In this episode of the Q-MindBody podcast, Darren Main sits down with renowned therapist and author Dr. Joe Kort to explore a lesser-known but deeply important identity within gay men's sexuality: the side. Drawing on his groundbreaking book Side Guys, Dr. Kort unpacks the myths and misunderstandings surrounding men who don't identify as tops or bottoms—and instead express themselves through non-penetrative forms of intimacy.

Together, Darren and Dr. Kort discuss the emotional toll of "side shaming" and the importance of community support in dismantling internalized stigma. They also explore how sexual preferences evolve, why outer course deserves more recognition, and how embracing one's authentic orientation can lead to deeper self-acceptance and intimacy.

Whether you're new to the term or deeply familiar, this episode offers a compassionate and eye-opening look into the complexity, beauty, and fluidity of gay men's sexual expression.

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Dr. Joe Kort

Read: Side Guys

Side Guys Facebook Group

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The Gay Men’s Sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness

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Emotional maturity, trust, and why biceps aren’t enough—with dating coach Lamont White

In this heartfelt and hilarious episode, Darren Main welcomes back dating coach Lamont White (aka The Gay Dating Coach) for a candid conversation about what it really takes to sustain a long-term gay relationship. They dive into the emotional skills that matter far more than a six-pack—like empathy, self-awareness, and trust—and why so many of us struggle to build lasting intimacy. Lamont also shares insights from his coaching and matchmaking work, his spicy weekly dating show “Shoot Your Shot Wednesday,” and his belief that emotional compatibility is the real key to queer love. Whether you're dating, partnered, or happily single, this episode will challenge and inspire you to show up more authentically in love.

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Lamont White, A Better Way to Meet

Darren’s interview on Lamont’s Podcast

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The Gay Men’s Sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness

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Why is it so hard for gay men to find deep, intentional community? In this episode of Q-MindBody, Darren Main sits down with veteran yoga teacher and community builder David Moreno to explore the deeper longings many gay and bi men share—beyond hookups and high-fives at the parade.

David reflects on his early yoga journey, the creation of Men’s Kula, and his longtime work with Spirit Journeys—all centered around fostering authentic male connection. Together, Darren and David unpack why vulnerability is so hard—and so necessary—for queer men seeking soulful intimacy and self-discovery.

Whether you're curious about starting your own group, attending a retreat, or just want to feel more connected, this episode is for you.

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David Moreno

Q-MindBody Resources & Community

Connect with Darren Main

The Gay Men’s Sangha

Q-MindBody on Gay Wellness

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