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Janet Evans and Jenni Woodhouse tackle adult parent-child relationships on "She Wasn't Born Yesterday" with Dr Jenny Brown, a family therapist with 35+ years helping Aussie families. Jenny shares game-changing strategies for staying curious instead of reactive during family conflicts, giving feedback without criticism, and understanding those weird family patterns. Whether your relationship with your parents is broken or just challenging, she offers practical advice for improving family connections without losing yourself in the process.

About the Guest:

Dr. Jenny Brown is a highly respected clinical couple and family therapist with over 35 years of experience, specializing in family systems theory. She holds a PhD in social science and has dedicated her career to helping individuals navigate complex family dynamics. Dr. Brown is also an accomplished author and a key figure at the Family Systems Institute, where she contributes to training mental health professionals. Her work focuses on applying scientific theory to real-world relationship challenges, particularly emphasizing self-differentiation and emotional maturity.

Key Takeaways:

• Self-Differentiation is Essential: Emphasizes the importance of focusing on personal growth and emotional maturity to improve relationships with parents.
• Curiosity Over Reactivity: Advocates for a curious rather than reactive approach to family dynamics, promoting understanding and empathy.
• Avoid Triangulation: Highlights the pitfalls of involving third parties unnecessarily, urging direct communication in resolving conflicts.
• The Impact of Labels: Warns against labeling family members as villains or saints, encouraging a more nuanced understanding of individual behaviors.
• The Role of Feedback: Stresses the importance of offering constructive feedback without criticizing, fostering healthier communication patterns.

Notable Quotes:

1. "Being a parent is like trying to stand up in a hammock without spilling your wine."
2. "If there's a lot of conflict with parents, it's probably a sign that there's a lot that isn't worked out."
3. "I will not give advice until I've heard the best advice that they have to give themselves."
4. "Even messy relationships are worth having the experience of dealing with them."
5. "We can't have three steps to the perfect relationship to achieve in one week."

Resources:

• Jenny Brown’s Books: Amazon
• Family Systems Institute: Information and resources on family systems theory.
• Family Systems Practice Website: Offers insights into familial relationship dynamics.
• Parent Hope Project: Dr. Brown's program focusing on improving parental approaches.

She Wasn’t Born Yesterday, hosted by Janet Evans, a senior advertising creative and Jenni Woodhouse a semi retired social worker

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Should you burden your maturing youngin' on how you make your money work for your household? Should you spell it out for them so they understand how the adults in the household have sacrificed for their well being as well as the comforts in life which they enjoy? Or should you let them enjoy life, and live a carefree unemcumbered life because after all, they've got a whole lotta years of adulting to enjoy?

Key Takeaways:

• It's crucial for children to learn about money early on, including budgeting, saving, and investing.
• Transitioning from cash to digital transactions presents challenges in teaching kids about the value of money.
• Encouraging children to work part-time can provide valuable financial skills and experiences.
• Understanding new financial tools such as Afterpay and digital banking is essential for today's youth.
• Engaging in open, non-judgmental conversations about finances can help mitigate money-related mistakes.

Notable Quotes:

• "One out of one people in the world need to understand and deal with money." — Pete Burrows
• "The earlier you can start [financial education], the better." — Pete Burrows
• "It's a good idea to set up bank accounts for kids to teach them about saving and spending." — Pete Burrows
• "Mistakes are your best resource because you can learn from them." — Pete Burrows
• "You want to keep open conversations… lean into [money] learning opportunities." — Pete Burrows

Got a question, comment or personal story to share? Send it through at hopepodcasts.com.au. Ben and Pete will get stuck into it on a future episode.

Pete Burrows is an accountant for small business and individuals with Lower Russell and Farr in Penrith, Western Sydney, Australia.

Ben McEachen hosts Hope Mornings on Hope 103.2FM in Sydney, Australia.

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Teenagers earning money and paying you board? What about adult kids living under your roof?

Joni asked Pete and Ben to get stuck into the family affair of working out if your kids with jobs need to stump up. So they did, diving deeper than their kneejerk response of "YES". Growing up with the expectation of paying board, Pete and Ben acknowledge the changed landscape of home ownership and accessibility. But the life lesson of paying board remains, as well as the opportunity to live out biblical principles of respect.

Key Takeaways:

• Financial Responsibility: Charging board teaches young adults to manage finances and prepares them for independent living.
• Family Dynamics: Open communication about finances and responsibilities can reduce tension and foster understanding among family members.
• Economic Landscape: Rising costs of living and rental rates contribute to adult children staying home longer.
• Adapting Traditions: Modern families may need to adjust traditional approaches to rent and board, weighing financial necessity against educational opportunity.
• Value-Based Discussions: Families can leverage biblical principles, such as honouring parents, to guide discussions about board.

Notable Quotes:

• "Shouldn't they, in a sense, contribute to the cost of the house? And I think the answer is yes." – Pete Burrows
• "In adulthood, spoiler alert, you're going to cop 100% of the cost of living." – Pete Burrows
• "We're trying to prepare you for adulthood. And in adulthood…you need to pay a percentage of those costs." – Pete Burrows
• "Is it more about while you're here, we're trying to teach you a lesson?" – Ben McEachen

Got a question, comment or personal story to share? Send it through at hopepodcasts.com.au. Ben and Pete will get stuck into it on a future episode.

Pete Burrows is an accountant for small business and individuals with Lower Russell and Farr in Penrith, Western Sydney, Australia.

Ben McEachen hosts Hope Mornings on Hope 103.2FM in Sydney, Australia.

Support the show: https://hope1032.com.au/donate

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.