Whether you're hoping to improve your marriage, deepen your self-awareness, or finally feel safe in love, this episode meets you right where you are. Inner Child Healer Tami Schiltz joins forces with psychotherapist, sex educator, and relationship coach Christie Bemis to unpack the real reasons relationships feel stuck—and how inner child work can unlock lasting connection, communication, and emotional safety.

You’ll learn how childhood patterns sneak into adult relationships, how to identify your adaptive child responses, and why being triggered is actually an invitation to heal—not a red flag.

We also break down Christie’s SPARCS relationship assessment tool (Safety, Play/Pleasure, Attunement, Realized Dreams, Communication, and Sex/Intimacy), and the 5 losing strategies that sabotage connection: withdrawal, retaliation, controlling, needing to be right, and unbridled self-expression.

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Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Vulnerability in Conversations
• 05:05 The Importance of Safety in Relationships
• 08:00 Key Elements of Healthy Relationships
• 10:45 Understanding Couples Therapy Dynamics
• 13:33 The Role of Inner Child Work
• 15:56 Navigating Triggers in Relationships
• 18:48 The Adaptive Child and Relationship Dynamics
• 22:07 Communication and Emotional Safety
• 24:37 Compassion and Understanding in Relationships
• 27:44 The Impact of Childhood on Adult Relationships
• 32:32 Understanding Safety and Sensitivity
• 35:46 The Impact of Gaslighting on Relationships
• 40:07 Navigating Emotional Safety in Relationships
• 43:49 The Importance of Inner Child Work
• 48:16 Finding Motivation for Inner Child Healing
• 51:36 Reconnecting with Your Inner Child
• 55:14 Embracing Sexuality and Aliveness
• 01:00:44 Creating Meaningful Conversations

Erika and I first crossed paths at the gym, but our real connection came through shared soul work—intuition, signs, healing, and the drive to live life on purpose. In this episode, we dive into Erika’s journey from gym goals to soul goals, and how bodybuilding became a gateway to profound healing (inner child healing)!

Expect honesty, laughter, and spiritual realness as they break down self-prioritization, ego work, the mental health side of fitness, AND the behind-the-scenes of hosting a podcast (she’s the heart behind My Fit Tribe)!

This conversation is a reminder that healing doesn’t have to look one way, and honoring your journey (and your body) is one of the bravest things you can do.

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My Fit Tribe:

• Spotify
• Apple Podcast
• Instagram
• Facebook
• Website

Show Notes: 00:00 – How We Met: From gym connection to soul sisters 16:48 – Spiritual awakenings & trusting the inner nudge 20:00 – Erika’s entry into bodybuilding & what it revealed 22:48 – Challenges behind the scenes of transformation 25:49 – The art of self-prioritization and keeping promises to yourself 28:41 – Navigating relationships during big personal shifts 31:59 – Purpose isn't found, it's built 34:40 – Building ‘My Fit Tribe’ and why community is everything 37:45 – Fitness as a tool for mental clarity & emotional release 41:03 – The power of saying yes to change 51:50 – Rewriting gym anxiety & taking up space 55:12 – When spirituality meets the squat rack 56:57 – Recognizing and moving through distractions and fear 01:01:24 – Intuition, signs, and embracing spiritual gifts 01:06:40 – What it means to grow with grace 01:12:00 – Celebrating the collective rise of women 01:16:49 – The mission behind Erika’s podcast: My Fit Tribe

Episodes Mentioned:

• Episode 61 (Brittany)
• Episode 56 (Self-Sabotage)
• Episode 47: (Let Them)
• Episode 46: (Keith - Mental Mountains Project)

If you’re somewhere between breaking down and breaking through—this episode is for you!

In this episode of Tami Talks: Unscripted Healing, Tami sits down with her Bestie and Soul Sister, Brittany, to explore the raw, unfiltered journey of emotional growth, midlife transitions, and learning to love our mess. From a dietitian who needed to reset her own health to a counselor who realized she needed therapy, this episode dives into the heart of what it means to release guilt and shame around our stories. Together, Tami and Brittany unpack the emotional layers of midlife "crisis" (or awakening), the freedom in vulnerability, and how true healing begins when we stop trying to fix everything and start feeling everything.

They discuss how to process anger, redefine success, support other women without feeling like a burden, and hold space without becoming the “fixer.” The episode also explores spiritual signs, intuitive nudges, and the importance of safe spaces where hard conversations aren’t just normalized—they’re necessary.

Show Notes:

• 00:00 Introduction and Connection
• 07:03 The Importance of Safe Spaces in Relationships
• 11:05 Releasing guilt + shame around our stories
• 12:57 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Acceptance
• 15:53 Anger, midlife crisis & redirecting your life
• 18:58 Finding Joy Beyond Caregiving
• 19:24 Redefining success & embracing your own timeline
• 24:47 Breaking the Cycle of Shame and Abandonment
• 30:45 Spiritual Connections and Normalizing Vulnerability
• 36:54 Navigating Emotions and Intuition
• 44:32 Understanding Triggers and Communication
• 47:09 Holding space vs. Fixing
• 52:25 Learning from Missteps and Guilt
• 55:03 Breaking shame cycles around our bodies
• 57:49 Embracing the Messiness of Life

Whether you're deep in self-discovery, holding heavy emotions, or just trying to figure things out—this one's for you.

Episodes Mentioned:

• Jamie & Kevin: Episode #57
• Andrew Episode: Episode #42