Why do so many men sit in the car after work—engine off, music low, just... sitting? In this episode of Private Memoirs of a Desperate Man, we explore a daily ritual that’s become an emotional survival tactic for countless men. This quiet decompression after work is more than just a pause—it’s a reflection of burnout, stress, and the unspoken pressure to transition between identities without breaking down.From the outside, it looks like nothing. But for men dealing with emotional burnout, male vulnerability, and the silent struggle of being “the strong one,” those few minutes in the car become sacred. We unpack what’s really happening in that space—how it ties into men's mental health, masculinity, and the hidden cost of always holding it together.This is for the ones who sit in silence so they don’t explode later. The ones who never learned how to talk about it. And the ones trying to figure out how to finally exhale.

In this episode of Private Memoirs of a Desperate Man, I’m not holding back. I’m calling out incel culture for what it is - trash. It’s toxic, it’s misleading, and it’s warping how too many young men see themselves and the world around them. I’m speaking as a 46-year-old Puerto Rican man who was raised in a strict, loving household by strong women and respectful men. I know what real masculinity looks like - and this ain’t it.After watching the Netflix series “Adolescence,” I felt compelled to dig into the disturbing reality behind the incel mindset. The way these communities objectify women and push this fake alpha male narrative is dangerous. We’ve got to do better - for ourselves, for our sons, for our communities. I’m here to have the honest conversations that too many people avoid.If you’re ready for some truth, hit play. This is where the masks come off.

I didn’t just survive—I evolved.

In this episode of Private Memoirs of a Desperate Man, I’m talking directly to the part of you that’s been doubting, second-guessing, or flat-out forgetting who the hell you are. “This Game Is Yours” isn’t just a title—it’s the truth. You’ve fallen. You’ve struggled. Maybe you’ve even felt like you were done. But you’re still here. And that means something.

I know what it feels like to hit rock bottom and wonder if there’s anything left. But sometimes the fire doesn’t just burn—it refines. This is about recognizing that every setback, every scar, every time you got back up… that was you proving your worth, whether you knew it or not.

So this episode? It’s your mirror. Your reminder. Your wake-up call. This life—your life—is still yours to claim. Because this game?
It always has been.