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Back-to-school prep for ADHD families starts with you. Simple decisions to make now, from meals to meds to bedtime, so you start the year less loaded and more regulated.

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It's late July. The kids are still in swimsuits, but the back-to-school bins are already at Walmart, and the school emails are landing. You know it in your bones: if you're stressed, everyone's stressed. So before we prep the kids or the teachers, this first episode is about you.

This kicks off a three-part back-to-school series, and Part 1 is all about taking weight off your shoulders before the year starts. I walk through the two battle zones where school stress hits hardest (mornings and evenings), then give you the small, decide-it-once moves that quietly lighten the load: setting your school breakfasts and lunches on rotation, the launch pad and weekly clothes systems, outsourcing groceries and repeat purchases, handling the med check and school form now instead of on day one, and easing bedtime back in 10-minute shifts instead of one brutal Sunday night. The principle underneath all of it: support what your child's brain and your brain need, and let go of what neither one does. Pick one or two of the heaviest rocks and move them now.

Inside this episode

• The Raising ADHD™ principle for back-to-school: support what your brain and your child's brain need, and let go of the rest.
• How to find your worst battle zone, mornings or evenings, so you focus your energy in one place.
• Decide breakfast once: build a short rotation that cuts decision load and makes grocery shopping easier.
• The launch pad method and the weekly clothes organizer, plus why doing it at night beats doing it in the morning.
• How to end the daily lunch negotiation by deciding home-lunch and school-lunch days ahead of time.
• Outsourcing that protects your nervous system: grocery delivery and subscriptions for the repeat items you always run out of.
• The two ADHD-specific tasks to knock out this week: the medication check and the school medication form.
• How to reset bedtime without a fight by shifting 10 to 15 minutes a night, dimming lights, and easing screens and reading back in.
• The one rule to close: pick one or two changes that take the biggest load off you, and let the rest go.

Timestamps

00:00 Late July, the in-between, and why this episode is about you
02:56 The one principle: support what the brain needs, drop the rest
05:09 Making mornings easier before school starts
14:00 Ending the daily lunch negotiation
18:39 Outsourcing groceries and repeat purchases
24:24 Med checks and school forms to handle now
26:48 Resetting bedtime without a fight
31:27 Pick one change and share it

Read the full transcript

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2531405/19557708-beat-back-to-school-burnout-the-adhd-mom-s-prep-plan-for-a-calmer-school-year/transcript

One thing to do next

Grab the free Morning Toolkit, the decide-it-once system for calmer school mornings, at raisingadhd.org/morning.

Coming up next week

Part 2 of the back-to-school series: getting your ADHD kid ready. We'll dig into the routines, regulation, and expectations that help them start the year steady, without you turning into a drill sergeant.

Resources and related episodes

Free Morning Toolkit: raisingadhd.org/morning
Free Executive Function Check-In quiz: raisingadhd.org/quiz
Ep38: ADHD Summer Survival, 5 Small Things Saving My Life Right Now
Ep34: The Best Daily Routine for a Child With ADHD (Summer Edition)
Ep9: The ADHD Bedtime Battle, Why Your Child Won't Sleep and How to Finally Fix It
Find me on Instagram: @raisingadhd_org

Hosts

I'm Apryl Bradford, a former classroom teacher with a master's in education and mom raising a child with ADHD, alongside my husband Dr. Brian Bradford, a child and adolescent psychiatrist.

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Impulsive behavior in ADHD kids isn't defiance, it's a delayed pause button. What's happening in the brain, the three types of impulsivity, and an 8-step way to help.

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Your child does something so far past logic that you're left staring at the mess asking "why would you do that?" Here's the hard truth: they don't know either. Their brain generated "go" before it could generate "stop."

I open with a powdered-sugar snowstorm in my kitchen, because impulsive behavior in ADHD kids is one of the most maddening things to parent. In this episode I break down what impulse control actually is (response inhibition), why the ADHD brain's pause button is delayed and underpowered, and the three types of impulsivity you're seeing at home and school. Then I walk you through an 8-step stop-and-think system you can teach in calm moments and prompt in hot ones, plus the environment tweaks that cut impulsive behavior fastest while the skill is still building. The reframe: a child who cannot pause cannot use the skills they already have.

