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"Forgiveness doesn't have to be you going to somebody and saying 'I forgive you.' Forgiveness is a choice you make." These powerful words from Mark Monplaisir cut to the heart of healing generational trauma in the Black community.

In this profound conversation, organizational psychologist and author Mark Monplaisir joins us to discuss his book "Strong Women, Fed Up Men, Defeated Sons, Broken Daughters: Healing Generational Pain." Mark shares his deeply personal journey of growing up without his biological father and the anger that consumed him until a therapist asked the transformative question: "Who are you punishing?" The answer wasn't his absent father—it was himself.

We explore how historical trauma from slavery continues to shape Black relationships today. Black men and women often view each other as sources of pain rather than partners in healing. Mark expertly breaks down how these dynamics play out in modern relationships, from expectations around providing and protecting to the different standards applied to interracial relationships. His guidance on moving from blame to understanding offers a pathway forward: "It's not your fault, but it is your responsibility."

The conversation dives into practical approaches to healing—creating safe spaces for vulnerability, practicing self-care without guilt, and engaging in honest dialogue with our children. Mark shares how he regularly asks his daughter, "What can I do to be a better dad?"—a simple yet powerful practice that transforms parent-child relationships. We discuss the balance between addressing structural barriers and taking personal responsibility for our healing journey.

Whether you're struggling with forgiveness, trying to break unhealthy relationship patterns, or seeking to create a healthier foundation for your children, this episode provides both the understanding and practical tools to move forward. Listen now and take the first step toward healing your generational pain.

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