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Season 5, Episode 678: When harnessing your midlife sexuality becomes your superpower! Join in to listen and to find more about Carissma DeLuca, Rizzi's, juicy journey into sexual and sensual empowerment where she's made a career for herself in creating content, films, and a podcast!

Quotes from Carissma Deluca:
"I feel like I've always been the glue in every situation."
"What better way to like be body positive than to get into plus size porn, right?"
"I try and create stuff that like couples would enjoy together."
"You either are going to jump on the train and ride this motherfucker till it's dead, or you're going to have to back out."
"I just want to set the bar."

Summary: Ruan Willow sits down with the vibrant Carissma DeLuca, a multi-talented creator who dives deep into the realms of sexuality, intimacy, and the transformative power of embracing one’s desires. She shares her unexpected journey into the world of the adult films entertainment, revealing how her personal experiences shaped her perspective on body positivity and self-acceptance.
From navigating a challenging relationship during the pandemic to discovering her passion for OnlyFans and adult films, Carissma's story is one of resilience and empowerment. She discusses the importance of representation in the adult industry, emphasizing the need for body positivity and inclusivity. As they explore the intricacies of sexuality, Ruan and Charisma tackle topics such as the impact of aging on desire, hormones, the liberation that comes with self-discovery, and the unique challenges faced by women in midlife.
Throughout the episode, listeners will be treated to a candid conversation about the realities of working in adult entertainment, the importance of consent and communication in sexual relationships, and the joy of finding one’s voice in a world that often seeks to silence it.

Key Takeaways:
- Carissma’s journey from a traditional life to embracing her sexuality and body positivity.
- The significance of representation in adult entertainment and its impact on viewers.
- Insights into the changing dynamics of desire and libido as women age.
- The importance of consent, communication, and safety in sexual relationships.
Join Ruan and Charisma for an enlightening discussion that encourages listeners to explore their own sexual journeys and embrace their true selves. This episode is a celebration of empowerment, connection, and the beauty of being unapologetically you.

Connect with Carissma: https://linktr.ee/carissmadelucaVideo store:

www.carissmadeluca.com

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Episode 676: The Mardi Gras Unmasking Erotic Fiction Excerpt, with BDSM, Kara Gets Spanked. This excerpt is from the erotica novella "The Mardi Gras Unmasking", by author and podcast host Ruan Willow, and is exclusively in ebook on Amazon and Kindle Unlimited: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/themardigrasunmasking

Also available in paperback and coming soon in audiobook.

This audio excerpt is releasing in preparation for the book releasing soon in audiobook form with a male narrator speaking the male parts. Stay tuned!

Book Blurb: In this multiple-partner why choose, reverse harem BDSM novella, a Mardi Gras party allows the perfect setup for a new Dom to hide his plans from his wife. He orchestrates his grand scheme to fulfill her deepest lusty desires. Love transcends jealousy when Dane gives his wife Kara her secret wish by unmasking her hidden wants in a single blissful evening packed with bountiful sexual pleasure. Much to her delight, and even amidst the rules, and the spanks, the night promises to propel her to the highest sexual heights of her life. Each gratifying encounter keeps Kara blissfully happy all night as she is literally kept in the dark, moaning her way to morning.

The Dom/sub life has the couple crossing the boundaries of traditional marriage, but the way of life seems to be the right fit for them. Rich in sexual content, this story follows a loving couple exploring their sexual fantasies safely at home. Kara feels solid that Dane is the right man for her, even as they are embarking on the risky uncharted lifestyle as a dominant and a submissive in the bedroom--just one year into their marriage. The question is, will Kara enjoy the full reveal in the unmasking of the masquerade?

This book contains light BDSM, an ethical non monogamy relationship style, and is an erotic romance novella.

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Ep 675: Why Choose Shifters and Heat Ratings Author Imogen Knowed on Writing Cozy Sweet Spicy Romance. *watch the video version on YouTube at Ruan Willow Podcaster.