Inside this episode

• What impulse control really is, and why Peg Dawson and Dr. Russell Barkley call it the foundation the other executive function skills depend on.
• What's happening in the ADHD brain: the weaker, later stop signal and the role dopamine plays.
• The three types of impulsivity: verbal, motor/behavioral, and emotional, and how they show up at different times of day.
• The core reframe: your child isn't the kid who never thinks, they're the kid whose brain needs help building a pause.
• Why you teach the pause in calm moments and prompt it in hot ones, never mid-meltdown.
• The 8-step stop-and-think system, from picking one behavior to praising the pause instead of perfection.
• Why pairing the pause with a physical body cue helps the brain insert the delay.
• The environment changes that reduce impulsive behavior fastest while the skill develops.
• Your one-week plan: one behavior, one pause script, three calm practice reps.

Timestamps

00:00 Why impulse control feels impossible
02:07 The powdered sugar morning story
03:55 What impulse control really means
08:10 The ADHD brain and the weak stop signal
12:21 The three types of impulsivity
14:55 The reframe: skills need a pause
16:29 Teach a pause script in calm moments
19:50 The 8-step stop-and-think system
27:33 Reduce risk by changing the environment
29:01 Your weekly plan and closing encouragement

Read the full transcript

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2531405/19488732-impulsive-behavior-in-adhd-why-your-child-has-no-pause-button-and-how-to-build-one/transcript

Resources mentioned

Free Executive Function Check-In quiz, to see where your child is strong and weak: raisingadhd.org/quiz

One thing to do next

Take the free Executive Function Check-In to find out whether impulse control is one of your child's weaker skills, and see how your profile compares to theirs. Get it at raisingadhd.org/quiz.

Resources and related episodes

Ep27: Executive Function Skills and ADHD, Why Your Child Can't "Just Do It"
Ep31: ADHD Meltdowns vs Tantrums
Ep36: Your ADHD Child Isn't Trying to Drive You Crazy
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Hosts

I'm Apryl Bradford, a former classroom teacher with a master's in education and mom raising a child with ADHD, alongside my husband Dr. Brian Bradford, a child and adolescent psychiatrist.

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ADHD parenting burnout is real, and it's not the same as being tired. The three stages, why parents of ADHD kids burn out faster, and five research-backed ways to recover.

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You keep saying you're just tired. A good night's sleep should fix it, but it doesn't, and the moment your kid walks in the door your tank hits empty. That's not tired. That might be burnout, and there's a real difference.

If you've felt stressed, checked out, or burned out from parenting, this one's for you. I break down what ADHD parenting burnout actually is (and what it isn't), the three research-backed stages, and why parents of kids with ADHD are over four times more likely to experience it. Then I walk through the emotional, physical, and behavioral warning signs, and five research-backed ways to start recovering in the life you actually have. The big reframe: your well-being isn't separate from your child's outcomes. It's part of the treatment plan.

Inside this episode

• The real difference between stress and burnout, and the simple test that tells them apart.
• The three stages of parental burnout: physical and emotional exhaustion, emotional distancing, and loss of fulfillment.
• Why burnout is distinct from depression, and why that distinction changes what helps.
• Why ADHD families burn out faster: the hidden regulation load, the invisible mental load, social isolation, and the disproportionate weight mothers carry.
• What burnout looks like emotionally, physically, and behaviorally, including the snap-and-guilt loop.
• Five research-backed ways to recover: behavioral strategies, self-compassion, the right community, nervous system regulation, and micro recovery over macro recovery.
• Dr. Kristin Neff's three-line self-compassion practice you can do in the moment.
• The sticky-note brain dump that clears mental load when everything feels urgent.
• Why naming burnout is itself the first action step that lowers stress for your whole family.

