Are today’s teenagers really as disconnected, anxious, and screen-addicted as the headlines make them seem? In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, Cathy and Meredith take a more hopeful look at what is going well with this generation and why the kids really are alright. They discuss declining rates of risky behavior, the ways young people are becoming more open about mental health, and how today’s teens are often more comfortable talking about identity, inclusion, and social responsibility. They also explore how teenagers today are often more connected to their parents, more willing to have real conversations, and more interested in making a difference than simply chasing money or status. Tune in for an encouraging conversation about why parents, educators, and anyone working with teenagers should pause to notice what is working, and remember that there is still plenty of hope for the future.

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:01:25] The motivation behind today’s topic: what is going well with teens today.
• [0:03:03] How risky behaviors like drinking, drug use, sex, and teen pregnancy have declined.
• [0:06:01] Hear how teens are more open about mental health and learning differences.
• [0:06:43] Find out how teens are more aware of identity and inclusion.
• [0:08:13] Understand how young people see justice, equity, and accessibility.
• [0:09:24] Discover why teens see fewer barriers to investing and business.
• [0:10:34] Explore how the internet has helped teens find and create opportunities.
• [0:11:05] Learn why community engagement is common for many teens.
• [0:12:34] Unpack why teens today are closer to their parents.
• [0:14:58] Simple actions for parents to highlight their teen’s positive behaviour.
• [0:16:20] Uncover how college pressure can make parents overlook what is going well.
• [0:17:36] Why Cathy and Meredith feel hopeful about today’s teenagers.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

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One of the biggest parts of the college application process is the personal statement, and it has the potential to cause the most amount of stress for students! Today on Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, we are giving you a behind-the-scenes look into our Summer College Essay Intensive. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about why the states are high for this assignment, why we have decided to do a workshop to support students with their essays, what the workshop entails, and so much more! We delve into why we get students to look at case studies before breaking down the different ways Meredith and Cathy approach college essays and how they make such a great team. We even touch on the importance of making this essay personal and how we help the students make it unique. Finally, we explain why we make our students revise their essays multiple times until they’re strong personal statements that will help them get into college. To hear all this and find out how to join the workshop, be sure to press play now!

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:01:22] Today’s topic: Insight into the Summer College Essay Intensive.
• [0:03:40] Why we do a workshop for kids to help them with essay writing.
• [0:06:59] Breaking down the structure of this workshop from days one to four.
• [0:10:34] How we help the students come up with a topic and why it’s difficult.
• [0:16:00] Why Meredith and Cathy are the ‘Yin and Yang’ of college essay writing.
• [0:18:50] The importance of making this statement deeply personal.
• [0:23:36] Why the strength in essays comes out through repetition.
• [0:28:23] How to enroll your kids in the workshop.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Summer College Essay Intensive

Email us: hello@wespeakteen.com

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We’re told to pump up teens’ self-esteem—but that stuff is flimsy, more like a quick dopamine snack than a solid meal. One bad grade or missed hangout and poof, it’s gone. What actually sticks? Self-worth—the quiet, stubborn belief that they matter no matter what. Join Meredith and Cathy on today’s episode as they dig into managing a child who doesn’t seem to like themselves. They look at the difference between self-esteem and self-worth, unpack the signs of a child with an underdeveloped sense of self-worth, and share examples of how people-pleasing behaviors show up in adolescence. They also examine how well-meaning parenting can accidentally reinforce low self-worth and share thoughtful ways to help kids develop self-worth that holds steady through life’s ups and downs.

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:00:50] Introduction and welcome to another episode!
• [0:01:30] A thought exercise to kick off today’s topic.
• [0:02:40] Today’s focus: managing a child with low self-esteem.
• [0:03:45] The difference between self-esteem and self-worth.
• [0:06:50] Signs that a child has an underdeveloped sense of self-worth.
• [0:11:30] How people-pleasing behaviors can show up in adolescence.
• [0:13:45] Examples of parental participation that reinforce low self-worth.
• [0:19:25] Praising your child for who they are (not what they did/do).
• [0:20:00] What parents can do to build self-worth.
• [0:27:50] The importance of paying close attention to your child’s temperament.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Mental Health Red Flags (Episode with Cristina Perez)

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What is the difference between a good student and a good learner? Or are they the same thing? Today on Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, Cathy and Meredith unpack an article from the Harvard Gazette titled ‘What makes a good student’ and share their take on it. They explain that it’s not just about grades—especially with grade inflation—but about things like curiosity, integrity, and being open to different ideas. They also explore how integrity can look different in high school versus college, the importance of engaging with all the different aspects of your college experience, and what schools are really looking for in a student. They emphasize that a good learner is someone who takes risks, asks the right questions (and keeps asking them), and is someone who truly wants to understand more. The main takeaway is that real learning isn’t about perfect notes or staying busy; it’s about being engaged, thinking deeply, and genuinely wanting to grow.

