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Phoenix and Flame Podcast

Phoenix and Flame Podcast

著者: Dana Skaggs: psychotherapist and keynote speaker
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Phoenix and Flame is a podcast by Dana Skaggs, M.A. She is called the "Queen of Boundaries" as well as the "Sassy Psychotherapist." Her podcast is about going From Ash to Flight on the Wings of Boundaries. If you feel alone in your struggle, check out the candid interviews with inspiring guests. You'll hear their authentic journey through struggle, what helped them, what hurt them, and how they finally rose from the ashes. Dana asks direct, thought-provoking questions infused with snarky humor and therapeutic commentary, designed so her listeners will take away useful and applicable rubber-meets-the-road coping strategies. 人間関係 心理学 心理学・心の健康 社会科学 衛生・健康的な生活
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  • Why Your Nervous System Won't Let You Rest
    2026/09/06
    First aired September 6, 2026 Dr. Charleanea Arellano has spent over 30 years as a clinical psychologist and leadership coach, but the framework she's best known for now, the Embodied Narrative Framework, didn't come from a textbook. It came from putting away laundry five years ago and noticing her own body bracing for impact, for no reason at all, at age 55, after decades of actually being safe. Dr. Arellano built her career studying how high-achieving women lead while carrying nervous systems shaped by trauma, and by the added weight of managing how their race, sexuality, or gender is perceived in the room. As a queer Latina psychologist who didn't come out publicly until 2024, and who spent years often being the only person of color at the table, she's lived the pattern she now helps her clients unwind. We talk about what a chronically activated nervous system actually feels like in the body, the subtle and not-so-subtle ways bias shows up in a room, why "just get a massage" isn't a real fix for high achievers, and the simple, several-times-a-day nervous system reset she teaches instead. Watch this epsiode on Youtube | Subscribe In this episode Why Dr. Arellano's own healing journey, not her doctorate, is what actually led her to the nervous system work she's known for todayWhat it felt like to be the only person of color in the room for decades, and the subtle versus overt ways bias and microaggressions actually show upHow to tell when your nervous system is activated, from bracing for impact to chronic anxiety, and why it starts in the body, not the mindThe physical toll of years of unresolved activation: TMJ, chronic headaches, fatigue, digestive issues, and moreWhy women and men are socialized to handle stress so differently, and what that means for high-achieving women specificallyThe several-times-a-day nervous system reset Dr. Arellano teaches her clients, and why it only takes secondsBalancing connection and protection with family members who caused real harm, and what it looks like to set a boundary without needing them to understand it Timestamps (00:01) Welcome and guest intro: meet psychologist and Embodied Narrative Framework founder Dr. Charleanea Arellano(03:07) Her path into psychology: curiosity about human behavior, a high school class, and a PhD by 29(05:26) "We are a version of our perfect client": how her own experience as a high achiever managing perceptions shaped her work(07:52) The subtle and overt ways bias shows up in a room, from stopped conversations to backhanded compliments(11:49) Stepping away from the professional world in 2003 after years of navigating belonging and credibility(13:24) What it actually feels like when your nervous system is activated: bracing, anxiety, and the body's fight-or-run response(20:35) The chronic physical toll: TMJ, headaches, fatigue, digestive issues, and chronic pain(24:30) Why women carry stress differently than men, and what that means for high-achieving women(25:57) The several-times-a-day nervous system reset, and why "just get a massage" doesn't work for high achievers(33:36) Her books: the memoir Terrible Gifts and The Last Dance, on intergenerational trauma with her father(37:01) Balancing connection and protection: boundaries with family members who caused real harm(40:06) Where to find Dr. Arellano and her work About Dr. Charleanea Arellano Dr. Charleanea Arellano is a licensed psychologist and Board Certified Life Coach with over 30 years of clinical and leadership experience, and the founder of the Embodied Narrative Framework. A queer Latina psychologist, she helps high-achieving women understand how nervous system patterns, trauma-adapted achievement, and the added stress of managing how their race, sexuality, or gender is perceived shape the way they decide, lead, and relate to success. Her own healing journey, including decades of navigating rooms where she was often the only person of color, informs her work today. She's the author of the forthcoming memoir Terrible Gifts: Finding the Light in the Darkest of Places, and The Last Dance, which explores intergenerational trauma through her relationship with her father. Learn more at Dr. Charleanea's website, or connect with her on LinkedIn. Favorite quotes "We are a version of our perfect client." —Dr. Charleanea Arellano "It starts with the nervous system. The nervous system is online before we have any conscious thought about it. It's running the show." —Dr. Charleanea Arellano "This is hygiene. This is another form of hygiene — nervous system hygiene that you do throughout the day." —Dr. Charleanea Arellano, on why a 30-second reset matters as much as brushing your teeth Resources mentioned Dr. Charleanea's website: home to her coaching practice and more on the Embodied Narrative FrameworkTerrible Gifts: Finding the Light in the Darkest of Places: Dr. Arellano's forthcoming memoir, currently in the publication processThe Last Dance: her book on ...
