Going back to old patterns is part of the process.

In a perfect world, we’d change our behavior and never make the same mistake again. And so would our struggling teens. But perfection doesn’t exist, and there’s no such thing as a magic switch that makes everything work out perfectly all of a sudden.

I know how hard it is to experience a setback yourself or see your teen go through it. But one thing that Seth and I would like you to walk away with today, is that a setback doesn’t mean failure.

Whether we’re talking about setbacks in communication, substance abuse, coping skills, healthy behavior, or holding healthy boundaries, when we get sidetracked, we often feel like we have to start from scratch again. We think we have completely failed and beat ourselves up. Sometimes it even leads us to give up entirely.

But you’re not starting over. You still have all the experience and work you’ve done before. And you have the opportunity to learn, to reorient yourself back to the path you want to be on in order to move forward.

Let’s dive into today’s episode on how to keep going after a setback, and learn more about:

• How setbacks are part of the process;
• How a setback doesn’t mean you’re starting from scratch;
• The feeling of discouragement and just wanting to give up sometimes;
• Supporting your teen in getting back on track after a setback;
• Honouring the process of change;
• Keeping your boundaries steady while supporting someone in experiencing a setback;
• And more!

Need support?

🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!

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And remember parents, the change begins with us.

Are you allowing your child to learn through failure?

There’s a thin line between offering safety and comfort. Just like safety, offering comfort to your kid is a way of protection. It’s a way to protect your child so they don’t have to experience the hardships and difficulties that you had to go through yourself. But is it really in your child’s best interest to keep them from experiencing unsuccessful events?

“By preventing it, you’re also enabling it” - Seth Gottlieb

Our children don’t learn from an unsuccessful event if we rescue them.

Our teens don’t learn from the lesson if you pick up the pieces for them.

But where’s the line? Let’s discuss it with Seth in today’s episode!

In this episode on safety vs. comfort, we discuss:

• What’s the difference between offering safety and comfort?;
• Is something ever really a failure or is it an unsuccessful event that can lead to success through learning?;
• How providing comfort can be enabling;
• Examples of safety versus comfort in daily life;
• And more!

Need support?

🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!

And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

And remember parents, the change begins with us.

When does your help start to hinder your teen’s growth?

As parents, we want to help our kids as much as possible and protect them from discomfort. It seems like our generation has taken this belief to an extreme though. Did you know that the age at which parents allow their kids to go out and explore the world by themselves autonomously (for example by letting them go to the grocery store by themselves to pick up a few items) has almost doubled in just one generation!?

But the world has changed, right? And aren’t things sometimes just too difficult to handle for them? We’re all doing it from a place of love!

What if I told you that our teens need to experience discomfort in order to grow into independent young adults? The more we keep our teens in their comfort zone, the less resilience they’re building. And on top of that, we’re providing them with less opportunity to learn and grow.

“Learning doesn’t come from achieving success or getting what you want all the time.” - Seth Gottlieb

So how can we support our kids to get ready for independence? Let’s dive into this interesting topic together with Seth today. Have a listen!

In this episode on getting our kids ready for independence, we discuss:

• Where’s the line between helping our kids and hindering their growth into independence?;
• Independence has changed drastically in just one generation;
• How independence teaches our kids what it is to be trusted and communicate healthily;
• How technology takes away the opportunity for our kids to feel autonomous;
• Holding on to perceptions of your teen of the past instead of who they are today;
• How can we get our kids ready for independence?;
• And more!

Need support?

🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

Ps. Are you getting great value out of this podcast? It would mean the world to me if you could leave a review on Apple Podcasts. This way, you will help me reach and help more parents of struggling teens develop healthy responses and boundaries instead of acting out of fear and anxiety. You can leave a review by clicking here, scrolling to the bottom, tapping to leave a star rating and then write your review. Thanks so much!

And if you haven’t already done so, make sure to subscribe to our show so you don’t miss any of my future episodes!

And remember parents, the change begins with us.