Tricia Rose Stone interviews Kori Strobl about the difficulty of becoming more fully yourself when others react negatively, focusing on people-pleasing as “self-abandonment” driven by anxiety and other-referencing. Kori describes growing up emotionally unmet, learning to read and manage others to feel connection, and later realizing in a long relationship that her partner was clearly uninterested in growth; accepting this removed a villain-victim story and revealed a mismatch in needs. They discuss how people pleasers often bring empathy and positivity but withhold their own perspective, and how healing involves turning inward to feel emotions, pausing before responding, and reclaiming agency. Kori distinguishes setting boundaries (demanding others comply) from holding boundaries (knowing yourself, believing yourself, and taking responsibility for your actions). For dating, she advises moving slowly, prioritizing “capacity” revealed in tension over chemistry.

00:00 When Growth Disrupts

01:19 Kori’s People Pleasing Journey

02:49 Self-Abandonment and Anxiety

04:43 Origins in Childhood

05:38 No Villain Realization

08:28 What People Pleasers Add

10:47 Mismatch and Letting Go

13:35 Holding Boundaries and Agency

17:54 Practicing Inner Awareness

23:25 Daily Tools: Pause and Tend

26:21 Dating Chemistry vs Capacity

30:08 Course Links and Closing

31:12 Final Takeaways: Authentic Integration

Learn more about Kori Strobl here.

The host interviews Mariana Alvarez about rebuilding her life after a dramatic turning point in December 2020, when she sought a protection order and began divorce proceedings at 43 with two children during the pandemic. She lost access to a business she helped build because it was legally only in her husband’s name, leaving her with no job, no income, few assets, and ongoing custody and legal battles.

Mariana describes doing intense internal reflection to overcome bitterness, regain self-trust through small daily decisions, and later pursuing therapy once she felt stable. She rebuilt financially by returning to corporate accounting, then launched and grew a virtual accounting firm and later began coaching women—often in their 40s–50s and empty nesters—who feel unfulfilled and want clarity and meaning. She emphasizes women maintaining identity and financial independence, viewing partnership as shared leadership, and becoming the qualities they seek in future relationships.

00:00 When Life Falls Apart

01:26 The Breaking Point

02:33 Doing the Inner Work

05:29 Therapy and Self-Forgiveness

07:02 Finding Your North Star

08:49 Rebuilding Self-Trust

11:57 Career and Business Comeback

15:07 Financial Independence Lessons

16:54 Partnership and Identity

19:58 Dating After Divorce

22:54 Coaching Midlife Women

24:37 Advice to Her Past Self

25:54 Closing Takeaways

Learn more about Mariana here.

The episode reframes “becoming” in personal growth, arguing that the real work isn’t inventing a new self but giving yourself permission to live as the woman you already know you are. The host describes knowing, while working as an optometrist for 20 years, that the career wasn’t her upper limit, and explains how people can carry inner truth for months or years before feeling ready to act.

She explores the gap between knowing and action through everyday examples—texts, plans, boundaries, and alignment—and encourages asking “What feels true for me right now?” rather than chasing a constant “high vibe.” Using coaching, imposter syndrome, and self-worth as examples, she emphasizes practicing small, aligned choices—especially in ordinary moments like “2:00 PM on a Tuesday”—creating schedule wiggle room for inspiration, and prioritizing what lights you up, like her daily 20 minutes reading on the porch.

00:00 Rethinking Becoming

01:31 Permission to Be Her

02:53 Optometrist to Seeker

04:39 Small Steps Forward

06:20 Knowing Versus Doing

08:13 Dreams That Pull You

09:41 What Feels True

11:05 Practice Through Imposter

13:18 Tuesday Afternoon Choices

15:39 Joyful Micro Habits

16:22 Your One Thing

17:06 Final Takeaway and Invite

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