There’s a certain kind of quiet that lives in grief — especially when you’re young.

Especially when you’re already feeling like the outsider.

Especially when no one’s listening.

This week on Come Back To Earth, I talk with singer-songwriter Alexia Avila, who started writing music as a teenager — not for fame or attention, but for survival. After losing her father, navigating bullying, and dealing with mental health struggles that left her feeling misunderstood and alone, she turned to songwriting not just as expression… but as reclamation.

Her first finished song, “My Way,” became an anthem. A declaration. A musical letter to herself that said: “You’re allowed to be here. You’re allowed to speak.”

Before our conversation, I reflect on “Lose You to Love Me” by Selena Gomez — a song about stepping back into your own light after the world tries to dim it. It’s not about triumph. It’s about truth. And Alexia’s story holds that same softness and strength.

In this episode, we explore:

* How music gave her a voice when the world refused to listen

* The emotional weight of being excluded and unseen as a young person

* Her grief journey after losing her father

* What it means to create from a place of pain — and still find beauty there

* And how she continues to support others by sharing her own healing out loud

This episode is for the ones who’ve ever had to write their way back to themselves.

About Alexia:Alexia Avila is a singer-songwriter whose music is rooted in personal truth and emotional resilience. Her single “My Way” speaks to her journey through loss, mental health, and the power of using art to reclaim your story. You can find her music and more on Instagram at @songsbyalexia.

If this episode gave you something to hold onto:Send it to someone who’s learning to speak again.Or better yet — send them a song.

Mentions & Links:

* “Lose You to Love Me” by Selena Gomez

* Alexia’s music: @songsbyalexia

* Theme music by: Lincoln Parish

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