Just a quick example of a red flag in the beginning stages of a relationship with a narc/offender/predator. Hopefully it will make sense...if not, I apologize. Sometimes the simple cannot be explained so easily.

Dating Apps, social media, online gaming, and more have made it a magical overabundant sea for predators to seek vulnerable prey. I share a bit of my story on that, and another story involving online gaming (names have been changed to protect the victims).

Once again, sorry for the babbling. Thanks for listening and take care.

AJ

Black and white thinking is a form of cognitive distortion. No in between.

I recently dealt with this...i get pretty emotional at times.

Black and white thinking is a big thing for narcissistic abusers, but not all black and white thinkers are narcissists.

That being said, thanks for listening and I apologize for almost breakdown.

-AJ

Mini AJ Soapbox Moment

Healing is moving on no matter how tiny those baby steps are. You do not need to forgive and forget to heal.

RECOVER, REMEMBER, AND RISE AGAIN.

Let the truth be told. Let your voice be heard.

-AJ

Red flagometers are real :)

While there is not an exact definition of red flag regarding narcissistic, emotional, and psychological abused...there are behaviors mostly centered around manipulation. Not so shocking. If it doesn't seem right, trust your gut or at least investigate a wee bit.

Here I speak of behaviors I experienced, observed, and studied.

Sometimes fairytales aren't what they're cracked up to be...just look at books by Grimm.

Thanks for listening! My voice is fading on me.

-AJ

A short defining moment of what emotional blackmail is regarding narcissistic, emotional, and psychological abuse...with a mini soapbox moment about how some kids these days believe being told no and not wanting to follow rules is not abuse when there are consequences, as parental control is often fitting into this category.

Theme songs should be written with manipulation at the center for psychological, emotional and narcissistic abuse...

Thanks for listening!

AJ

Mini AJ Soapbox Moment

This goes out to survivors and to those going through an abusive situation. Experiencing the disbelief, dismissal, and witnessing the ignorant support a sinister being who abused you and/or still continues to do so.

After the humiliation, the confusion, and self-doubt, you find the courage to voice the truth. AND you get told it isn't possible because that sinister person who abused you was nice to them and has never been mean to them. I know many have experience that example.

That being said,

it's for the ignorant who are in disbelief that a person who is nice and helpful toward them cannot be abusive. Congratulations...you are just as cruel as the offender a.k.a. the abuser.

Everyone experiences jealousy and envy at times in their lives.

Abusive narcissists take jealousy to a whole 'nother level.

Through manipulation, ridicule, criticism, gaslighting, and their other calculated tactics to maintain control over you, abusers will go as far as sabotage...even if they are still in a relationship.

They will attempt to destroy you.

-AJ