Timestamps

00:00 What you'll gain from this episode
01:45 Stress vs burnout, and why they're not the same
04:04 The three stages of parental burnout
08:47 Why ADHD families are uniquely vulnerable
17:52 The emotional, physical, and behavioral warning signs
20:44 Five research-backed ways to recover
34:05 Reducing your load with tools and respite
36:34 The reframe, a listener shout-out, and next steps

Read the full transcript

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2531405/19408255-adhd-parenting-burnout-the-3-stages-the-signs-and-what-actually-helps/transcript

Resources mentioned

ARCH National Respite Network, to find and fund temporary relief care by state: archrespite.org

One thing to do next

Get short, practical Raising ADHD™ reframes in your inbox each week, the kind you can read in under five minutes and use the same day. Join my email list at raisingadhd.org.

Resources and related episodes

Ep19: Stop Sitting in Mom Guilt, How to Repair With Your ADHD Child After You Lose It
Ep23: ADHD Without Medication, What Actually Works
Ep28: How to Discipline Kids With ADHD, What the Research Says Actually Works
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Hosts

I'm Apryl Bradford, a former classroom teacher with a master's in education and mom raising a child with ADHD, alongside my husband Dr. Brian Bradford, a child and adolescent psychiatrist.

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Surviving summer with an ADHD kid? Here are five small, real-life things saving my sanity right now, plus a pep talk for when nothing feels like it's helping.

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It's week five of summer and you're holding on for dear life. Same. Here are the small, ordinary things keeping me afloat this ADHD summer, and why noticing what's working can shift a hard season.

This one's a little different. Instead of a behavior or a strategy, I'm sharing the five things quietly saving my life this summer: independent outdoor play, my beloved air fryer, a hands-on project that gets me out of the house, nighttime reading, and a grab-and-go protein breakfast. Some are big, some are tiny, all of them are real. Underneath the list is a practice I want you to steal for any hard season with an ADHD kid: pausing long enough to notice what's actually holding you up, not just what's going wrong. I close with a pep talk for the parent who feels like nothing is saving their life right now.

Inside this episode

• The practice of asking "what's saving my life right now," and why we rarely stop to notice what's working.
• Why independent outdoor play is a win for your kid's confidence and your own mental break.
• The air fryer (and paper plates) that make fast, low-cleanup summer meals possible when you work from home.
• Why a hands-on project of my own in a different space gives me a reset without needing a full day off.
• Reading at night as a no-guilt escape, no deep literary credit required.
• The grab-and-go high-protein breakfast that takes the morning off my plate.
• A mini pep talk and the one-small-thing practice for when it feels like nothing is helping.

Timestamps

00:00 Week five of summer and holding on for dear life
01:02 Why noticing what works matters, and the practice behind this episode
02:51 Independent outdoor play
07:10 Fast, low-cleanup meals with the air fryer
09:59 A hands-on project of your own for a reset
12:20 Reading as a nightly escape
13:59 A high-protein breakfast shortcut
15:59 A pep talk for when nothing feels like it's saving your life
18:26 The one small thing to notice today

Read the full transcript

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2531405/19372851-adhd-summer-survival-5-things-saving-my-life-right-now/transcript

Mentioned in this episode

The Lazy Genius Podcast with Kendra Adachi, the inspiration for this format

One thing to do next

Get short, practical Raising ADHD™ reframes in your inbox each week, the kind you can read in under five minutes and use the same day. Join my email list at raisingadhd.org.

Resources and related episodes

Ep10: ADHD and Friendships, Why Your Child Struggles to Fit In
Ep34: The Best Daily Routine for a Child With ADHD (Summer Edition)
Ep9: The ADHD Bedtime Battle
Find me on Instagram: @raisingadhd_org

Hosts

I'm Apryl Bradford, a former classroom teacher with a master's in education and mom raising a child with ADHD, alongside my husband Dr. Brian Bradford, a child and adolescent psychiatrist.

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Why your ADHD child kicks, hums, and can't sit still, and what to do instead of yelling. A simple reframe for sensory and dopamine-seeking behavior.

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You're three minutes into the drive home, and your kiddo is already kicking the back of your seat, humming the same three notes on a loop, and poking their sibling until everyone's yelling. You're white-knuckling the wheel, wondering if they're doing it on purpose. They're not.

