After a difficult behaviour incident, how do you rebuild your relationship with a pupil who's sworn at you, become aggressive or stormed out of your classroom? And whose responsibility is it to make the first move?

In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you'll discover why repairing adult-pupil relationships isn't just important for the child - it's also in your own professional interests. You'll learn why pupils who've experienced trauma, or who have certain SEND needs, may find it particularly difficult to reconnect after a confrontation, and why waiting for them to initiate that repair can make things worse.

You'll also discover four practical ways to rebuild your relationship with a pupil, including what to say the next time you see them, how to reconnect without a formal restorative conversation and how to maintain clear boundaries without damaging trust.

Plus: Why a pupil ignoring your attempts to reconnect doesn't necessarily mean relationship repair has failed.

Important links:

• Download our free SEND Handbook to help you support pupils with SEND.

Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts:

If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email support@beaconschoolsupport.co.uk to find out more.

What do the latest behaviour, SEND and attendance statistics actually tell us about what’s happening in schools?

In this episode, you’ll explore five recent figures that raise important questions about suspensions, SEND support, attendance and the pressures facing school staff. You’ll hear why headline data can hide what’s really happening underneath, why pupils on SEN Support may need closer attention and why behaviour data is most useful when it leads us to better questions rather than quick conclusions.

You’ll learn:

• Why primary suspension rates are moving differently to the national picture
• What the suspension figures for pupils on SEN Support and with EHCPs might be telling us
• Why attendance data for autistic pupils needs careful interpretation
• How wider pressures on staff and families affect behaviour in school
• Three questions school leaders can use to look beneath their own headline data

Important links:

Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook

Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php

Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts:

If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads and deputies move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email support@beaconschoolsupport.co.uk to find out more.

Does your class work well independently, but the moment you put them into groups, the noise goes up, chairs start scraping and everything begins to unravel?

Group work places more demands on pupils than we sometimes realise - from moving around the room and managing resources to remembering instructions, negotiating with other pupils and switching attention.

In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn five simple ways to make those transitions smoother and help pupils settle more quickly into group work.

You’ll discover:

• How to pretutor expectations before pupils start moving
• Why separating the transition from the task can make group work easier to manage
• How to make vague instructions like “settle down” more concrete
• Why practising routines when the stakes are low saves time later
• The often-forgotten routine that helps you bring the whole class back together

If group activities regularly turn a settled lesson into chaos, this episode will help you build routines that keep pupils focused on the learning.

Important links:

Get your copy of the Classroom Management Scoresheet: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/classroom-management-scoresheet

Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources

Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts:

If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads and deputies move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email support@beaconschoolsupport.co.uk to find out more.

Ever used your calmest voice with an upset pupil, only to find it winds them up even more? You’re trying to help, but somehow your calming strategy is making things worse.

In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll explore the difference between sounding calm and helping a pupil feel understood. Through a familiar classroom scenario, you’ll hear how well-intentioned responses can add pressure, and why showing some emotion can sometimes communicate more empathy than a perfectly soothing voice.

You’ll learn:

• Why being regulated doesn’t mean being emotionally flat.
• How to acknowledge a pupil’s frustration without fuelling their anger.
• Why the timing of breathing exercises and other calming strategies matters.
• Three questions to help you adapt your co-regulation approach to the pupil in front of you.

If this episode helps you see a pupil’s behaviour differently, share it with a colleague and subscribe for more insights into behaviour and SEMH in school.

Important links:

Get your FREE Beacon School Support guide to helping children manage their strong emotions

Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook

Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php

Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts:

If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads, deputies and MAT leaders move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email support@beaconschoolsupport.co.uk to find out more.

If pupils are marked present, but still spend large parts of the school day hiding in the toilets, wandering corridors or visiting the medical room – have you solved your internal truancy problem, or just moved it somewhere else?

In this episode, you’ll learn about emotionally based internal truancy, or EBIT - an informal way of thinking about pupils who make it into school but struggle to access the classroom.

You’ll discover how to balance safe toilet access with clear expectations around lesson attendance, why restricting access may treat the symptom rather than the cause and how the MAP process can help schools identify what’s driving internal truancy and put the right support in place.

Important links:

Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook

Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php

Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts:

If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads and deputies move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email support@beaconschoolsupport.co.uk to find out more.

Have you ever taught a pupil who produces excellent work most of the time, but becomes overwhelmed, angry or tearful after making one tiny mistake? Perfectionism can look like a positive quality from the outside, yet it may be hiding intense anxiety underneath.

In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn why some perfectionist pupils are more vulnerable to dysregulation and how to distinguish healthy high standards from a fear-driven need to avoid mistakes.

You’ll also discover the two different motivations behind perfectionism, what research tells us about anxious pupils’ responses to errors and practical ways to help them tolerate mistakes, recover and carry on.

Important links:

Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook

Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php

Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts:

If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads and deputies move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email support@beaconschoolsupport.co.uk to find out more.

Why do some pupils smile, deny what happened, blame someone else or become angry when they're challenged about their behaviour?

Sometimes, what looks like defiance or a lack of remorse may actually be a defence against shame.

In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you'll learn:

- The important difference between guilt and shame - and why it matters for behaviour

- Why shame doesn't always look like shame, and can sometimes appear as smiling, blame, denial or aggression

- How shame can contribute to a cycle of dysregulation and escalating behaviour

- Why understanding the need behind behaviour doesn't mean removing boundaries or accountability

- Four practical ways to respond that reduce shame and make it easier for pupils to take responsibility, repair relationships and move forward

If you support pupils who become defensive, angry or dysregulated when they're corrected, this episode will help you understand what might be causing it - and respond effectively.

Important links:

Get our FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/send-handbook

Download other FREE behaviour resources for use in school: https://beaconschoolsupport.co.uk/resources.php

Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts:

If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads and deputies move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email support@beaconschoolsupport.co.uk to find out more.

Some pupils never put their hand up. They never admit they’re stuck. But then they fall behind while everyone assumes they’re coping.

In this episode of School Behaviour Secrets, you’ll learn why asking for help can feel threatening for some pupils and the hidden coping strategies they use instead - from copying others’ work to trying to become invisible in the classroom.

You’ll also discover the simple SAFE approach for understanding why pupils stay silent, and how the PAIN Framework can help you uncover the needs driving their behaviour so you can respond in a way that makes asking for help feel safer.

Important links:
Download the FREE SEND Behaviour Handbook

Free, in-person training session for MATs and trusts:

If your school leaders are spending too much time firefighting SEMH needs, we’d like to help. We offer free, in-person training to help heads and deputies move from reacting to SEMH problems to having a clearer, strategic approach across their schools. Just provide the venue and leaders from at least 15 schools - and we’ll do the rest. Email support@beaconschoolsupport.co.uk to find out more.