Romance Author Imogen Knowed Reveals the Secrets Behind Writing Polyamorous "Why Choose" Stories.

Ever wondered how authors craft realistic polyamorous romance without relying on supernatural shortcuts? Romance author Imogen Knowed pulls back the curtain on her unique approach to "why choose" stories and shifter romances, explaining why she ditched the fated-mate trope for something far more complex.

In this candid conversation with host Ruan Willow, Imogen discusses her latest works including **Whispers, Whiskers and Wine** and the upcoming **Dates and Dead Bodies**—a cozy murder mystery that blends polyamorous romance with small-town intrigue. She opens up about the challenges of marketing "spicy" romance when platforms suppress erotic content, the wildly subjective nature of heat ratings, and her meticulous research into polyamory to create authentic relationship dynamics.

From her recursive drafting process to using a "naughty words" thesaurus, Imogen shares the nitty-gritty details of crafting explicit scenes while balancing entertainment with subtle education. She explores the evolution of cozy romance toward more explicit content and debates whether fiction should teach readers about anatomy and consent—or simply provide escapist entertainment.

**Ready to dive into the world of authentic polyamorous romance?** Listen to discover how one author is reshaping the genre with realistic characters, thoughtful consent, and unapologetically explicit storytelling.

Key Takeaways:

• Erotic romance faces significant marketing barriers—heat ratings and content warnings can severely limit discoverability.
• She pairs a cozy, “sweet‑and‑spicy” vibe with explicit group sex and polyamory, doing detailed research to portray realistic consent.
• Imogen only started writing impulsively in 2022, drafts as a hybrid plotter‑pantser, and has had to accept she can’t please everyone.

Connect with indie author Imogen Knowed:

Instagram and Threads Imongenknowed

Books:

Whispers, Whiskers, and Wine (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/4okmDhn

Dates and Dead Bodies (affiliate link) https://amzn.to/4nIAOwu

Podcast Host Ruan Willow's latest book release:

John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures, Book 2 in the Servicing the Work Men Series https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/johngiveshiswifehotadventures

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Episode 673: Enjoy a Sensual Sexual Ride Through Ruan's Brain with Erotic Improv as she reads and improvs in her monologue recording. The sensuality and eroticism are on overload with steamy spicy scenes, ASMR sounds, and immersion narration that will undulate your brain through waves of pleasure and braingasm. Romance and sex collide with sensuality in the little, short erotic snippets and scenes. Pleasure is your birthright as are the natural highs your body makes as you climax. It's your baby, take it! It belongs to you!

Enjoy this luxurious immersion into sensuality with the focuses of:

• sexuality,
• health and fitness,
• sexual health,
• mental health,
• mental wellness,
• relationships,
• self care,
• self discovery,
• personal growth,
• pleasure, healing,
• self love
• erotic romance fiction short stories, microfiction shorts

Ruan's books mentioned in the episode:

1. Beach House Views (thriller, erotic romance, diverse characters, suspense, dark romance) on Theo Reads, read chapter 1 for free! https://www.theoreads.com/story/71ba59ce-badd-4472-90af-b2d324c6a332/view
2. John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures, hotwife VIxen, Stag dominant man, swingers, throuple, sex date, age gap, reverse age gap https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/johngiveshiswifehotadventures

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Ep 672: The Unfiltered Truth: What it's like to be an Adult Performer in the Industry with Dante Diggz. Hear it straight from Dante who strives to spread Industry Awareness about what it's really like within the community of the Adult Industry. Sex is labeled as evil and bad by many, hear from a man who speaks his mind about sex, sexuality, and culture. Don't miss as he shares his personal story of sexuality, sexual health, sexual wellness, what it means to perform for the camera, and how this career has affected his personal love life.

# From Warehouse Worker to Adult Industry Success: The Dante Diggz Story

**Ever wondered what it really takes to transition from a regular 9-to-5 to becoming a successful adult performer?** Dante Diggz shares his incredible journey from working at a warehouse to becoming a recognized name in the adult entertainment industry.