In this episode, we're breaking down the ADHD behaviors that drive parents up the wall: kicking the car seat, rocking in the chair, fidgeting, tapping, stimming, and playing the same song on repeat. She explains why a child with ADHD often can't sit still, what the dopamine reward system and the sensory system are actually chasing in those moments, and why "just stop it" rarely works. You'll learn the difference between dopamine-seeking and sensory-seeking behavior, three quick questions to tell them apart, and a simple weekly experiment that channels the need instead of fighting it. Same kid, same energy, a lot less yelling.

What you'll learn

• Why kicking, rocking, humming, and poking are usually a regulation attempt, not defiance or misbehavior.
• How the ADHD brain's understimulation drives both dopamine-seeking (chasing interest) and sensory-seeking (chasing movement, pressure, and sound), and why the two usually show up together.
• Three quick questions to tell whether a behavior is dopamine-driven, sensory-driven, or both.
• Why the goal is never zero movement, and how to protect people and property while giving the need a better job to do.
• Real swaps that work: a resistance band on the car seat, a wobble cushion, a car stimulation kit, and "yes here, no there" boundaries.
• Three decisions you make once and reuse forever: your non-negotiables, your family's okay stims, and a go-to script for high-stress moments.
• The one-week experiment: one situation, one behavior, one outlet, one sentence.

Timestamps

00:00 The after-school car ride every ADHD parent knows

02:55 The anchor reframe: regulation attempt, not moral failure

04:42 A no-degree-required look at the two systems driving the behavior

07:54 Three behaviors we're putting under the lens

10:04 Behavior 1: kicking the car seat

15:28 Behavior 2: rocking and kicking at the table

18:21 Behavior 3: the song on repeat and the sibling poking

21:06 Three quick questions to tell dopamine from sensory

22:24 Three decisions you make once and reuse forever

26:30 Your one-week experiment: one situation, one behavior, one outlet, one sentence

29:10 The reframe to carry into your week

Read the full transcript

https://www.buzzsprout.com/2531405/19316217-adhd-regulation-in-the-real-world/transcript

One thing to do next

Get a short Raising ADHD™ reframe in your inbox each week, one you can read in under two minutes and use the same day. Join the email list at raisingadhd.org.

Coming up next week

Mary Katherine from MK's Magical Adventures is joining me to tackle traveling with ADHD kiddos: how to survive flights, road trips, and routine-wrecking vacations without the meltdowns. Hit follow so it lands the moment it drops.

Resources and related episodes

Free Executive Function Check-In quiz: raisingadhd.org/quiz

Ep29: How to Manage ADHD Hyperactivity Without Fighting It

Ep31: ADHD Meltdowns vs Tantrums

Find Apryl on Instagram: @raisingadhd_org

Hosts

Apryl Bradford, former classroom teacher with a master's in education and mom to a child with ADHD, alongside Dr. Brian Bradford, child and adolescent psychiatrist.

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Traditional discipline doesn't work for ADHD kids—here's the brain science why, plus 6 research-backed strategies that do.

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Raise your hand if you've ever been told, "You just need to discipline your child more."

Or maybe you've thought it yourself: Why won't they just try harder? This isn't that hard.

Here's what no one told you: traditional discipline techniques—consequences, punishments, taking things away—don't work for ADHD kids. And it's not because you're doing it wrong. It's because the ADHD brain is wired differently, and the strategies we were all taught assume a brain that doesn't exist in your child.

In this episode, Apryl breaks down the actual neuroscience (from Johns Hopkins, Harvard, NIH, and the largest ADHD treatment trial ever conducted) to show you exactly what's happening in your child's brain—and why punishment often makes ADHD symptoms worse, not better.

Then she walks you through six discipline strategies that are backed by decades of research and tested in her own ADHD home.

You'll learn:

• Why your child's prefrontal cortex is running up to 3 years behind (and what that means for expectations)
• The dopamine problem: why consequences don't "register" the same way
• Time blindness explained—and why "wait until your father gets home" was never going to work
• The 6 discipline strategies that actually work for ADHD brains
• Why the most-tested ADHD intervention has a 92% success rate (and how to use it at home)
• The one mindset shift that changes everything: from enforcer to executive function coach

If you've tried everything and nothing sticks, this episode will finally explain why—and give you a new playbook.

RESOURCES MENTIONED

• Behavior Breakthrough Week: raisingadhd.org/breakthrough – Kickoff June 7th