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Matt provides and update on the status of the Men's Retreat and the lack of accountability. We talk about the excuses, the missing paperwork, the pattern of complaints, and why “no official membership” is not a real barrier to removing unsafe participants. We continue to look into what community safety should look like in any nonprofit or trauma-adjacent space This could be accomplished by a code of conduct, an orientation that sets expectations, real consequences, and leaders trained to handle risk rather than bury it. We also share practical tools for holding your ground, including documentation, escalation paths, and when it makes sense to involve outside oversight.

Then we pivot into a relationship dynamic we keep seeing: the weaponization of therapy language. We break down why “my therapist said you’re X” can be manipulative, how ethical therapists think about one-sided stories, and how to respond in a way that brings the conversation back to ownership and honest boundaries. If you’ve ever felt pressured by borrowed authority, this will give you words for what’s happening and a clearer next step.

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Special thanks to Joanna Roux for editing help.
Special thanks to the listeners and all the wonderful people who helped listen to and provide feedback on the episode's prerelease.


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