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What happens when the person you love discovers the part of your life you fear they’ll never accept? This week on Nutty and Slutty, Janine and Isadora turn their attention to the men who stood beside them through bipolar disorder and escorting — until, for one reason or another, they didn’t.

Janine looks back at the college boyfriend who remained remarkably supportive after her hospitalization and bipolar diagnosis. But as questions about marriage, children, heredity, religion, and social class crept into the relationship, she began to wonder whether his family saw her as a whole person — or simply as the illness she carried.

Isadora recalls falling for a man while hiding the truth about her work as an escort. When he discovered the secret, his heartbreak exploded into rage, a room full of feathers, and a frightening campaign of stalking that followed her all the way to an acting job in Boston.

Together, Janine and Isadora ask a question that has haunted them both: When someone rejects you, how do you know whether they dislike who you are — or what they think your label says about you? It’s a raw conversation about love, stigma, shame, judgment, and the moment you decide you’re finished apologizing for your own life.

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Welcome to NUTTY & SLUTTY
Where Mental Health, Sexuality and Unfiltered Truth Take Center Stage

NUTTY & SLUTTY is a bold, sex-positive podcast exploring the messy, complicated and often hilarious intersections of mental health, sexuality and real life — without shame, filters or pretense.

Hosted by Janine Noel (living with bipolar disorder) and Isadora O’Boto (ex-escort), this show brings together two radically honest perspectives for conversations that are as raw as they are insightful. From navigating mood swings and medication to unpacking the realities of sex work and desire, nothing is off-limits.

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Isadora O’Boto (co-host) is a Juilliard Drama grad. Under the pen name Sephe Haven, she is the author of two award-winning memoirs: My Whorizontal Life and A Someday Courtesan, and playwright/performer of the solo show: “My Whorizontal Life: The Show!” Isadora co-hosted the podcast My Index to Sex with Lynn Ferguson. Find her at: isadoraoboto.com

Janine Noel (co-host) is creator and host of Bipolar She podcast, where guests sh...

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A late-night knock and voices at Janine’s door send her dog barking — and leave her wondering whether anyone will believe what she heard. In this episode of the Nutty and Slutty podcast, Janine and Isadora explore how stigma can lead women to question their own experiences, even when their personal safety is at risk.

Janine opens up about living publicly with bipolar disorder and the fear that others will dismiss her as dramatic, unstable, or unreliable. She recalls being mugged at gunpoint, enduring two court hearings, and receiving victim-blaming responses that taught her to stay silent rather than risk not being believed.

Isadora connects Janine’s experience to her former life as an escort, when sex workers warned one another about dangerous clients because reporting rape or violence could lead to judgment, disbelief, or arrest. Together, they examine the damaging stereotypes surrounding mental illness and sex work — and what happens when marginalized women are treated as unreliable narrators of their own lives.

It’s a candid conversation about bipolar stigma, sex-worker safety, victim blaming, trauma, credibility, and learning to advocate for yourself. Sometimes asking for a better lock, a security light, or someone’s help is more than a practical act — it’s a way of reclaiming the belief that your voice, your body, and your safety matter.

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Welcome to NUTTY & SLUTTY
Where Mental Health, Sexuality and Unfiltered Truth Take Center Stage

NUTTY & SLUTTY is a bold, sex-positive podcast exploring the messy, complicated and often hilarious intersections of mental health, sexuality and real life — without shame, filters or pretense.

Hosted by Janine Noel (living with bipolar disorder) and Isadora O’Boto (ex-escort), this show brings together two radically honest perspectives for conversations that are as raw as they are insightful. From navigating mood swings and medication to unpacking the realities of sex work and desire, nothing is off-limits.

_________________________________________________

Isadora O’Boto (co-host) is a Juilliard Drama grad. Under the pen name Sephe Haven, she is the author of two award-winning memoirs: My Whorizontal Life and A Someday Courtesan, and playwright/performer of the solo show: “My Whorizontal Life: The Show!” Isadora co-hosted the podcast My Index to Sex with Lynn Ferguson. Find her at: isadoraoboto.com

Janine Noel (co-host) is creator and host of Bipolar She podcast, where guests sh...

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What happens when a straight female escort steps outside the familiar world of male clients? Isadora looks back on her first LGBTQ+ encounters in sex work — from an unexpected threesome to an appointment with a married businesswoman hoping to discover whether another woman could give her the pleasure she was missing at home.

As Isadora’s stories unfold, she admits just how unprepared she was. How do you seduce a woman when everything you know has been learned from seducing men? Her solution was to remain curious, stay present, and approach the experience by imagining what she herself might want — even when the reality proved more complicated than the fantasy.

That leads Janine to examine her own sexuality: her lifelong attraction to men, her fascination with androgyny, and her lingering curiosity about being with a woman. Would dating provide an answer — or would a female escort offer a safer, simpler way to explore the question without pretending to want a relationship?

Along the way, we talk about sexual fluidity, the differences between stripping and escorting, and the practical realities of safer sex. Isadora also explains how escorting gave her something she hadn’t always had in her personal life: the authority to insist on protection, to say no without apology, and to make her own boundaries nonnegotiable.

Send us Fan Mail

Welcome to NUTTY & SLUTTY
Where Mental Health, Sexuality and Unfiltered Truth Take Center Stage

NUTTY & SLUTTY is a bold, sex-positive podcast exploring the messy, complicated and often hilarious intersections of mental health, sexuality and real life — without shame, filters or pretense.

Hosted by Janine Noel (living with bipolar disorder) and Isadora O’Boto (ex-escort), this show brings together two radically honest perspectives for conversations that are as raw as they are insightful. From navigating mood swings and medication to unpacking the realities of sex work and desire, nothing is off-limits.

_________________________________________________

Isadora O’Boto (co-host) is a Juilliard Drama grad. Under the pen name Sephe Haven, she is the author of two award-winning memoirs: My Whorizontal Life and A Someday Courtesan, and playwright/performer of the solo show: “My Whorizontal Life: The Show!” Isadora co-hosted the podcast My Index to Sex with Lynn Ferguson. Find her at: isadoraoboto.com

Janine Noel (co-host) is creator and host of Bipolar She podcast, where guests sh...