Sometimes exes come back into your life because they missed you. But there are times when they return because their life unraveled without the structure you provided..

In this episode, Stacey explores the difference between reconciliation and retreat. Between love and survival instinct. Knowing the difference can change everything.

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📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook

📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/

Most of us really believe we want honesty. But do we want the truth? Or do we just want to be agreed with?

In this episode, Stacey digs into the difference between honesty and the curated version many of us seek. And why it's essential to recognize the difference.

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📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook

📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/

What happens when a married man logs onto a dating app looking for sex, only to discover he's in search of something else?

In this episode, Stacey recounts a six-hour phone call with a stranger that unexpectedly delves into the nuance of intimacy.

Sometimes what we think we want hides what we really need.

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📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook

📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/

What if the sex you used to have wasn't better? Maybe it was just newer.

In this episode, Stacey explores why so many people measure their current sex life against a memory. And why memories are often more myth than reality.

Nostalgia has a way of retaining the heat. It chucks everything else.

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📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook

📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/

Sometimes sexual frustration has nothing to do with sex. It's not about frequency, chemistry, or who's initiating.

In this episode, Stacey explores how emotional disconnection shapes desire. And why relationships that look fine on the surface can still feel deeply unfulfilling.

This isn't about technique. It's about asking an uncomfortable question. Are you actually sexually frustrated… or emotionally dissatisfied?

Mentioned in this episode:

• Emotional Intimacy Improves Sexual Satisfaction

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📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
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Sometimes people cheat because they feel invisible to the person they're already with. It's not always about wanting someone new.

In this episode, Stacey gets into why some affairs stem from a lack of fulfillment rather than lust. Drawing on her history as both the cheater and the cheated on, she breaks down the loneliness that thrives inside relationships that look completely fine on the surface.

This isn't an excuse for breaking trust. It's about the harder question underneath it all. What are you actually hungry for?

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Contribution of Stressful Marital Interactions to Loneliness and Health across Mid-life and Later Adulthood

• AARP Survey: 40 Percent of Older Adults Are Lonely

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📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook

📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/

When people say they want to know you, they often mean they want to know the version of you that they are most comfortable with.

In this episode, Stacey explores the gap between authenticity and comfort. What we reveal, what we hold back, and why intimacy often requires more friction than we're willing to tolerate.

Because somewhere along the way, we learned that showing up fully was a risk not worth taking.

Mentioned in this episode:

1. Ryan Dunlap - Former hostage negotiator and founder of Conflictish. Check him out on Instagram or YouTube

2. Book: "How to Untie a Balloon" by Ryan Dunlap

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📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/

There's an unspoken rule in most relationships. Romance goes to the top of the pile. Everything else gets what's left over.

In this episode, Stacey questions that.

What happens when one relationship has to be all the things? Should your romantic partner shoulder your needs, fears, desires, and dreams? And what does that do to your sex life?

Mentioned in this episode:

1. Jerry Maguire (1996), directed by Cameron Crowe.

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📖 How Do I Tell Them I Have Herpes? A guide to having "the talk" without losing your cool (or your dignity). https://staceyherrera.com/herpesbook

📖 How to Give Amazing Head: 10 Easy Tips to Blow His Mind
https://staceyherrera.com/how-to-give-amazing-head/