Nobody really talks about what happens after treatment. The messy, vulnerable in-between where your teen or young adult is no longer in crisis but still doesn’t quite feel at home in the world. They’ve changed… and they can feel it. But instead of feeling proud, they often feel disconnected, misunderstood, or even rejected by their peers.

They’ve gained emotional intelligence, insight, and tools most of their previous friends don’t have, and that can be incredibly isolating. Especially when it feels like no one else is speaking the same emotional language.

In this episode, I’m joined again by Hayley from ‘Not Therapy’ Coaching. Hayley is a former “troubled teen” turned coach who now helps young people reintegrate after treatment. We talk about what it really looks like to find community and belonging after treatment, and why so many teens and young adults feel like outsiders when they come home.

But most importantly, we share tangible ways you, as a parent, can support your teen in building meaningful relationships, without pushing, hovering, or downplaying how hard this part of the journey can be.

In this episode on helping your teen find community & belonging after treatment, we discuss:

• Why teens returning from treatment often feel more mature than their peers;
• How to validate your teen’s experience without rushing them to “get back to normal”;
• What real community can look like, and why it’s not always a big group;
• Small but powerful ways to help your teen rebuild connection & community (without overstepping);
• How to model healthy community and friendships in your own life;
• Why online relationships matter more than you might think;
• What to do when your teen doesn’t show interest in anything;
• Ideas for low-pressure, real-world ways to help them meet like-minded peers;
• And more!

More about Hayley Caddes
Hayley Caddes is a "former troubled teen" who spent her last years of high school in wilderness and residential treatment programs. Based on her experience, she co-founded Not Therapy to provide peer-to-peer coaching for teens and young adults who feel like therapy hasn’t been the right fit or who are transitioning out of therapeutic programs back into the real world. As young people who have been in their clients’ shoes, Hayley & Collin’s approach is rooted in personal expertise.

Learn more about Not Therapy on their website or blog, connect with them on LinkedIn, or directly book a free call.

Listen to our previous episode with Hayley: 97. Parenting Tips from Former Troubled Teens Hayley and Collin from ‘Not Therapy’


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“You’re so controlling!” Did your kid ever tell you that?

If your teen or young adult constantly complains about your rules, expectations, or structure, saying that you’re controlling them, you're not alone. Many parents trying to set healthy boundaries with their teen end up questioning themselves the moment they face pushback. You want to listen, validate, and stay connected… but does that mean giving up on the structure your kid actually needs?

In this episode, Seth and I unpack the real-life tension between honoring your teen’s autonomy and holding firm to the healthy boundaries that keep your family grounded. We explore how to stay steady when your teen accuses you of being too controlling, and how to help them recognize their own agency, even when they’re frustrated.

Holding boundaries with a struggling teen is hard. Because yes, they will complain, but that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong.

In this episode on setting healthy boundaries with your teen, we discuss:

• Why your teen might call structure “control”, and how to respond;
• Ways to reinforce boundaries while still respecting your teen’s autonomy;
• How to offer choice and accountability without giving up authority;
• The role of deadlines, check-ins, and letting natural consequences play out;
• Why your values matter more than avoiding conflict;
• The power of listening without renegotiating everything;
• How to shift from “nagging” to supportive accountability;
• And more!

Looking for support?
🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com

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When you’re desperate for support, it’s tempting to turn to extended family. But sometimes their “help” just makes things harder.

It’s a common and painful dynamic for many struggling parents: your teen is having a hard time, and suddenly the grandparents or extended family start weighing in with passive-aggressive comments, outdated advice, or judgmental questions. You’re already doing everything you can to support your struggling teen, and now it feels like you have to defend yourself, too.

In this episode, Seth and I talk about how to set boundaries with grandparents and extended family members when their “support” actually undermines your parenting. We explore the emotional toll it takes when you start parenting from someone else’s perspective, how that impacts your teen or young adult kid, and how to reclaim your authority and clarity in the midst of confusing family dynamics.

We also talk about where to turn instead, how to identify the right kind of support, and what resourcing can look like when emotions are high and you feel alone.

If you’re a struggling parent trying to support your teen while navigating family pressure and judgment, we recorded this episode for you.

In this episode on setting boundaries with extended family, we discuss:

• Why parenting a struggling kid often brings out unsolicited advice from extended family;
• The generational gap in emotional support and what validation really looks like;
• How grandparents may form an opinion without understanding the full picture;
• The impact on your teen when you start parenting based on others' opinions;
• How to recognize your emotional needs and release shame and guilt;
• Three types of resourcing when you’re feeling overwhelmed;
• How to protect your teen’s story, and decide who’s safe to share it with;
• Practical ways to hold boundaries with grandparents and other family members;
• And more!

Looking for support?

🗺️Need help setting healthy boundaries with your teen AND following through? My free guide will help you do so by creating your own Parent Home Plan!

🤍Influence lasting change in yourself and your struggling teen with my private coaching or parent group program specifically created for parents of struggling teens.

Have a question or need support? You can email me at beth@bethhillmancoaching.com

You can support the show by:

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And remember parents, the change begins with us.