Name the two most powerful emotional energies to bring into a relationship. Joey says love isn't one of them.

Episode Summary

In this episode of The Connection Fix, host Joey Klein shares what he saw at a couples retreat in Montana, and why the first step in almost every relationship challenge isn't changing the other person.

You'll learn the three sides of every relationship, why you often don't need both people to begin, and discover why Joey would choose gratitude and compassion over love.

Question of the Day 🗣️

Honest answer: what emotional energy have you brought into your closest relationship over the last thirty days?

Key Take-aways

• Stop making the other person responsible for how you feel: most challenges start with your own state
• Put your attention on the one side of the relationship you actually control: you
• Ask the five-year question: if you fuel the relationship with this energy for five years, what happens?
• Change the stimulus the other person is responding to, even if they do nothing
• Manage the energy you bring and you can solve about 90% of the challenges in the relationship

Timestamped Outline ⏱️

00:00 - A couples retreat in Montana
00:47 - Manage yourself: where most challenges begin
01:49 - The relationship has three sides
02:41 - What high performers bring home without noticing
03:32 - The five-year question
04:15 - You don't need both people to begin
05:06 - Love isn't enough: gratitude and compassion
06:50 - Ninety percent comes first, and the other ten percent
08:28 - Start with your side
09:47 - One question to sit with

Links & Resources 🔗

• Issue 031, Another Million Dollars Won't Fix Your Marriage. But This Will -> https://youtu.be/Ie3gY54tNjc
• Issue 032, The Quiet Exit -> https://youtu.be/bgJdMYHKKuI
• Relationship Alchemy: A Practical Guide to Getting Along Well With Others (free copy, you cover shipping) -> https://relationshipalchemybook.com/
• The Connection Fix on the Blog -> https://joeyklein.com/the-connection-fix
• The Connection Fix Podcast (Spotify) -> https://open.spotify.com/show/3oMvTF6uHxAh5QQ8JezjEH
• The Connection Fix (full YouTube playlist) -> https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLuuZmMSR_HqdY8vE6a0Kv2gi8sEBXkEJt
• Subscribe to The Connection Fix -> https://theconnectionfix.com

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Credits

Host: Joey Klein
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