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The lives that should have been

This story follows the lives of four people born on the same day on 20th December 1956, Stephen and Johan were neighbours in Poplar East London, they were best friends, at the same time Vinka and Marlin were neighbours in Ellios in Sweden. Vinka was Johan’s cousin while Marlin was her best friend.

Stephen is five foot ten with blue eyes and brown hair, Johan is five foot ten with blue eyes and blond hair, Vinka if five foot ten with blue eyes and blond hair and Marlin is five foot ten with blue eyes and brown hair.

Stephen and Johan from the age of seven spent their summers and Christmas in Sweden with the girls, as they grew up they became very close. All through their school days all four were very bright kids and top in all their classes, they were all good at languages all able to speak English, Swedish, French, German, Arabic, Spanish.

When they left school the girls joined the Swedish Army in the Intelligence Service as their National Service for one year then they worked for a translating company enabling them to work remotely. The boys joined the Royal Marines where they did two tours of Norther Ireland, two winter exercises in Norway and a Mediterranean exercise. They married the girls after their first tour of Northern Ireland. They did the first UN Cyprus tour and got the medal.

They left the Royal Marines after four years and transferred to the British Army in the Royal Anglian Regiment and were posted to Berlin and had quarter next door to each other. The boys did a promotion course and were promoted to Lance Corporal, later in that tour of Berlin the did Junior Brecon and promoted Corporal. Each had twins born on the same day in June 1979. Each couple had twins born on the same day a boy and a girl each.

They then were posted to the Depot The Queen Division as section commanders for two years, they brought their own houses n Hitchin before being posted back to the Battalion in Colchester. They did a tour to Northern Ireland as section commanders before going on to do Senior Brecon and promoted Sergeant and another tour at the Depot as Platoon Sergeants.

The girls joined the TA Intelligence Corps and were attached to the C Squadron 21 Special Air Service in Hitchin, while keeping up their translation work. They did a tour of Norther Ireland with the regular SAS and received the General Officer Commanding Northern Ireland Commendation for their work, they then did lots of other work with the regular SAS. In their spare time they brought and did up old racing motorbikes.

Arriving back at the Battalion they were offered redundancy and left the regular army. The boys then did selection for the TA SAS and passed and badged. They did many courses and exercises and in 1991 all four of them went on the first Gulf was with 22 SAS and the boys won the military medal each.

In 1998 all four transferred to 15 UK Psychological Operations Group, and over the next fifteen years did many operational tours and became subject matter experts. Their operational tours were: Kosovo, Macedonia, Afghanistan, Iraq, Serra Leone.

They won the national lottery in December 2012 and brought a Hallberg Rassy 43 mark 3, had a house built just out side Gosport. They had about fifty motorbikes between them. They could all telemark ski since they were seven years old and raced for the British Army.

Military training for the defence of the Swedish nation and its country is not just a duty but a democratic right. With the catch-phrase of 'one man - one rifle - one vote' the Swedes gained a full parliamentary system at the beginning of this century. Any aggressor should know that a united people stands behind the key words in the political decla

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The Life That Never Was That Should Have Been

By

Tim Heale Dedicated to my Brother

Stephen Patrick Heale

This is the life that could have been if he had not died,

A few hours after he was born.

I entered this world on a 20th December 1956 to the sound of Elvis Presley singing ‘All Shook Up’ on the radio, closely followed by the hushed voice of a concerned nurse.

Having been shook up and whacked on the backside I was introduced to my mum. For just a few tormented hours I lay cradled in her loving arms. I felt the familiar beat of her heart and the new sensation of fresh warm tears as they landed on my sallow face. For a brief moment I was aware of light and shade and through blurred vision could make out the shape of the face looking down into mine.

Moving, seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling and breathing, all felt confusing and exhausting to me, so I ceased participating in any of those actions and returned to the blissful state of sleep.

My surviving brother throughout his young and also adult life had vivid dreams featuring myself, it was as though I were still alive but in a parallel universe, the story was written of my life, had I lived.

This should have been my life...

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The Life That could have been had I lived Part 1 This is an audio book.

The Life That Never Was That Should Have Been

By

Tim Heale Dedicated to my Brother

Stephen Patrick Heale

This is the life that could have been if he had not died,

A few hours after he was born.

I entered this world on a 20th December 1956 to the sound of Elvis Presley singing ‘All Shook Up’ on the radio, closely followed by the hushed voice of a concerned nurse.

Having been shook up and whacked on the backside I was introduced to my mum. For just a few tormented hours I lay cradled in her loving arms. I felt the familiar beat of her heart and the new sensation of fresh warm tears as they landed on my sallow face. For a brief moment I was aware of light and shade and through blurred vision could make out the shape of the face looking down into mine.

