Fear and mental blocks can make it feel like your athlete is going backward. You see her working hard. You see her trying. And still, the skills are not sticking.

If you are in that spot, you are not alone.

When blocks seem to get worse, it usually means she is still in the awareness phase. She has not fully learned what her brain needs yet. Instead of asking why this is happening, start asking what it is teaching her. The hard days are full of clues. Have her reflect on what went well, what did not go well, and what she learned. That is where growth starts.

When she hesitates or pulls back on a skill, that is her brain trying to protect her. You cannot force safety. Instead, ask one simple question. What can I do? Maybe that means a lower beam. Maybe it means a spot. Maybe it means going back a step and getting more safe reps. Confidence builds through repeated success, not pressure.

Think of confidence like a bank account. Every small win adds to it. Every forced attempt that ends in fear takes away from it. Protect that bank. Praise effort. Celebrate tiny progress. Even if it feels small to you, it matters to her brain.

Trust takes time. She has to build a better relationship with herself. That means patience. That means kinder self talk. The more she shows up for herself, the more self trust will grow.

If you are stuck focusing on getting the skill back right now, try shifting your focus to effort and learning. When the pressure to reach the outcome drops, progress often follows.

In this episode, you will hear
• Why blocks can feel worse before they get better
• How asking “What can I do?” rebuilds confidence
• Why safe repetitions matter more than forcing skills
• How shifting away from outcome focus helps skills stick

In this week’s episode of the PerformHappy Podcast, I share how awareness, patience, and small daily wins can help your athlete rebuild confidence and trust herself again.

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Consistency under pressure can look effortless from the outside. But if you’ve ever stood there waiting to salute, you know it rarely feels that way. In this episode, I sit down with LSU freshman Haley Mustari to break down what actually creates that calm, confident performance.

After watching her stick her first collegiate bar routine, I wanted to know what was going on in her mind. Her answer was simple: “Do your normal.” She is not trying to be extraordinary in the moment. She is trusting the reps she has already done.

We talk about how visualization became part of her daily routine, not just something she turns on at meets. When mental skills are practiced every day, they feel natural under pressure. She also shares how she uses short, clear cues to stay focused one skill at a time, instead of letting her thoughts spiral.

We explore failure, too. From a Level 9 bar routine that ended in a fall and a score of 1, to years of repetition that built real awareness, Haley shows how mistakes become information. Frustration, for her, sharpens focus instead of creating drama.

If you struggle with overthinking or carrying mistakes from one event to the next, this conversation will help you reset. Confidence is not about being perfect. It is about trusting your preparation and narrowing your focus to what you can control right now.

In this episode, you will hear
• Why “do your normal” is a powerful competition mindset
• How daily visualization builds trust under pressure
• How to turn frustration into focus
• Why failure is part of long-term confidence

In this week’s episode of the PerformHappy Podcast, I share how trusting your training and simplifying your mindset can help you compete with more calm, clarity, and confidence.

Learn exactly what to say and do to guide your athlete through a mental block with my new book "Parenting Through Mental Blocks" Order your copy today: https://a.co/d/g990Bur

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Waiting can be one of the hardest parts of growth. When things feel uncertain or out of your control, the urge to figure it out now can be overwhelming. Patience rarely feels exciting, yet it is often the skill that determines whether you keep going or give up too soon.

In this episode, I share why patience is one of the most powerful traits athletes and high performers can develop. I open up about my own struggle with impatience and the discomfort of not knowing how things will turn out. Like many athletes, I wanted certainty so I could feel safe and confident, but life does not work that way.

I reflect on my own journey and how my path was far from linear. From childhood dreams to dropping out of college and eventually finding my way back to the work I love, progress required far more time, support, and patience than I ever expected. What felt like setbacks were actually part of the process.

We explore the first key to patience: getting comfortable being uncomfortable. Building grit means continuing to show up even when things are hard, progress is slow, or results are unclear. Every fall, setback, or disappointment becomes another opportunity to get back up and try again.

The second focus of the episode is developing a growth mindset. Impatience thrives when we believe that if something has not happened yet, it never will. Adding the word “yet” shifts failure into progress and reminds us that improvement is still possible with effort and persistence.

Finally, we talk about keeping things in perspective. Long-term dreams rarely come with straight paths or perfect timelines. When athletes focus on the bigger picture instead of immediate outcomes, patience becomes easier and pressure decreases.

In this episode, you will hear
• Why discomfort is essential for developing patience
• How grit helps athletes stay in the process
• How a growth mindset changes the way setbacks feel
• Why focusing on the bigger picture reduces pressure

In this week’s episode of the PerformHappy Podcast, I share three practical ways to develop patience and why trusting the process can help athletes stay motivated, confident, and committed to their long-term goals.

Learn exactly what to say and do to guide your athlete through a mental block with my new book "Parenting Through Mental Blocks" Order your copy today: https://a.co/d/g990Bur

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Write to me! Email: rebecca@completeperformancecoaching.com

Ready to help your athlete overcome fears and mental blocks while gaining unstoppable confidence? Discover the transformative power of PerformHappy now. If your athlete is struggling or feeling left behind, it's time for a change. Are you ready? For more info and to sign up: PerformHappy.com