#923. Why do you love the way that you love… and why do you keep repeating the same patterns?

This week, Kaitlyn sits down with attachment theory expert and best-selling author Thais Gibson to break down the 4 attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized — and how they shape every relationship in your life.

Thais shares her own powerful story of trauma and addiction at just 15 years old, and the moment she discovered that your subconscious mind — not your conscious mind — is driving who you’re attracted to, why you get triggered, and why certain relationships feel impossible to walk away from.

They also talk about how attachment styles are formed, how they can change, and the first step to becoming more secure.

If you’ve ever wondered “Why am I like this in relationships?” — this episode is for you.

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• (4:38) — Thais shares her traumatic upbringing and addiction at just 15 years old.
• (12:21) — The 4 attachment styles explained (and how to identify yours) Secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant — and how each one affects your relationships.
• (32:29) — How to rewire your core wounds and change subconscious patterns.
• (58:00) — The first step to healing your attachment style.

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#922. Jess Val Ortiz knows what it means to hear “no.” From brutal Broadway auditions to building a massive online following, she opens up about rejection, resilience, and creating your own path when nothing goes as planned.

Jess also shares where she’s really at emotionally following her recent breakup, the clarity that came with it, and why she believes heartbreak can lead you closer to yourself.

She reflects on the pressure she faced at a young age surrounding her appearance, how it shaped her confidence, and why this season of her life is all about choosing herself.

Plus, wild audition stories, behind-the-scenes Broadway culture, and an unforgettable self-tape moment that did not go as planned!

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• (1:58) Jess takes us inside the brutal reality of Broadway auditions.
• (18:28) Jess opens up about her recent breakup and where she’s honestly at emotionally right now.
• (39:40) Jess shares how growing up her mom pushed her toward plastic surgery and how that experience affected her relationship with herself.
• (53:53) A hilarious self-tape story that proves anything can happen when you least expect it.

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#921. Arielle Kebbel has spent over two decades in Hollywood, but this conversation reveals the parts of her story she’s never shared like this before.

From booking Gilmore Girls just days after moving to Los Angeles at 17, to nearly landing iconic roles that could have changed the course of her career, Arielle opens up about the fear, pressure, and survival mindset that quietly drove her for years.

She shares a deeply honest update on her relationship status, what it really takes to break your own patterns, and why choosing yourself can be both the hardest and most empowering decision you’ll ever make. We talk about the emotional pull that led her to adopt her wild Mustang, Snow White, the unexpected role horses have played in her healing, potentially producing the long-anticipated John Tucker Must Die sequel, and stepping into her current meaningful role in I Can Only Imagine 2!

This is a raw, vulnerable conversation about identity, timing, and what happens when you finally stop running from yourself.

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• (5:01) — Arielle’s honest relationship status update!
• (20:04) — The emotional story behind adopting her wild Mustang, Snow White
• (30:15) — Booking Gilmore Girls days after moving to L.A.
• (37:50) — Her fear around money, overworking & survival mode
• (45:55) — The truth about the John Tucker Must Die sequel

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#920. Before Outlander, Sophie Skelton was working night shifts, facing rejection, and waiting on an audition she wouldn’t hear back about for nearly a year! Then came the trip to Los Angeles where everything went wrong — and the moment that would CHANGE HER LIFE!

In this deeply honest conversation, Sophie opens up about the discipline that shaped her, the pressure of carrying an iconic role for nearly a decade, and the self-doubt that didn’t disappear when success finally arrived.

She also shares the emotional responsibility of stepping into a real woman’s life in her new film, I Can Only Imagine 2, and why some stories stay with you long after the cameras stop rolling.

This episode is about risk, resilience, and what happens when you trust yourself before anyone else does!

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• (06:15) Sophie shares how being forced into ballet at age two shaped her discipline and resilience.
• (15:21) Why she chose acting with no backup plan — even when everyone told her not to.
• (23:22) She waited nearly a year after auditioning for Outlander — and refused to watch the show during that time.
• (25:46) The chaotic audition trip where everything went wrong — but changed her life.
• (52:25) Sophie reveals she still doesn’t know how Outlander ends.