In this eye-opening episode, Dante reveals how his background in fitness and the swinger lifestyle naturally led him into content creation when his personal training business declined during the pandemic. He breaks down the realities of turning sexuality into a profession - from the technical challenges of performing while managing camera angles to the rigorous safety protocols that define the industry.

The conversation dives deep into what makes someone truly skilled in intimacy, with Dante emphasizing that great lovers prioritize their partner's pleasure and practice selfless attention to detail. He also discusses the business side, including his Urban X Award nominations, building a brand beyond performing, and the strategic decisions that drive content creation.

Dante doesn't shy away from the sacrifices either - the loss of privacy, relationship challenges, and how the work requires treating intimate moments as professional productions rather than personal connections.

**Ready to hear the unfiltered truth about turning passion into profession? Listen to the full episode now.**

Connect with Dante Diggz on social media platforms as dantediggz https://instagram.com/dantediggz99

Find him also associated with Red Bottom Productions.

Key Takeaways:

• A blue‑collar-to-content-creator pivot: Dante left a warehouse job and personal‑training to monetize sexuality—driven by a swinger lifestyle and fitness—showing sex work can emerge from everyday jobs and subcultures.
• Sex as craft, not intimacy: performers deliberately frame scenes as production—focused on stamina, tailored technique, attentiveness—and separate personal intimacy from on‑camera work.
• Safety and business savvy matter: routine testing, careful navigation of platform limits, awards/fame, and a strategic shift toward production/branding are central to a sustainable career in paid content.

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Ep 670: Erotic Romance fiction excerpt, MMF Age Gap Younger Men, Older Woman, age gap threesome Sex Scene from John Gives His Wife Hot Adventures Book.

Book Blurb:

Laney, John, and Anderson have a new arrangement. In bed, they luckily have a large one at the house. Laney likes the middle of the mattress the best, except for when being draped over the edge for thigh clapping exercises because those give her the most satisfying workouts.

The repairmen still come, the dreamy dryer repair guy, then the flirty young man window washer, and the enthusiastic nerdy IT Technician, who are all at the house in turn to fix all the broken things. They are up for the spicy extras of visiting the house to Laney's ecstatic delight, too, because she loves to be used by them. John, being the alpha male coordinator of the events, is the most efficient top director, but Anderson is never slacking off either as second dominant in command. He keeps watch to be sure Laney's safe, too, as she entertains the visitors to the house. She's the most talented at it, plus she loves being shared!

But Laney's worried. Anderson has met someone, and she fears it will break their new way of life that she loves so much. They all adore their triad union, so why does it have to change? Living the hotwife swinger lifestyle may not be as easygoing and smooth as they once had thought.

This is Book 2 in the Servicing the Work Men Series.

Subtropes list:

power plays, spicy romance, BDSM, impact play, polyamory romance, throuple, alternative lifestyle, wife being shared, empowerment, exhibitionism, voyeurism, married couple, Dom/sub dynamics, strangers to lovers hotwife, reverse age gap older woman, younger man romance relationships, later in life hot, alternative lifestyle education, consent is a turn on and essential.
Get your dirty romance books for women, dirty books for men, filthy fiction (with romance too) from Ruan Willow! She writes adult books for women that are a dirty smutty feel good romance steamy read.

Get the book: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/johngiveshiswifehotadventures

Get Book 1 Servicing the Work Men for only $0.99 cents (through the end of October 2025): https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/servicingtheworkmenherfilthyhotwifeadventures

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Ep 669: Adult Performer Pixxxie LaRue on Extreme Fetish Work and Industry Safety

What happens when a 4'10" performer becomes one of the industry's most sought-after extreme fetish specialists? In this candid interview, adult performer Pixxxie LaRue opens up about her blossoming career, releasing nine DVDs in just one year and specializing in controversial scenes like waterboarding.

LaRue discusses the dual mindset required for extreme performances - maintaining professional awareness while sometimes becoming genuinely immersed in the experience. She emphasizes that **safety measures and consent are always paramount**, crediting Red Bottom Productions Studio for creating secure working environments.