Moving, seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling and breathing, all felt confusing and exhausting to me, so I ceased participating in any of those actions and returned to the blissful state of sleep.

My surviving brother throughout his young and also adult life had vivid dreams featuring myself, it was as though I were still alive but in a parallel universe, the story was written of my life, had I lived.

This should have been my life...

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The Life That could have been had I lived Part 4 This is an audio book.

The Life That Never Was That Should Have Been

By

Tim Heale Dedicated to my Brother

Stephen Patrick Heale

This is the life that could have been if he had not died,

A few hours after he was born.

I entered this world on a 20th December 1956 to the sound of Elvis Presley singing ‘All Shook Up’ on the radio, closely followed by the hushed voice of a concerned nurse.

Having been shook up and whacked on the backside I was introduced to my mum. For just a few tormented hours I lay cradled in her loving arms. I felt the familiar beat of her heart and the new sensation of fresh warm tears as they landed on my sallow face. For a brief moment I was aware of light and shade and through blurred vision could make out the shape of the face looking down into mine.

Moving, seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling and breathing, all felt confusing and exhausting to me, so I ceased participating in any of those actions and returned to the blissful state of sleep.

My surviving brother throughout his young and also adult life had vivid dreams featuring myself, it was as though I were still alive but in a parallel universe, the story was written of my life, had I lived.

This should have been my life...

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The Life That could have been had I lived Part 1 This is an audio book.

The Life That Never Was That Should Have Been

By

Tim Heale Dedicated to my Brother

Stephen Patrick Heale

This is the life that could have been if he had not died,

A few hours after he was born.

I entered this world on a 20th December 1956 to the sound of Elvis Presley singing ‘All Shook Up’ on the radio, closely followed by the hushed voice of a concerned nurse.

Having been shook up and whacked on the backside I was introduced to my mum. For just a few tormented hours I lay cradled in her loving arms. I felt the familiar beat of her heart and the new sensation of fresh warm tears as they landed on my sallow face. For a brief moment I was aware of light and shade and through blurred vision could make out the shape of the face looking down into mine.

Moving, seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling and breathing, all felt confusing and exhausting to me, so I ceased participating in any of those actions and returned to the blissful state of sleep.

My surviving brother throughout his young and also adult life had vivid dreams featuring myself, it was as though I were still alive but in a parallel universe, the story was written of my life, had I lived.

This should have been my life...

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The Life That could have been had I lived Part 1 This is an audio book.

The Life That Never Was That Should Have Been

By

Tim Heale Dedicated to my Brother

Stephen Patrick Heale

This is the life that could have been if he had not died,

A few hours after he was born.

I entered this world on a 20th December 1956 to the sound of Elvis Presley singing ‘All Shook Up’ on the radio, closely followed by the hushed voice of a concerned nurse.

Having been shook up and whacked on the backside I was introduced to my mum. For just a few tormented hours I lay cradled in her loving arms. I felt the familiar beat of her heart and the new sensation of fresh warm tears as they landed on my sallow face. For a brief moment I was aware of light and shade and through blurred vision could make out the shape of the face looking down into mine.

Moving, seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling and breathing, all felt confusing and exhausting to me, so I ceased participating in any of those actions and returned to the blissful state of sleep.

My surviving brother throughout his young and also adult life had vivid dreams featuring myself, it was as though I were still alive but in a parallel universe, the story was written of my life, had I lived.

This should have been my life...

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The Life That could have been had I lived Part 1 This is an audio book.

The Life That Never Was That Should Have Been

By

Tim Heale Dedicated to my Brother

Stephen Patrick Heale

This is the life that could have been if he had not died,

A few hours after he was born.

I entered this world on a 20th December 1956 to the sound of Elvis Presley singing ‘All Shook Up’ on the radio, closely followed by the hushed voice of a concerned nurse.

Having been shook up and whacked on the backside I was introduced to my mum. For just a few tormented hours I lay cradled in her loving arms. I felt the familiar beat of her heart and the new sensation of fresh warm tears as they landed on my sallow face. For a brief moment I was aware of light and shade and through blurred vision could make out the shape of the face looking down into mine.

Moving, seeing, hearing, thinking, feeling and breathing, all felt confusing and exhausting to me, so I ceased participating in any of those actions and returned to the blissful state of sleep.

My surviving brother throughout his young and also adult life had vivid dreams featuring myself, it was as though I were still alive but in a parallel universe, the story was written of my life, had I lived.

This should have been my life...

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