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  • Why Business Leaders Need Negotiation Skills
    2026/08/23
    First aired August 23, 2026 Annette Mullin spent 24 years with the Las Vegas Metropolitan Police Department, nine of them as a crisis negotiator, eventually leading one of the busiest negotiation teams in the country â€" averaging over 100 call-outs a year. She worked patrol, sexual assault, internal affairs, and homicide, becoming LVMPD's first female homicide sergeant, before spending her final years as the department's director of employee wellness in the aftermath of the October 1 Mandalay Bay shooting, the largest mass shooting in U.S. history. Now a negotiation instructor and coach at the Black Swan Group, founded by former FBI lead hostage negotiator Chris Voss, Annette translates those high-stakes lessons into practical tools for leaders, teams, and individuals navigating pressure, conflict, and growth. We talk about the universal need she discovered in every person she ever negotiated with, why the crime itself is almost always a secondary issue, what "tactical empathy" actually looks like in practice, and why most of us were never actually taught how to listen. Watch this episode Youtube episode link here In this episode How the O.J. Simpson case and a criminalistics program in LA sparked Annette's path into crime scene investigation, and why she chose Las Vegas over LAPDJoining LVMPD's crisis negotiation team, and what made Las Vegas's team one of the busiest in the countryBecoming LVMPD's first female homicide sergeant, and the advice that helped her navigate a male-dominated field without making it about genderWhy removing assumptions, and getting curious instead of judgmental, changed how she worked with people in crisisThe universal need Annette discovered every person in crisis shares, no matter how different the circumstancesWhy the crime itself is almost always a secondary issue, and what's usually driving it underneathHow Chris Voss's "tactical empathy" model, from Never Split the Difference, turns negotiation into collaboration instead of a tug-of-warThe five levels of listening Black Swan teaches, and why most of us are trained to listen to respond instead of to understand Timestamps (00:01) Welcome and guest intro: meet retired LVMPD crisis negotiator Annette Mullin(02:23) From the East Coast to Las Vegas: the O.J. Simpson case and her path into crime scene investigation(04:42) Joining the crisis negotiation team, and Las Vegas's brutal call-out numbers(06:36) Retiring after serving as director of employee wellness following the October 1 Mandalay Bay shooting(08:15) What drew her to law enforcement as a kid, from Nancy Drew to Quincy, M.E.(10:10) Navigating gender in a male-dominated field, and becoming LVMPD's first female homicide sergeant(14:00) Removing assumptions: why curiosity beats judgment when someone has "a chip on their shoulder"(16:52) The universal need every person in crisis shares, and why that surprised her most(20:05) Why the crime is almost always the secondary issue(24:28) From hostage negotiation to the boardroom: Chris Voss, Black Swan Group, and tactical empathy(28:43) The biggest obstacle to listening, and the five levels of listening Black Swan teaches(31:50) The number one struggle business leaders bring to her, and why practicing in "low stakes" moments matters(34:12) Where to find Annette, Black Swan Group, and the new book Fight Less, Win More About Annette Mullin Annette Mullin is a retired Las Vegas Metropolitan Police Department leader with 24 years of law enforcement experience, including nine years as a crisis negotiator and eventual leader of LVMPD's crisis negotiation team, one of the busiest in the country. Over her career she worked patrol, community policing, sexual assault, internal affairs, and homicide, becoming LVMPD's first female homicide sergeant, before serving as the department's director of employee wellness in the aftermath of the October 1 Mandalay Bay shooting. Now a negotiation instructor and coach at the Black Swan Group, founded by former FBI lead hostage negotiator Chris Voss, Annette teaches the principles behind Never Split the Difference, including tactical empathy, to leaders, teams, and individuals navigating pressure and conflict in business and life. Learn more at the Black Swan Group, or connect with Annette on LinkedIn. Favorite quotes "There is a universal need for every person to be heard, to be seen, and to be understood." "Not everybody is like you. Removing assumptions was really key, let them show you or tell you." "If I read a book about working out every week but never lift a weight, I can't expect to see anything different." Resources mentioned Black Swan Group: negotiation training founded by former FBI lead hostage negotiator Chris VossNever Split the Difference by Chris Voss: the book that brings hostage-negotiation principles like tactical empathy into business and everyday lifeFight Less, Win More: Chris Voss's newest book, adapting those same skills for personal relationshipsAnnette ...
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