In this emotionally charged episode of Redefining Family host Jonathan shares his personal journey of redefining family dynamics, resonating deeply with guest Sam Lantz’ story. Sam bravely opens up about his realization of his sexuality in his teens and the profound struggles he faced in coming to terms with it.

Growing up in a Mormon family, Sam grappled with conflicting emotions and societal pressures. Despite having a large family, he now only maintains contact with a few siblings due to their inability to accept him for who he is. Sam's decision to distance himself from his mother was an act of self-preservation, shielding himself from further emotional harm.

The pain of losing his closest friend to homophobia and battling with suicidal thoughts paints a poignant picture of Sam's journey to self-acceptance. Through sheer determination, he found the strength to overcome his darkest moments, realizing that his happiness should not come at the expense of others' prejudices.

Sam's narrative takes a hopeful turn as he shares the joy of finding love with his husband and reconnecting with family members who have embraced their own LGBTQ+ children. Despite a turbulent past, Sam's story is a testament to resilience and the power of love to conquer adversity.

As the episode concludes, Sam offers a reflection on his experience of being a contestant on Netflix Squid Games, sharing behind the scenes looks and what he learned about himself through the process.

Welcome to this week's episode of "Redefining Family"! Join Jonathan as he sits down with Jake and Sean Taylor-Baumann for a heartfelt conversation about their journey of growing up gay in Utah and navigating the complexities of identity and family.

Jake opens up about the challenges of reconciling his sexuality with his Mormon upbringing, sharing the pivotal moments of realization and eventual acceptance. He reflects on the years spent keeping his true self hidden until finding the courage to come out as an adult, a decision catalyzed by meeting his now-husband, Sean.

Sean shares his own experiences of grappling with his sexuality from a young age, recounting the struggles of trying to conform to societal expectations of masculinity while knowing his truth. He candidly discusses the reactions of his parents upon coming out and the transformative moment of meeting Jake at 19.

The couple delves into the complexities of their relationship, including a temporary breakup spurred by conflicting beliefs about faith and love, ultimately reaffirming their commitment to each other. They also share the emotional rollercoaster of their surrogacy journey, from the heartbreak of miscarriage to the overwhelming joy of expecting triplets.

Amidst the challenges, Jake and Sean offer a message of resilience and hope, reminding listeners that even in the darkest moments, there are brighter days ahead. Tune in as they redefine what it means to create a family rooted in love, acceptance, and unwavering determination.

Welcome to the first episode of Season 3! Today, Jonathan shares his personal journey of building his family outside of his blood relatives. He discusses the pivotal moment when he decided to let go of his 18 blood relatives, marking the beginning of his freedom journey.

Joining Jonathan is his lifelong friend D. D has been a constant source of support for Jonathan through his darkest times.

Jonathan opens up about the challenges he faces in maintaining relationships with his niece and nephew, despite their efforts to reach out. He also reflects on the complexity of familial bonds and the difficulty of reconciling past hurts.

D asks Jonathan if he sees any possibility of reconciling with his father. Jonathan expresses uncertainty, recognizing the weight of his father's decisions.

The conversation shifts to Jonathan's lifelong desire to become a parent, viewing it as the ultimate teaching role. They discuss the significance and challenges of Jonathan contemplating single parenthood.

Join us next time as we continue to explore Jonathan's journey of self-discovery and the evolution of his journey.

On this week's episode of Redefining Family, Jonathan has the pleasure of speaking with his old friend Jonathan Goldstein and his daughter Madi Goldstein. At seventeen, Madi came out to Jonathan and his wife as transgender. Since then, they have not only supported her, but have become advocates for her and the trans and queer communities.

Jonathan discusses the realization him and his wife had that Madi was struggling with her gender identity. Madi explains that she felt a disconnect with her mind and body, which made her feel so very isolated. With the support of her family, Madi is thriving and finally feels like she belongs. Madi also talks about finding community and support online, and Jonathan discusses advice he has for parents of trans and queer children.

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More About The Goldsteins

Jonathan and his wife have been married for over 20 years and are the proud parents of two amazing kids. Madi who is 18 and Micah who is 16. In addition to parenting two amazing teenagers, Jonathan has been a youth group advisor to temple youth groups affiliated with the North American Federation of Temple Youth (NFTY) off and on since 1998. When he is not attending youth group events, Jonathan can be found at his synagogue where he is a Cantorial Soloist. But, more often you can find him managing the Energy & Utility Practice at CG Infinity.

This week on "Redefining Family," Jonathan interviews internationally recognized and award-winning musician and composer Blake Allen. Blake was raised Mormon and came out to his blood related family at 18 years old, which at the time, did not go over very well. However Blake explains that since then, him and his parents have learned to love each other in the way that they know how, even after he stepped away from the Mormon church.

Blake also opens up about how in college, the suicide of a friend took him through a really dark time in his life, and how he then decided to live his truth and not be afraid of telling his family, and the world, who he really was.

Blake is now married to political drag champion Marti Gould Cummings, and his father even walked him down the aisle! While Blake and his family are examples of how blood relatives can eventually come around, it is always your choice if you choose to let them back in and to also have boundaries and decide the kind of relationship you want to have with them.

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About Blake Allen

Blake Allen, PhD(c) is an internationally recognized, award-winning composer, musician, orchestrator, and educator. Allen has performed on and off Broadway and at many major music halls around the country including Carnegie Hall, Dr. Phillips Center, Strathmore Music Center, Kennedy Center, as well as on and off Broadway.

