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The relationship we have with ourselves is the foundation from which all others rise. In this thought-provoking conversation with Jonathan Boncek, we explore how self-love, authentic vulnerability, and emotional awareness are not just healing tools—but the very ground from which we grow and rise into healthier, more connected relationships.

Jonathan shares his powerful personal evolution from photographer to practitioner of Rapid Transformational Therapy—a modality that blends hypnotherapy, CBT, and neuro-linguistic programming. He explains with clarity and compassion how the way we speak to ourselves shapes the lives we lead. “Speak to yourself like you're speaking to your five-year-old self,” he encourages, “with encouragement, support, and the most unconditional love you can.”

Together, we rise into a deeper conversation on male vulnerability—why it’s been resisted, how it shows up in the body, and what it means to reclaim emotional expression as a form of strength. With his metaphor of becoming “a warrior in a garden rather than a gardener in a war,” Jonathan invites us to rise out of survival mode and into grounded, compassionate presence.

We also explore rising in romantic and platonic relationships—releasing the myth that another person completes us, and instead honoring relationships as sacred spaces where two whole people rise alongside one another, witnessing and supporting each other’s growth. Jonathan offers practical tools for recognizing emotional cycles, setting boundaries, and knowing when to speak and when to simply hold space.

Perhaps most transformative is Jonathan’s invitation to look in the mirror, meet your own eyes, and say “I love you” until you feel it. This rising into self-love is where it all begins. As he reminds us, “The way you speak to yourself will become the way the world speaks to you.”

Ready to rise in your relationship with yourself—and others? Listen now and rediscover why your softest truths may be your greatest strength.

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