You think you’re fine… but your neck is locked, your sleep is trash, and your fuse is about an inch long. So—how stressed are you really?

In this episode, we talk about the sneaky kind of stress that builds up under the radar and how it quietly wrecks your body, mind, and emotional bandwidth.
Enter: the Holmes-Rahe Stress Inventory—a decades-old psychological tool that actually quantifies your stress load based on major life events (good and bad).

Want to take the quiz for yourself?
👉 Click here to access the online assessment

Whether you're a low-key anxious overachiever or someone who swears “I’m not that stressed” while clenching your jaw like a pit bull, this episode is your gentle wake-up call.

🎧 Listen in, tally your score, and see where you land: Zen, Frazzled, or Danger Zone.

I went on a 2-week solo cruise to Alaska, fully convinced I’d write an entire book while watching glaciers drift by. Spoiler alert: I didn’t. Not even close.

In this episode, I share how this “unproductive” vacation turned into an unexpected rite of passage — the moment I realized I’ve officially become a real writer… because my brain refused to “work” on vacation.

This one’s for the creatives, the self-employed, and anyone who struggles with the blurry lines between rest and work.

💌 Includes: postcards, love letters, writer guilt, and a gentle reminder that doing nothing might be doing everything you need.

✨ Love and learn, friends. And keep shining in the dark.

When you're first self-employed, an empty calendar can feel terrifying. You dream of being "booked solid"—stable, successful, secure. But what if not being booked solid is actually where the real magic lives?
In this episode, I share how chasing constant productivity nearly burned me out—and how following excitement (instead of fear) changed my whole relationship with work, money, and life itself.

We’ve all heard the advice: trust your gut. But what if your “gut” is actually just your overcaffeinated monkey mind, spinning tales and hijacking your peace?

In this episode, Dr. Kim shares a painfully funny real-life story from a peaceful sunrise walk that turned into an unexpected ego smackdown.

If you’ve ever caught yourself judging strangers for imagined offenses 😬, this one’s for you.

✨ Learn how to tell the difference between true intuition and neurotic storytelling
🧠 Why your meat pudding brain doesn’t always have your best interests in mind
🌈 And how to gently re-center in love, presence, and compassion when you’ve gone full Ragey McJudgerson

Keep shining in the dark.
#RainbowsInTheDark

Why do billionaires get weird? Why does whipped cream lose its magic after the fifth mouthful? And why did my long-running booty call survive for 15+ years… while a more “serious” relationship went off the rails in a fog of too much?

In this episode, I dig into hedonistic adaptation—the sneaky way your brain gets used to pleasure, and how chasing “more” can quietly ruin the very thing that once brought you joy.

We’re talking snacks, mailbox-shaped pools, and the science behind why modern life leaves us so unsatisfied (even with whipped cream in a can).

If you’ve ever felt stuck on a treadmill of diminishing returns… this one’s for you.

🧠✨ #HedonisticAdaptation #ThePleasureTrap #RainbowsInTheDark

After tracing the lifespans of over 100 of my ancestors—some going back to the 1600s—I’ve got news: the average human lifespan hasn’t changed as much as you think. Despite all the modern longevity fads, most people who survived childhood back then lived into their 70s and 80s… just like today. So maybe you can relax and skip the $500 cryotherapy membership?

#Longevity #Ancestry #BiohackingMyth #GhostGrandpaWisdom #RainbowsInTheDark

Have you ever had something from the past sneak up on you and knock you down? You know it’s not really about the thing in front of you, but it still feels heavy—like a weight you can’t shake. That happened to me last week.

I had one of the most intense self-healing experiences of my life, and I had to share it—because you can do this, too. No therapy, no substances, no rituals. Just you, your breath, and a willingness to feel what needs to be felt.

In this episode, I share:
✅ The unexpected emotional trigger that took me down
✅ The simple but powerful self-healing method that changed everything
✅ The 3 essential ingredients for deep emotional release
✅ How you can try this for yourself—anytime, anywhere

Healing is always available. We don’t have to force it—we just have to create space for it. If you try this for yourself, let me know what happens for you.

🎧 Listen in and keep on shining in the dark!

Why are people so scared of trans women? Why is ‘trans panic’ always about penises? And why, across history and culture, has the penis symbolized power? In this episode, we dig into the unspoken gender hierarchy that shapes transphobia, misogyny, and why some men seem more afraid of unexpected genitals than actual violence. Buckle up—it’s a weird ride.