Love can be real, but life, circumstances, and bandwidth can make the timing impossible.

In this episode, Stacey has an honest conversation about timing, emotional capacity, and the grief of missed connections in relationships after 40.

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📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook

📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
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We often correlate sexual frequency with relationship stability, but the sex only tells part of the story.

In this episode, Stacey dismantles the notion that sex is a crystal ball for relationship health and longevity. While exploring the idea that lower frequency is sometimes an indicator of deepening emotional security.

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📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook

📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
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Humans seem to have a unique relationship with sex. It's often enmeshed with societal expectations, emotionality, and internal stories.

In this episode, Stacey explores the tension between our inherent biology and our need to make meaning and our struggles with sex and intimacy.

Resources related to this episode:

1. Bonobos, our evolutionary cousins who use sex as a social lubricant

2. Dolphins appear to use sex for social bonding

3. Chimps use sex for hierarchy and play