Tricia argues that people often postpone becoming their best selves until circumstances change, but real change begins with an identity shift and choosing to act like your future self now. She explains that confidence, relationship patterns, and success come from how you see yourself, not from external achievements, and cites a recent study linking vivid, connected future-self imagery to greater progress on self-selected goals.

Tricia encourages embodying this vision through small daily choices in areas like love, career, money, friendships, health, home, or creativity, noting that discomfort can be normal when adopting new patterns (illustrated by her shift from dating unavailable men to a secure relationship). She reframes midlife transitions as opportunities to redefine what you truly want and offers an exercise to identify one aligned choice to make this week, plus a free “lens shift” call.

00:00 Meet Your Future Self

00:28 Stop Waiting To Change

02:22 Identity Shift First

04:07 Make Choices Like Her

06:09 Discomfort Means Growth

08:37 Midlife Reframe Opportunity

10:15 Guided Future Self Exercise

12:13 Choose Her This Week

13:01 Wrap Up And Next Steps

Tricia Rose Stone interviews Kori Strobl about the difficulty of becoming more fully yourself when others react negatively, focusing on people-pleasing as “self-abandonment” driven by anxiety and other-referencing. Kori describes growing up emotionally unmet, learning to read and manage others to feel connection, and later realizing in a long relationship that her partner was clearly uninterested in growth; accepting this removed a villain-victim story and revealed a mismatch in needs. They discuss how people pleasers often bring empathy and positivity but withhold their own perspective, and how healing involves turning inward to feel emotions, pausing before responding, and reclaiming agency. Kori distinguishes setting boundaries (demanding others comply) from holding boundaries (knowing yourself, believing yourself, and taking responsibility for your actions). For dating, she advises moving slowly, prioritizing “capacity” revealed in tension over chemistry.

00:00 When Growth Disrupts

01:19 Kori’s People Pleasing Journey

02:49 Self-Abandonment and Anxiety

04:43 Origins in Childhood

05:38 No Villain Realization

08:28 What People Pleasers Add

10:47 Mismatch and Letting Go

13:35 Holding Boundaries and Agency

17:54 Practicing Inner Awareness

23:25 Daily Tools: Pause and Tend

26:21 Dating Chemistry vs Capacity

30:08 Course Links and Closing

31:12 Final Takeaways: Authentic Integration

Learn more about Kori Strobl here.

The host interviews Mariana Alvarez about rebuilding her life after a dramatic turning point in December 2020, when she sought a protection order and began divorce proceedings at 43 with two children during the pandemic. She lost access to a business she helped build because it was legally only in her husband’s name, leaving her with no job, no income, few assets, and ongoing custody and legal battles.

Mariana describes doing intense internal reflection to overcome bitterness, regain self-trust through small daily decisions, and later pursuing therapy once she felt stable. She rebuilt financially by returning to corporate accounting, then launched and grew a virtual accounting firm and later began coaching women—often in their 40s–50s and empty nesters—who feel unfulfilled and want clarity and meaning. She emphasizes women maintaining identity and financial independence, viewing partnership as shared leadership, and becoming the qualities they seek in future relationships.

00:00 When Life Falls Apart

01:26 The Breaking Point

02:33 Doing the Inner Work

05:29 Therapy and Self-Forgiveness

07:02 Finding Your North Star

08:49 Rebuilding Self-Trust

11:57 Career and Business Comeback

15:07 Financial Independence Lessons

16:54 Partnership and Identity

19:58 Dating After Divorce

22:54 Coaching Midlife Women

24:37 Advice to Her Past Self

25:54 Closing Takeaways

Learn more about Mariana here.

The episode reframes “becoming” in personal growth, arguing that the real work isn’t inventing a new self but giving yourself permission to live as the woman you already know you are. The host describes knowing, while working as an optometrist for 20 years, that the career wasn’t her upper limit, and explains how people can carry inner truth for months or years before feeling ready to act.

She explores the gap between knowing and action through everyday examples—texts, plans, boundaries, and alignment—and encourages asking “What feels true for me right now?” rather than chasing a constant “high vibe.” Using coaching, imposter syndrome, and self-worth as examples, she emphasizes practicing small, aligned choices—especially in ordinary moments like “2:00 PM on a Tuesday”—creating schedule wiggle room for inspiration, and prioritizing what lights you up, like her daily 20 minutes reading on the porch.

00:00 Rethinking Becoming

01:31 Permission to Be Her

02:53 Optometrist to Seeker

04:39 Small Steps Forward

06:20 Knowing Versus Doing

08:13 Dreams That Pull You

09:41 What Feels True

11:05 Practice Through Imposter

13:18 Tuesday Afternoon Choices

15:39 Joyful Micro Habits

16:22 Your One Thing

17:06 Final Takeaway and Invite

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On See Her Now’s season about authentic integration, the host interviews Lynda Leonce about shifting from a life built on “shoulds” to one guided by inner knowing. After 16 years in a successful IT career, marriage, and raising kids, Lynda felt persistent emptiness—“Is this all there is?”—and, after moving from New York to North Carolina in 2019, realized she’d been following an inherited script.