The conversation explores LaRue's journey of sexual exploration and how her work helps others discover new interests safely. She shares insights about her business-minded approach to the industry, leveraging her marketing background to create a unique niche rather than working through traditional agencies.

LaRue also touches on important topics like women's sexual health, the role of self-exploration, and defending adult entertainment as both entertainment and educational content that promotes consent education. She discusses her recent AVN nomination and various platforms where fans can find her content, particularly recommending MintStars, a new sex worker-owned platform.

Ready to hear more about navigating extreme fetish work safely and professionally? Listen to the full episode for LaRue's unfiltered insights into the adult entertainment industry.

Timeline:

00:00:00 - Introducing Pixxxie LaRue Porn Star
00:02:08 - Exploring Extreme Kinks and Boundaries
00:06:12 - Finding Pixxxiie LaRue Online
00:25:03 - Consent and Communication in Adult Films
00:27:15 - Extreme Adult Film Scene Discussion
00:30:46 - Performing with Creativity and Authenticity
00:35:58 - Choosing Authenticity Over Masking
00:45:38 - Consent Makes Everything Better
00:48:10 - Family Support in Adult Entertaiment
00:51:05 - Online Trolls Boost My Views
01:03:15 - Positive Fan Impact and Representation

Key takeaways:

• LaRue maintains a complex dual mindset during extreme scenes, balancing professional awareness with genuine psychological immersion while filming
• The adult industry has developed sophisticated safety protocols for extreme content, with studios like Red Bottom Productions prioritizing secure working environments
• Sex workers are pioneering cryptocurrency-based platforms like MintStars to circumvent traditional financial restrictions and maintain greater control over their businesses

Connect with Pixxxie:

Spicy https://allmylinks.com/pixxxielarue

Social Media Twitter/X - @wee_pixxxie

Social Media
Tiktok - @wee.pixxxie.larue

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Neighborhood Sex Secrets Excerpt Mind Blowing Oral Munch scene... Allen is visiting Alexa at her house and she's home alone so they can get busy right on the living room couch. They chat and then things erupt into super stimulating, ultra hot oral! Get the ebook for FREE right now (only through 9/25/25) on Amazon https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/neighborhoodsexsecrets

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Book blurb:

Alexa has missed out for long enough. Life with her ex had stuck her with a vanilla sex life. All the deep, dark fantasies she had hidden away began to bubble up once she became single. Her journey toward sexual freedom skyrocketed when she learned about neighborhood sex secrets at a pool party where she was suddenly calling two neighbors ‘Daddy’. As she melted into the secret sex world emerging before her in the seemingly boring square mile of homes, she deliciously found herself assimilating into the hidden underworld of an alternative lifestyle.

Her sexual explorations exploded as she let go of traditional societal conventions and chose to take chances. Instead of playing alone in her bedroom, she began to live out the raunchiest depths of her fantasies as her new partners set out to help her fulfill her sexual bucket list. Alexa spread her wings doing taboo acts in real life that, until then, she’d only watched on a screen or lived merely in her dreams. Her Daddies became her guardians, deliverers of her desires, and directors of sexual heights she never thought were possible.

But then her new world gets threatened. Someone doesn’t want her in the new triad of Daddy, Daddy, and good girl. Not only can the good guys turn bad, but bad guys also come back, and only the protected good girls can withstand the storms. Through it all, she finally understands one thing for sure, she is most definitely a good girl, and good girls have the most fun when they follow their ‘Daddies’.

An HEA spicy romance, a Daddy Dom/submissive story of control and submission that flourishes as mutual sexual freedoms. The book contains elements of mild BDSM, multiple partners, exhibitionism, cheating, experimentation, and lots of pleasure. ALL acts are consensual and characters are 18 and over. Enjoy a story of fantasy later-in-life exploration into open sexuality. Some dark romance themes.

New audiobook release Mallory and Derek Attend Secret Parties https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/malloryandderekattendsecretp

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