Your name denotes who you are. Certain names, when said out loud, elicit a certain reaction: Elvis, Queen Elizabeth, Mother Teresa. A name identifies a person.

Knowing God's character helps us to know our identity. Why is it important we know God's character and our identity? Simply put, it impacts how we see ourselves, others and the world. It also impacts our thoughts, words and actions. Finally, it impacts our relationships!

Chris and Christina go into deep discussions about the importance of knowing God's character, trusting His character and how that helps us know our true identity.

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Recently, Chris and Christina experienced the loss of a man they did not know well however, their daughter was especially close to. As they watched their daughter and her friends navigate grief, they share some practical ways in which you can support others as they go through grief.

There are all kinds of grief, but today Chris and Christina will focus on the grief of losing a loved one to death.

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Why is mentoring so important? Chris goes solo today as he talks about why it's so important for a trusted mentor to open up conversations to discover what people are really dealing with!

So the question begs to be asked, what are people really dealing with:

• depression, sexual identity, anxiety, insecurity, fear of the future, shame from the past, stress in the present
• unhealthy expectations in work, church, education or family can play a part as well.

Most of us deal with things in our own way. However, many of us don't have a trusted mentor to discuss those things that we are dealing with that we may never open up about.

Chris gives some practical tips and suggestions on how to approach people to get them to open up about what they are really dealing with.

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Most people work or volunteer on some sort of team and as a team, we want to work well together and have success. In today's episode, Chris talks with Nate Brewer. He helps TEAMS in Businesses that are unproductive and feeling drained find out what kind of work brings them the most joy and energy so they can work better together.

In this episode Nate will talk about the importance of understanding tensions in teams and how to discover balance and unity so teams are healthy and strong.

He will discuss what is called the Five Fold Training and how each role is necessary and significant: Teacher, Shepherd, Evangelist, Prophet, Apostle.

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Nate's Contact Info:

Nathan@fivefoldtraining.com

www.fivefoldtraining.com/eng/

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Chris and Christina originally aired a podcast called The Three Levels of Motivation (Season 3 Episode 25 on Feb. 7 airdate). While it was helpful we did receive some feedback that made us think there may be more to the story. That’s the reason for today’s podcast with Rob Schrader.

Here's a review of The Three Levels of Motivation:

1. Reference: Beyond Weight Loss Documentary by Keith Klein, Certified Clinical Nutritionist
2. Motivation Types
   1. Level One: Fear Based Motivation. It gets your attention but it’s not lasting. Example: Spouse says you have to stop drinking or they will leave.
   2. Level Two: Feedback Based Motivation. Example: Someone compliments you on weight loss
   3. Level Three: Intrinsic Based Motivation
      1. Definition of intrinsic: innate, inborn, comes from within
      2. Change from having to do something to wanting to do it.
      3. Example: Want to get healthy to be around for future grandchildren.

While all these are good this is where Rob steps in with The Fourth Motivation: Love-based motivation. Every other type previously mentioned is inherently selfish and self-serving. Biblically, the highest form of motivation is other-serving, it's motivated by love for another. Our sin nature is self-serving and our culture is centered around the individual and the self.

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Today Chris and Christina tackle the complex topic of compassion fatigue.

What is it?

What are the signs you have it?

Who gets it?

What leads to it?

How do you cope with it?

How can you keep from falling into it?

This two part series will answer all those questions and more!

References from today's episode:

Canadian Medical Association Article

Boys and Girls Clubs of America Article

Today's sponsor: Lori E Kenney, CPA

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Today Chris and Christina tackle the complex topic of compassion fatigue.

What is it?

What are the signs you have it?

Who gets it?

What leads to it?

How do you cope with it?

How can you keep from falling into it?

This two part series will answer all those questions and more!

References from today's episode:

Canadian Medical Association Article

Boys and Girls Clubs of America Article

Today's sponsor: Lori E Kenney, CPA

Professional CPA advice for individuals or small businesses. If you're looking for a blend of personalized attention and professional experience, you've come to the right place. Working with them is the best thing you can do for your small business!

Loriekenneycpa.com

We've all got needs. We should first handle our needs by recognizing we have them! There's no shame in knowing what your needs are - especially when it relates to being in healthy relationships with others.

Today's podcast is inspired by the organization Relational Values relationalvalues.com. They empower people to experience and reproduce great relationships!

Knowing your relational needs helps you:

1. Communicate your needs.
2. Know how to communicate with others.
3. Know how to set healthy boundaries.
4. Know where you are "missing" someone in the area of needs.

According to Relational Values, there are ten relational needs:

Acceptance, Affection, Appreciation, Approval, Attention, Comfort, Encouragement, Respect, Security, Support.

To take the relational needs assessment that Chris and Christina talked about today, go to The Relational Values website.

You will then be prompted to an appropriate assessment tool. Once you've completed the assessment, you may want to do further digging into your top needs by yet another assessment that you will be prompted to take following the instructions provided.

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