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#919. This episode is a full-circle moment in every sense!

A few years ago, Blaire Frey came on Off The Vine asking for a boyfriend and Kaitlyn fully committed to her matchmaking era. What started as a fun segment called The Blairette turned into a real love story… one that changed Blaire’s life in ways no one could have predicted!!!

In this conversation, Kaitlyn, Blaire, Luke ( and a very special appearance from baby Dawson) look back on how it all began, then fast-forward through the moments that reshaped everything: marriage, motherhood, an early NICU journey, loss, gratitude, and the identity shifts that come with growing up in real time.

This is the update you’ve all been asking for! An episode that reminds you life doesn’t always go according to plan — but sometimes it gives you something even better!

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• (6:20) The birth of The Blairette — asking for a boyfriend, the five F’s, and how a fun segment turned into something very real!!
• (15:15) Luke & Blaire’s proposal story.
• (22:40) Dawson’s early arrival — navigating an unexpected NICU journey and all the emotions that came with it.
• (25:00) Grief and gratitude — losing their beloved dog, Waffle
• (47:19) When content doesn’t perform — comparison, pressure, and being your own worst critic.

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#918. Dating advice is everywhere — and somehow it’s made dating feel harder.

This week, Kaitlyn sits down with Blaine Anderson, a dating coach and matchmaker who works with thousands of men behind the scenes of modern dating. She shares what women rarely get to hear: how men experience dating, why “good guys” get overlooked, and where connections quietly fall apart.

They talk attraction, effort vs. interest, dating apps, and how to tell if a man is being intentional or just keeping his options open. With Valentine’s Day around the corner, they also get real about feeling behind, comparison, and staying open to love without settling.

If dating has you confused, burnt out, or questioning the rules — this episode will make you feel clearer, not broken.

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• (12:29) Why “nice guys” get overlooked.
• (17:05) The biggest shift in dating over the last 5–10 years — and why so many people feel burnt out right now.
• (45:52) How women can tell if a man is being intentional… or quietly keeping his options open.
• (55:08) The unexpected dating dealbreaker Blaine hears all the time.

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#917. This week on Off the Vine, Kaitlyn sits down with actress and author Sarah Shahi for a conversation that’s raw, funny, and completely unfiltered!

Sarah opens up about growing up feeling like she didn’t quite fit in, her family’s escape from Iran, and the winding path that took her from pageants and the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders to Hollywood — including a chance encounter with legendary director Robert Altman that changed everything. She shares honest reflections on motherhood, divorce, and what it looks like to rebuild when the life you planned no longer fits.

They get into the Sex/Life TV show phenomenon, the flood of DMs from women around the world that followed, and how that moment sparked her new book, Life Is Lifey. Nothing is off-limits — from intimacy on set to trusting your gut, fighting fair, and choosing yourself one step at a time.

And just when you think you’ve heard it all… Sarah reveals her favorite chapter she wrote — spoiler: it’s the one about blow jobs. You don’t want to miss this one!!

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EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS:

• (6:15) — Sarah shares that her father was on a hit list to be executed — and how he escaped!
• (16:05) — The chance encounter with legendary director Robert Altman that changed Sarah’s life and launched her acting career.
• (31:50) — How the Sex/Life TV show led to an influx of DMs from women — and sparked the idea for her new book, Life Is Lifey.
• (44:55) — Sarah reveals her favorite chapter she wrote in the book… yes, it’s the one about blow jobs!!

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#916. In this Solo Dolo episode, Kaitlyn is coming at you from a very real Nashville winter wonderland — aka an ice storm that knocked out power for tens of thousands of people and turned everyday life upside down!! From hotel vibes to living like a displaced human, she shares what it’s actually like navigating this historic storm and long outages that have plagued Music City for dayyyys.

She also talks about asking for help without guilt, protecting your peace like a superpower, and how dancing — even under pressure — can be a form of joy, expression, and full-circle healing.

Grab your headphones (or watch on YouTube) and join Kaitlyn as she riffs, laughs, and shares her thoughts on everything from surviving storms to finding little moments of happiness amidst chaos.

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