Most people wear a mask.

Michael doesn’t.

In this episode of Real Unfiltered Dad Journeys, we strip away the polished version of fatherhood and talk about what life actually looks like.

From quitting alcohol and being diagnosed with ADHD and autism as an adult, to working in disability support, raising two daughters, dealing with grief, and rebuilding yourself one decision at a time—nothing is off limits.

We talk about the conversations men usually have behind closed doors: purpose, marriage, mental health, identity, and what it takes to become someone your kids can genuinely look up to.

No fake motivation. No pretending we’ve got it all figured out. Just two dads talking honestly about the wins, the failures, and everything in between.

In this episode:

* Why Michael walked away from alcohol

* Being diagnosed with ADHD & autism as an adult

* The reality of working in disability support

* Fatherhood beyond the clichés

* Marriage, purpose and becoming a better man

* Grief, mortality and making peace with life

* Mental health and why more men need to talk

If you’re a dad—or simply trying to become a better man—this conversation is for you.

Real stories. Real conversations. Real Unfiltered Dad Journeys.

Six months into fatherhood, Ben is already asking the big questions:

What kind of man do I want my son to remember?

From screaming babies and relationship pressure to business stress, burnout, cold showers, routines, and rebuilding yourself — this episode is raw, honest, and deeply reflective.

We talk about:

* Why fatherhood exposes who you really are

* Using kids as fuel instead of excuses

* Entrepreneurship and family balance

* Health, habits, discipline, and identity

* Becoming the “rock” for your family

* Why dads need to work on themselves too

No fake “perfect dad” nonsense.

Just two dads talking honestly about life, pressure, growth, and trying to become better humans.

Steve reconnects with Gary after more than 20 years—and the conversation gets real fast. Gary doesn’t sugarcoat anything: he became a dad in his mid-20s while serving in the Navy, spent long stretches away at sea, and later disappeared from his kids’ lives for years after a messy divorce. His words, not anyone else’s—“I was a crap dad.” No excuses.

They dig into what that actually feels like: guilt that never fully leaves, missed years you can’t get back, and the strange mix of pride and pain when you see your kids turn out well without you there. There’s a powerful moment where Gary talks about being pulled into the front row at his son’s wedding—feeling seen, but also carrying the weight of everything that came before.

The episode also hits hard on work and burnout. Gary shares how stress broke him to the point he’d get dressed for work… then spend the day hiding in the cinema. That moment forced a complete reset—he walked away from employment, built his own business, and started living on his terms.

Now? He’s softer. Kinder. More intentional. He talks about small things—making a proper cup of tea, watching birds, saying hello to strangers—and why they matter more than chasing status or money. His rule is simple: just be the nicest person in the room.

This is a raw conversation about masculinity, regret, and growth. About owning your mistakes without hiding. About aging without pretending you’ve got it all figured out. And about one honest hope:

That even if you got it wrong…

people might still say—you tried.

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Three guys. Three decades of life. One brutal truth: if you don’t take care of yourself, life will chew you up.

This episode gets real about fitness, discipline, burnout, and the mental chaos most people pretend isn’t there. No polished influencer bullshit—just honest stories from the trenches. From a Bronx upbringing shaped by survival, to lifelong sport and aging bodies, to someone who did nothing for years and finally hit a breaking point.

They talk about:

* Why most people fail at the gym (and it’s not what you think)

* The real reason you stop training—and how to fix it

* Injuries, ego, and the lie of “pushing through”

* Training as survival, not aesthetics

* How discipline can literally hold your life together

* Why your “why” keeps changing—and that’s normal

This isn’t about six-packs or social media flexing.

It’s about staying sane, staying functional, and not becoming someone you don’t recognize.

Some days you lift heavy.

Some days you just stretch.

Some days you barely show up.

But showing up—even when you don’t feel like it—that’s the whole game.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, burnt out, or like you’ve lost control of your body or your head…

This one’s for you.

What happens to a man when fatherhood doesn’t look anything like he imagined?

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Bo, a 33-year-old dad from Kansas City who has spent the last seven years living on high alert.

His son Elgin suffered a severe brain injury at birth and requires 24-hour care. Every day, Bo watches oxygen levels. Every night, he sleeps beside a monitor that could change everything in a second, keeping in mind this is after tragically losing his daughter 1 year before Elgin was born.

