In this episode, I share deeply personal stories about how giving a “marry me or lose me” ultimatum cost me the love and future I dreamed of. If you’re in a relationship, thinking about marriage, and feeling frustrated because your partner isn’t ready to commit, this video is for you. I explain why ultimatums backfire, how emotional blackmail damages relationships, and what you can do instead to move your relationship forward in a loving, constructive way. Whether you’re tired of being single, want to start a family, or are considering leaving your partner to motivate them, this honest conversation will help you avoid heartbreak and choose a healthier path to love and commitment.Sign up for Virtual Coaching with me: https://www.nydatingcoach.com/#RelationshipAdvice #Ultimatum #healthylove Chapters:00:00 Navigating Relationship Ultimatums01:19 Personal Regrets and Lessons Learned02:34 Why Ultimatums Don't Work03:20 My Biggest Mistake (Don't do this!)04:53 Our Relationship Lingered 07:25 The Impact of Ultimatums on Relationships08:28 My Story - Guy #209:07 If You've Never Felt This Way Before...10:14 What Ruined Our Relationship11:45 Attending a Wedding Can be BAD12:45 Commitment Issues13:56 One of my BIGGEST Regrets14:35 Don't Ignore Your Instincts!16:38 What to Do if you Want to Get Married17:09 Why Men Don't Respond to Ultimatums 17:47 Healthy Communication in Relationships18:00 Capping off My Story - Guy #218:45 What You Should Do (Not what I did!)20:21 How to Move Your Relationship Forward21:27 How to Get What You Want23:06 Don't Bail Out!24:06 Escaping the Relationship24:38 Moving Forward Without Manipulation25:37 Did you already give an ultimatum?Donna Barnes is an New York University Certified Love Coach, Breakup Specialist, Podcast Host, and Author of Giving Up Junk-Food Relationships: Recipes for Healthy Choices. https://amzn.to/3gFykPSThe TRUTH About Healing Your Broken Heart: My Online Course to virtually hold your hand and help you get over your ex: https://www.breakuprecoveryplan.com10+ HOURS of COACHING VIDEOS, QUIZZES, CHECKLISTS, & MORE