In this episode of the Q-MindBody podcast, Darren Main sits down with renowned therapist and author Dr. Joe Kort to explore a lesser-known but deeply important identity within gay men's sexuality: the side. Drawing on his groundbreaking book Side Guys, Dr. Kort unpacks the myths and misunderstandings surrounding men who don't identify as tops or bottoms—and instead express themselves through non-penetrative forms of intimacy.

Together, Darren and Dr. Kort discuss the emotional toll of "side shaming" and the importance of community support in dismantling internalized stigma. They also explore how sexual preferences evolve, why outer course deserves more recognition, and how embracing one's authentic orientation can lead to deeper self-acceptance and intimacy.

Whether you're new to the term or deeply familiar, this episode offers a compassionate and eye-opening look into the complexity, beauty, and fluidity of gay men's sexual expression.

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Emotional maturity, trust, and why biceps aren’t enough—with dating coach Lamont White

In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, Darren Main welcomes back dating coach Lamont White (aka The Gay Dating Coach) for a candid conversation about what it really takes to sustain a long-term gay relationship. They dive into the emotional skills that matter far more than a six-pack—like empathy, self-awareness, and trust—and why so many of us struggle to build lasting intimacy. Lamont also shares insights from his coaching and matchmaking work, his spicy weekly dating show “Shoot Your Shot Wednesday,” and his belief that emotional compatibility is the real key to queer love. Whether you're dating, partnered, or happily single, this episode will challenge and inspire you to show up more authentically in love.

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Why is it so hard for gay men to find deep, intentional community? In this episode of Q-MindBody, Darren Main sits down with veteran yoga teacher and community builder David Moreno to explore the deeper longings many gay and bi men share—beyond hookups and high-fives at the parade.

David reflects on his early yoga journey, the creation of Men’s Kula, and his longtime work with Spirit Journeys—all centered around fostering authentic male connection. Together, Darren and David unpack why vulnerability is so hard—and so necessary—for queer men seeking soulful intimacy and self-discovery.

Whether you're curious about starting your own group, attending a retreat, or just want to feel more connected, this episode is for you.

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In this inspiring episode, Darren Main sits down with Joel A. Davis Brown—author of The Souls of Queer Folk—to explore what it means to be a leader in a world hungry for authenticity. Together, they unpack themes of intersectionality, resilience, and the often-overlooked wisdom within queer experience. From coming out stories to cultural values, Joel shares how gay men and queer people are uniquely equipped to lead through today’s volatile and uncertain world—and why owning that truth might be the most powerful thing we can do.

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In this heartfelt episode of the QMindBody Podcast, Darren Main sits down with Peter Godard, founder of Great Bear Coaching, to explore the intersections of body positivity, gay bear identity, and honoring the queer ancestors lost to HIV/AIDS. Together, they discuss how gay men, particularly those in the bear community, are transforming shame into pride, building vibrant communities, and healing generational wounds. They also share personal stories about the power of connecting with those who came before us—and why remembering queer history is vital for our wellness and empowerment today. Whether you're a bear, an ally, or simply seeking inspiration, this conversation is a moving tribute to resilience, belonging, and living fully.

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Peter Godard, GreatBear Coaching https://www.greatbearcoaching.com/

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In this episode of Q MindBody, Darren Main and Kaelan Strauss explore spirituality beyond dogma, especially through a queer lens. They discuss personal spiritual journeys, cultural appropriation, and the unique perspectives queer individuals bring to spiritual exploration. Kaelan shares insights from his new book, 48 Gateways to the Ecstatic Self, and the duo delves into body image, self-acceptance, and creating sacred spaces for healing and growth.

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In this episode ofQ-MindBody, Darren Main sits down with Dr. Eric Russell to explore the healing power of plant medicine for gay men. From psilocybin’s role in reconnecting with the inner child to the alchemy of personal transformation, they dive into the spiritual and emotional breakthroughs that psychedelics can unlock. With deep wisdom and heart, Dr. Russell shares how intention and integration are key to lasting change. Tune in for an uplifting conversation on healing, self-inquiry, and the unique connection between the LGBTQ community and plant medicine.

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In this episode of Q-MindBody, host Darren Main is joined by Andreas Anthony, a yoga teacher and tantric practitioner based in Australia, to explore deeper dimensions of intimacy and connection in gay men's lives. Together, they discuss the challenges many gay men face in moving beyond casual hookups, often facilitated by apps like Grindr and Scruff, to foster relationships grounded in vulnerability, trust, and mutual respect. Andreas shares three transformative practices to enhance intimacy. The episode also touches on cultural narratives and internalized shame that can hinder authentic connections, offering actionable insights for listeners to break free from these patterns. Andreas emphasizes the importance of trusting one's heart and creating space for relationships that truly nourish the soul. Whether you're navigating hookup culture or seeking deeper intimacy, this episode offers a compassionate and practical guide to transforming your relationship with sex and connection.

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