Allen has 4 chart-topping albums, with his autobiographical musical-opera the shards of an honor code junkie (#1 Classical Charts and the #1 new cast album on Billboard) garnering 4 million streams. He currently is traveling around the globe with RuPaul’s Drag Race star, Tina Burner, as their music director and collaborator, with their latest show Mix Queen: A Relationship Mixtape topping the comedy charts. Allen also frequently can be heard performing viola with the New York City Ballet and on the Seven Seas on VACAYA with their spouse, Marti Gould Cummings.

This week on Redefining Family Jonathan opens the episode talking about the very scary state of our country and worries for our future.

Jonathan then interviews Robert Oliver, LGBTQ advocate, political organizer, and is also running for the West Hollywood City Council. Robert opens up about always knowing he was gay but also feeling like an outcast. Robert was raised in a reform, Jewish family, that was very accepting, and he explains the amazing values that were bestowed upon him, like doing a Mitzvah.

Jonathan and Robert then talk about the fact just because you are related to someone, it does not mean that you should accept abuse from them. Robert explains that self-esteem comes from estimable acts, it comes from within.

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About Robert Oliver

Robert is a passionate activist and political organizer. Coming from a family of immigrants who fled persecution, Robert has always felt a personal responsibility to fight injustice against anyone. After coming out at 14, Robert took to the streets, organizing for marriage equality and LGBT rights, and against the Bush-era wars. As a student, he worked full-time on the No on Proposition 8 campaign, as well as Pacific Pride Foundation, Santa Barbara’s LGBTQ Center. His professional career also includes working for a U.S. Senator, a Los Angeles City Councilmember, and the LA Jewish Federation.

Along with his husband and their adopted bulldog-mix, Robert lives in West Hollywood, where he previously served on the West Hollywood Lesbian and Gay Advisory Board, and represented West Hollywood on the LA County West Vector Control District Board. Robert currently serves on the city’s Public Safety Commission, where he has been an advocate for reimagining policing and public safety, as well as underrepresented members of the community. Robert is running for West Hollywood City Council in the November 2022 election.

This week on "Redefining Family" Jonathan opens the episode by discussing the devastating overturn of Roe Vs. Wade and where we go from here.

He is then joined by Laura-Rose Thorogood. Laura-Rose Thorogood, the founder of the LGBT Mummies , which is an organization based in the UK but provides support worldwide for LGBTQ women wanting to start a family. Laura-Rose did not officially come out until she was 29 years old due to a lot of self-loathing and trying to understand her identity. After she met her wife, they decided to go on a fertility journey, which was difficult to say to least. She discusses their struggles with IVF as lesbians and how they powered through and went on to have five beautiful children.

Laura-Rose shares the struggles not only lesbians, but trans and non-binary individuals face, not only with fertility, but with discrimination in those areas as well.

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About Laura-Rose Thorogood

Laura-Rose Thorogood is a married lesbian mother of five children by IUI through a fertility clinic. Finding a lack of support, information & community when she & her wife started their path to parenthood, they decided to set up an organization to provide just that. She is the Founder of The LGBT Mummies , a global organization that supports LGBT+ women & people on the path to parenthood. She is an LGBT+ Family Activist, Fertility & Mental Health Advocate & Campaigner for Policy Change for LGBT+ families globally. She works directly with the NHS, & other global organizations & the UK Government to improve policies, support & visibility of LGBT+ families on the path to parenthood through pregnancy, birth & general healthcare.

https://lgbtmummies.com

This week Jonathan speaks with Arsham Parsi, an Iranian LGBT human rights activist living in exile in Canada. Arsham discusses when he first realized he was gay and what it was like growing up in Iran knowing he was different.

Arsham discusses the consequences of being gay in Iran, fleeing the country and how his family had to flee soon after. He also discusses his relationship with his family, what his life has looked like since he had to flee Iran, and all of the work he does to help others like him.

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About Arsham Parsi

Arsham Parsi is an Iranian queer rights activist who was born in Shiraz, the largest city in the Islamic Republic of Iran.

He is the founder and head of the Iranian Railroad for Queer Refugees an international non-profit organization based in Toronto, Canada that is helping Iranian queers and those who escaped Iran on the basis of their sexual orientation, gender identity and expression.

He is currently living in exile in Canada, but whilst still living in Iran in 2001 he started Rangin Kamin (Rainbow Group), a group for LGBTQ Iranians which he later renamed Persian Gay and Lesbian Organization, and then again as the Iranian Queer Organization (IRQO). Because homosexuality is illegal in Iran and can be punished with death, Parsi registered the organization in Norway and kept most of his LGBTQ activism to online spaces, where he operated a chatroom for queer Iranians.

Parsi himself fled to Turkey in 2005, claimed refugee status, and was eventually resettled in Toronto, where he founded a new organization, the International Railroad for Queer Refugees (IRQR).

The organization assists LGBTQ refugees who have fled their home countries because of their identities and are currently living in Turkey. The organization provides food, shelter, guidance, and education until they are eventually resettled.

His work has earned him several human rights awards including the 2008 Felipa de Souza Award from the International Gay and Lesbian Human Rights Commission and the 2008 Pride Toronto Award.

His 2015 book, Exiled for Love: The Journer of an Iranian Queer Activist, chronicles Parsi’s incredible journey from his first understanding of his sexual orientation to his eventual exile. It explores the reality for LGBT people in Iran through his personal experiences.