thoughts in.

    Even so, it can feel heavy and even discouraging to be tapping constantly on feeling bad or on what is going wrong in your life. Preferring to tap on positive phrases makes perfect sense.

    The problem is, tapping on a positive phrase that feels emotionally untrue is difficult.

    This issue comes up with even the most basic recipe for the EFT set-up phrase. It can be hard to say "Even though I have this issue, I deeply and completely accept myself" with any kind of conviction. (I tackled this exact struggle in depth in episode 721 of the podcast.)

    When a tapping phrase feels like a lie, you are less likely to engage with the tapping AND you are more likely to end the round of tapping sooner.

    Recently, I was my interviewing my friend (and all-around amazing tapper) Jackie Viramontez for this year's version of the Integrated Tapping Summit and she shared a new way of thinking about tapping with affirmations.

    The moment she said it, I knew it was something that I needed to try. Not only was it powerful, it was more powerful than I could have imagined.

    In this week's podcast I am sharing Jackie's idea, plus the ways I have adapted it to my personal tapping style.

    This is an approach that every tapper should have in their transformational tool box.

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  • A new level of self-forgiveness with tapping (pod #723)

    A new level of self-forgiveness with tapping (pod #723)
    2026/08/21

    When we are tapping to clear limiting beliefs, we often encounter the moment in time we picked up a particular belief.

    As a practitioner, I especially love this type of work because it means we get the chance to heal the inner child. For my money, this is some of the most profound and meaningful work we can do when tapping.

    I am currently in the midst of doing the interviews for the 2026 version of the Integrated Tapping Summit. This year, an entire section is dedicated to clearing limiting beliefs with tapping. When I was interviewing Sarah Tobin a few days ago about limiting beliefs, she shared an insight that had never occurred to me.

    She was talking about a certain type of forgiveness work that can support inner child healing. The moment she said it, it resonated deeply with my experience of healing.

    My first thought was, "Why didn't I notice this before?!"

    It is a simple, powerful approach to healing.

    This week in the podcast, I share exactly how I started using the idea and how, after just a few days, it has already unlocked healing I didn't know I even needed.

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  • Tapping for Limiting Beliefs – A 5-Step Process That Works in Under 3 Minutes (Pod #722)

    Tapping for Limiting Beliefs – A 5-Step Process That Works in Under 3 Minutes (Pod #722)
    2026/08/17
    Support the podcast! Http://tappingqanda.com/support Subscribe in: Apple Podcast | iPhone | Spotify | Pandora | Amazon Music | iHeartRadio | YouTube Limiting beliefs are one of the most common obstacles I hear about from people in the tapping community, and they are also one of the things tapping is best equipped to address. In nearly two decades of working with clients and students, tapping for limiting beliefs has become one of my favorite applications of EFT, because the results are direct, fast, and felt immediately in daily life. TL;DR / Key Takeaways A limiting belief is a subconscious affirmation about how the world works that exists to keep you safe, not to hold you back. It only becomes a problem when it is disproportionate to actual risk or based on inaccurate information.Intellectual understanding alone cannot clear a limiting belief. Transformation requires working at the subconscious level, which is exactly where EFT tapping operates through a process called memory reconsolidation.The five-step tapping process for limiting beliefs takes under three minutes and can be used immediately on any belief that is getting in your way.Fighting or dismissing a limiting belief makes it dig in harder. The key is to first acknowledge the belief's protective intention, then show it how it is working against you.Replacing a limiting belief requires a statement the subconscious can actually accept. Overclaiming ("everything will be perfect") creates resistance. A grounded permission statement creates movement. Why Limiting Beliefs Are So Hard to Shake Limiting beliefs are hard to shake because they are not flaws in your thinking. They are features of your protective system doing exactly what they were designed to do. Your subconscious mind holds on to these beliefs precisely because it believes they are keeping you safe. Think about it this way: I do not jump into the tiger cage at the zoo. That is a limiting belief. But I do not experience it as one because it is proportionate to real danger. The limiting beliefs that cause us problems work the same way on the inside. They generate resistance to protect us from what they perceive as threat, whether that threat is rejection, failure, judgment, or loss. This is why willpower and positive thinking rarely work on their own. If you try to override a protective belief by force, the subconscious mind digs its heels in. The resistance is not an enemy. It is a misguided guardian. What Is a Limiting Belief, Really? A limiting belief is a subconscious affirmation about how the world works that is either inaccurate, disproportionate, or based on outdated information. It exists to create protective resistance, not to punish you. This definition matters because it completely changes how you approach the work. Most people treat their limiting beliefs as character defects or signs that something is fundamentally broken in them. But a limiting belief is just a story your subconscious mind wrote, probably a long time ago, with the information it had available at the time. The story made sense once. It just has not been updated. Key insight: "Limiting beliefs are always going to get the best of us. They keep us safe. What we're really frustrated by is the fact that the limiting belief has gotten in the way of us doing the thing we want because it's not doing it in a way that's proportionate or that is well informed." Every limiting belief you carry is trying to protect you from something. The question is never whether the protection is well-intentioned. It always is. The question is whether it is accurate and proportionate to the actual situation in front of you right now. Why Tapping for Limiting Beliefs Works When Willpower Doesn't Tapping works on limiting beliefs because it targets the subconscious level where those beliefs actually live, through a neurological process called memory reconsolidation. Willpower operates at the conscious level and cannot reach them. Memory reconsolidation is the process by which stored memories and the emotional responses attached to them are retrieved, modified, and re-saved. When you tap while focusing on a limiting belief, you are not just thinking differently about a problem. You are creating the conditions for the subconscious story to be rewritten and stored again in a new form. This is what makes tapping categorically different from affirmations, journaling, or talk therapy alone, all of which are enormously valuable but operate primarily at the conscious level. Key insight: "It is not enough to simply intellectually understand that the limiting belief you are carrying is not true. If all it required for you to transform a limiting belief was to know that it was not true, then the only thing we would need for healing and transformation are bumper stickers and posters of kitty cats hanging in there." This is why knowing better is not enough. You can know, with full certainty, that your fear of rejection is irrational, and ...
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