Hey, Survivor!

In today’s episode, I break down the “recipe” behind narcissistically abusive relationships: the predictable blend of truth, lies, urgency, flattery, and psychological manipulation that keeps survivors stuck, confused, and doubting their own reality.

If you’ve ever wondered “How did I miss this?”, today’s episode will show you the answer: You didn’t miss anything — you were intentionally misled.

We’ll talk about trauma bonding, intermittent reinforcement, and cognitive dissonance… and why highly empathetic, intelligent, trustworthy people are targeted.

You’ll learn:

• The 6 “ingredients” narcissists use to manufacture trust

• Why mixing a little truth with a lot of lies is so effective

• How your nervous system gets trained to bond to chaos

• How to rebuild clarity using Dr. Sears’ L.E.A.N. pillars

• How to reframe shame, take back your power, and ground yourself in truth

Whether the narcissist in your life was a partner, parent, friend, coworker, or authority figure — this episode gives you the clarity and validation you deserve.

Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

💚Lesley

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Hey, Survivor!

In today’s episode, we uncover a tactic every survivor of narcissistic abuse needs to understand:

The narcissist will use you to woo.

Using your name… your reputation… your kindness… your credibility… even your faith language, scripture, or values — narcissists will borrow any part of your goodness to soften their manipulation and influence others. This is called borrowed credibility, and it’s rooted in coercive control.

I share a real story from the murder trial involving fake emails, spiritual guilt language, and reputation abuse — and we explore why survivors often miss this pattern until long after the relationship ends. We’ll dig into the psychology behind this deception and L.E.A.N. into healing.

This is a validating, grounding, empowering episode for anyone who has ever been used, misrepresented, or manipulated by someone they trusted.

You were the good one. You were the credible one. And the fact they borrowed your light shows how bright you shine.

Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

💚Lesley

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Hey, Survivor!

In this short Thanksgiving episode, I’m sharing a heartfelt message of gratitude for you — the one doing the hard healing work every single day. Whether your week is calm, complicated, or emotionally charged, this episode gives you three grounding tips for a peaceful holiday, especially if you’re navigating family dynamics, trauma memories, or feelings that surface this time of year.

Inside the episode, you’ll learn:

• How to protect your peace when old triggers or stressful people show up
• Why boundaries are a form of self-love (not selfishness)
• One simple grounding practice you can use in the car, at the table, or in the bathroom for a quick reset
• How gratitude supports trauma recovery without avoiding your real feelings
• A short, heartfelt message to remind you that you are worthy, growing, and not alone

Whether you’re spending this holiday week with others or keeping it quiet and cozy this year, this episode is your reminder that you deserve gentleness, rest, and joy — exactly as you are.

Know who you're dealing with. Know who you are.

💚Lesley

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