What changes when we stop trying to fit in and start allowing ourselves to be who we really are? In this episode of The Choice Space Podcast, Dr Lee David talks with Liz Evans, The Untypical OT – occupational therapist, parent and advocate for neurodivergent families. They explore how to live authentically with dyslexia, the emotional impact of late diagnosis and the sense of relief that comes from finally understanding yourself.

They discuss how masking, perfectionism and shame can take hold when differences go unrecognised – and how self-acceptance, humour and simple strategies can restore balance. Liz shares her personal journey from struggle to strength, and the lessons she’s learned about parenting, belonging and building a life that works with, not against, the way her brain works.

A compassionate, grounded conversation for anyone learning to drop the mask and embrace difference – in themselves or someone they love.

What we cover

• Why late diagnosis brings relief, anger and unexpected grief
• The hidden toll of masking on mental health
• The shift to self-understanding and acceptance
• Practical tools to make everyday life easier
• Humour and flexibility in family life
• Letting go of perfection and owning strengths
• Belonging in neurodivergent communities

Key moments

00:00 Emotional rollercoaster of late diagnosis
02:40 What occupational therapy really means
06:33 Why joy and fun are essential occupations
10:12 Masking and shame
19:37 The Choice Pause – connection and acceptance
23:08 How honesty builds trust and connection
26:48 Anger and grief that come with understanding
32:27 Belonging, community and self-acceptance
38:29 Everyday tools to lighten the cognitive load
40:23 Two simple choices to carry forward

About the host

Dr Lee David is a GP, CBT therapist and author specialising in mental health and wellbeing. She is the founder of 10 Minute CBT and a podcast host sharing evidence-based tools for self-doubt, stress and everyday decision-making. Lee has written books on CBT, mindfulness and teen wellbeing, and speaks regularly at conferences and in the media. Away from work she enjoys running, hiking, singing in a choir and spending time outdoors with her family.
You can find Lee on Instagram, TikTok, and LinkedIn. You can find more about her books and wellbeing courses here.

About the guest

Liz is a dyslexic solo parent in a neurodiverse family and an occupational therapist. She helps neurodivergent parents protect against burnout through a neuroaffirming, trauma and sensory-responsive lens, supporting a shift from survival and overwhelm to greater calm and capacity. You can find Liz on Facebook, Instagram, and LinkedIn. She’s also the host of The Untypical Parent Podcast, for neurodivergent families finding their own way of doing things differently.

References

• J Child Psychol Psych 2025;66:1065
• Aust J Psychol 2024;76:2399114