Through life and parenting coaching, retreats, meditation, and teachings from RJ Spina, she learned to parent herself, practice presence, notice triggers, and “delete” limiting conditioning by identifying the mind-made self versus the real self. She describes life now as more efficient and flow-based, with greater honesty in relationships and less concern about others’ opinions.

00:00 Authentic Integration Intro

01:13 Meet Lynda Leonce

01:59 Living the Should Script

04:46 The Quiet Unfulfillment

05:48 Moving to North Carolina

06:38 Parenting Yourself First

08:03 Clearing Conditioning Process

10:00 Presence and Spotting Triggers

11:56 Life in Flow Today

14:33 Relationships Without Approval

16:30 How Lynda Helps Others

18:45 Turning the Flashlight Inward

19:26 Final Reflections and Outro

Expanding the Gap: Choosing New Habits in the 10 Seconds Before You React

The episode recaps an “authentic integration” module about bringing a personal vision into daily life, noting that insight alone doesn’t change habits and that emotions like anger, anxiety, and self-doubt are messengers. The focus is the brief gap between trigger and response—“the 10 seconds before”—where choice exists, illustrated by repeatedly picking up a phone and losing time online despite intending to read, relax, or connect with friends. The speaker emphasizes that these actions are decisions and that progress can still occur even if you catch the pattern only after starting. Strategies include noticing sensations driving behavior, observing thoughts without reacting, asking what you’re avoiding, and choosing an alternative aligned with the desired version of yourself. Tools like bullet journaling, walking, gardening, and creative activities help redirect behavior. The episode ends with reflection questions about unhelpful habits, what precedes them, and what to do instead.

00:00 Recap & Introduction

03:14 The Gap Is Real

04:02 Breaking Down the 10 Seconds

06:18 Expanding the Gap

09:49 Reflection Questions

The host interviews author and teacher LiYana Silver about “authentic integration,” described as moving from fragmentation to wholeness by reclaiming parts of ourselves—especially for women—pushed away through socialization.

Silver shares her shift from self-judgment as a professional dancer and later a health crash that deepened her inquiry into emotions, using a dialoguing process that treats feelings like messengers with positive intention. They explore anger as signaling that something valued feels threatened, anxiety as powerful energy that can be channeled (including a story of a woman using it to leave an abusive marriage), and the cultural suppression of women’s desire.

Silver offers a body-based exercise to identify inner “yes/no” signals and distinguishes inherent worth from conditional worth sought through achievement, relationships, appearance, or approval, noting that inner self-regard shapes what love can “land.”

Learn more about LiYana Silver here.

00:00 Emotions as Messages

01:12 What Is Authentic Integration

02:45 Dancer Mirror Moment

05:38 Feminine Genius Journey

07:25 Blame to Anger Inquiry

10:36 Inside the Boundary

15:00 Sensation vs Story

18:00 Reclaiming Desire

21:28 Desire vs Expectations

23:23 When Desire Means Leaving

24:01 Bravery of Desire

24:35 Body Yes and No

26:25 Sensing Exercise

29:32 Finding Your Signature

31:06 Low Stakes Practice

33:17 Anxiety as Messenger

37:51 Worthiness Beyond Approval

41:16 Unconditional Self Regard

43:26 Books and Resources

45:44 Final Reflections

Tricia Rose Stone welcomes listeners to a new season of See Her Now focused on “authentic integration,” explaining that many people don’t have an information problem but an integration problem: vision shows where you’re going, but integration determines whether you arrive. She describes the “insight trap,” noting that consuming personal development creates awareness without changing entrenched patterns and systems, illustrated by an ant-trail metaphor and James Clear’s idea that people fall to the level of their systems. Through her True Lens Method, she helps women recognize inherited “lenses” shaping beliefs and choices, referencing Carl Jung on making the unconscious conscious and Bessel van der Kolk on the body’s continued responses. Change requires daily practice, nervous-system-friendly repetition, and small aligned decisions—supported by tools like bullet journaling—to embody a new identity. She closes with reflective questions, a call to follow/review, and an invitation to book a Lens Shift Call.

00:00 Why Insight Isn’t Enough

01:17 New Season Welcome

02:25 Vision to Integration

04:22 The Insight Trap

06:34 Ant Trail Patterns

08:49 True Lens Method

10:48 Becoming Future Self

13:51 Small Daily Choices

15:22 Tools and Examples

16:37 Wrap Up and Next Steps

17:12 Final Takeaway and Farewell