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:00:49] Today’s topic of conversation: what makes a good student.
• [0:01:12] Why it’s important we talk about this.
• [0:02:20] Our thoughts on why integrity matters (and the reality of it).
• [0:04:45] Entering college without understanding what a college professor counts as cheating.
• [0:05:04] The importance of minding all the different parts of your college experience.
• [0:06:10] A key distinction between a good student and a good learner.
• [0:10:15] Cathy and Meredith share practical tips to inspire intellectual curiosity.
• [0:13:00] Why students should ask the right questions (on repeat!)
• [0:14:30] A willingness to engage with perspectives that aren’t the same as yours.
• [0:18:10] Confusing busyness with learning.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

‘What makes a good student’

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Did one awkward tour guide just cancel four years of opportunity? Is “The vibe was off” a valid reason not to apply? If you need some tips on navigating reasons your kids are ruling out colleges, then today’s episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You is for you! Join Cathy and Meredith as they talk listeners through the reality of the college process, the teenage brain, and ultimately, a list of (for lack of a truly better word) dumba** reasons kids give for not wanting to apply to certain colleges! They share practical advice on how to combat these reasons and highlight truths every student needs to hear as they navigate the journey to college. Thanks for tuning in!

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:00:45] Today’s hot topic: Dumba** reasons kids give for not liking a college.
• [0:02:16] The reality of the college process.
• [0:02:40] Dumba** reasons NOT to cut a school from your list.
• [0:07:30] The teenage brain: the importance of fitting in.
• [0:07:50] More dumba** reason for not liking colleges.
• [0:10:18] Combatting the duma**ery: prove it.
• [0:14:15] Reminding your students that college is (actually) school.
• [0:15:15] Asking kids to be rigorous when they’re evaluating colleges.
• [0:17:20] A peek into the frustrations of the teenage mind.
• [0:17:30] The big one: high school sweethearts.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

College Visits 101: Essential Tips & Do's/Don'ts for Parents and Teens

Are College Visits Necessary? The Real Impact of Campus Tours on College Choice

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Teenagers often overcomplicate the activities they participate in to impress colleges when, in reality, they can find something simple and meaningful that could be just as impressive, and in the process, they may actually discover a true passion. In this conversation, you’ll hear some real-life examples of a few of the interesting and ‘out-of-the-box’ things our students have done that they are passionate about and are compelling to colleges. From selling drawings of people’s pets for charity to helping a former teacher’s sister navigate ALS using technology, these examples are fascinating and inspirational! We even touch on a few activities our students have tried and failed at. Finally, we talk about purposeful and engaging things Cathy and Meredith are doing in their personal lives at the moment. You don’t want to miss this one, so be sure to tune in now!

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:01:19] Today’s topic: unique things teenagers are doing that are compelling to colleges.
• [0:04:01] Some real-life examples of cool things teens we know are passionate about.
• [0:14:06] A failed activity a student tried and how she overcame that obstacle.
• [0:16:17] Purposeful and engaging things we are doing in our own lives.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

College Visits 101: Essential Tips & Do’s/Don’ts for Parents and Teens

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Are you worrying about your high school student’s ability to be independent? You’re not alone! There are many things teenagers should be doing but aren’t, and they need to learn how to take care of themselves in order to be able to function without their parents when they go to college. In this episode of Sh*t Your Teenagers Won’t Tell You, Meredith and Cathy sit down to talk about a few of the things teenagers should be able to do, but often can’t. Tuning in, you’ll hear all about the importance of teaching teens to manage their time, budget, do their own laundry, advocate for themselves, and so much more! From packing for themselves for vacations to driving themselves around, this episode touches on so many things your high school students need to do alone to become functional members of society, so be sure to press play now!

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:00:00] Today’s topic: what teens should be doing but aren’t.
• [0:03:02] Why teens need to manage their time and drive themselves around.
• [0:05:33] The importance of teaching teens how to use household appliances.
• [0:07:52] Empowering teenagers to learn how to write their own emails.
• [0:09:30] Why teens need to learn to advocate for themselves when things go wrong.
• [0:11:45] The power of resilience and why teens should challenge themselves more.
• [0:13:18] Basic money management and budgeting for teenagers.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

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There is a lot of college admissions advice out there, and honestly? A lot of it is just wrong. In this episode, we’re calling some of it out. We get into the kinds of tips a lot of people think are useful, but don’t actually help. Like forcing or inventing opportunities for volunteering, chasing a single “passion,” or loading up on as many APs as possible. Instead, we talk about what really stands out: curiosity, trying things, changing direction, and showing genuine maturity. Because at the end of the day, admissions officers can tell the difference between what’s real and what’s performative, and that distinction matters more than most people realize.

Key Points From This Episode:

• [0:02:10] Why it’s important to discuss college admission advice that’s just wrong.
• [0:03:45] How not to help your child get volunteering experience.
• [0:06:53] Whether or not it’s actually important to have a passion.
• [0:08:19] Demonstrating leadership and maturity.
• [0:10:50] Why you don’t have to take as many APs as you can.
• [0:13:31] What really needs to go into an essay (and what doesn’t).
• [0:15:11] Meredith and Cathy’s four-day workshop on personal essays.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Inside the Yale Admissions Podcast

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