But this isn’t just a story about special needs parenting, it’s more than that.

It’s a story about identity. About losing a child and still choosing to love again. About radical acceptance when life doesn’t bend. About loneliness, exhaustion, fear — and the quiet, relentless decision to stay in the ring and fight

Bo speaks with brutal honesty about what it costs to keep showing up… and why he refuses to walk away from the ring.

There are times when I feel we forget the mic is on and Bo says ‘I need him more than he needs me’. It felt like something went off for me, he was right and I think so many parents would think the same, but not say out loud… such a brave dad on all levels.

This episode is for any dad who has ever felt overwhelmed, unseen, or stretched to his limits. It’s about resilience, perspective, and the kind of strength that doesn’t shout — it just stays.

Check out Bo’s social media and get into how he does life… it’s real unfiltered dad journeys.

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In this episode of Real Unfiltered Dad Journeys, I sit down with my longtime friend Phil for one of the most open and honest conversations we’ve ever had. We explore how his understanding of fatherhood has shifted from “protector and provider” to “guide and guardrails,” and how walking, silence, and self-reflection have become essential tools for staying grounded. Phil speaks candidly about triggers, patience, the pressure to financially “ring-fence” his family, and the fear of not being around long enough for his kids. At the heart of our conversation is a powerful reminder: even the toughest moments of parenting are still a privilege.

In this episode, I talk with Aaron — a devoted dad to his seven-year-old son, Noah, who is neurodiverse. Arran opens up about a social-media post he made after a school rejected a child with autism, sparking a powerful discussion on inclusion and the importance of understanding neurodiversity rather than labeling it.

He shares how fatherhood has transformed his outlook — teaching him patience, empathy, and the value of seeing the world through his son’s eyes. We discuss the pressures men face to meet expectations, and how true success as a dad isn’t about achievements but being emotionally present and consistent.

Arran also talks about the role of physical and mental health in showing up for family, challenging the stigma around therapy, and encouraging fathers to seek support. We close by reflecting on legacy, resilience, and the quiet strength it takes to keep growing — for ourselves and for our kids.

Arran’s Podcast - Breaking the mask

https://open.spotify.com/show/0qzSSJxxkO8FkVYVMWzFjR?si=y1A-vBwjQueZRAUDhwY1-w

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In this heartfelt conversation, Bryan opens up about his journey as a father of four—Virginia, Dexter, and twins Celia and Ben. From the earliest days of medical challenges, including cancer diagnoses, surgeries, and a liver transplant, to the sudden heartbreak of losing his wife and partner of 25 years, Bryan shares his story with honesty and vulnerability.

We talk about what it really means to be present for your kids, how grief reshapes the way you see life, and why expressing love—out loud and often—matters so much. Bryan also reflects on the weight of tough conversations about mortality, the importance of mental health support, and the need to give ourselves permission to heal at our own pace.

This episode is a powerful reminder that behind every family is a story of resilience, love, and struggle. Bryan’s words will leave you thinking about how we show up for the people we care about—and why empathy and connection matter more than ever.

This conversation with Bryan was had earlier this year and he has been battling like anything to keep going. Recently he has shared that he is really struggling, not only with finances but also his own demons - alcohol.

The following is a direct copy of his post on his social media

“I feel like a piece of crap for doing this and I wouldn't be doing it unless I was out of options.

Over the past 8 months we've gone through a lot of change, unwanted growth, trying to fit in, in our new world attempting to see a future without Leslie Paige. During this time normal day to day operations have for the most part halted.

Finding myself in a mountain of debt, medical bills, depression, anxiety, kids who need stronger support than their weak father and me buried under empty bottles of Gin. 95% of this is my fault. Leslie was always the money and insurance manager. I know I'm losing the prior because of my lack of knowledge of the latter.

Im taking the first step towards my recovery from alcohol, but it is costly. I also found out that we may be charged the full amount for Ben's tablet($18,000)

I know everyone is tired of hearing my sob stories (and i can't say that | blame you ), "woe is me" ( paraphrasing a relative ) but my family and I can use the help. Even if it's just good company and a meal together. I appreciate everything you all have already done and I feel like a schmuck asking for more. Share if you want. Thanks again.

Truly undeserved of you all's support and love .

Love, Bryan”

https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-the-hughan-familys-journey-to-healing