Today, I tackle one of the most critical and challenging conversations we need to have in America right now—the intersection of law enforcement heroism and accountability. While there are truly heroic police officers who risk their lives to protect and serve and deserve our deepest gratitude, recent events have forced us to confront systemic issues that threaten the safety of everyone, including the good officers themselves.

Welcome to this important episode of Now I Get It with Dr. Andy. I'm exploring the legal concept of brandishing weapons, examining why the official response to questionable shootings is so dangerous, and explaining how normalizing violence by officers in uniform puts every single law enforcement officer at greater risk. I'll also discuss why systemic cover-ups exist, how senators are responding, and why we must maintain perspective while demanding full accountability. This isn't about being anti-police—it's about protecting the integrity of law enforcement and ensuring the safety of both officers and citizens.

In this episode, you will learn:

(00:00) Why there are truly heroic cops who deserve our deepest gratitude and support

(01:30) How systemic cover-ups work, including medical examiners answering to sheriffs

(03:11) What brandishing means legally and why it's both illegal and dangerous

(04:20) Why we don't fear for our lives when police brandish weapons—and why that presumption is now threatened

(06:06) The details of what happened in Minnesota and why it was clearly murder

(06:45) How normalizing police violence creates deadly danger for every officer

(08:30) Why senators holding up ICE funding is an important accountability measure

(09:02) How to maintain perspective: these incidents are still rarities among thousands of honorable officers

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In this episode of Now I Get It, I'm diving into a 2012 government report that's been sitting on the Customs and Border Patrol website, and what it reveals is deeply disturbing. This report examines patterns in border shooting incidents, particularly those involving motor vehicles, and uncovers a troubling practice where agents may be intentionally positioning themselves in the path of vehicles to create justification for using deadly force. The findings suggest that rather than employing defensive tactics like getting out of the way, some agents are shooting at drivers of non-violent suspects who pose no threat beyond a moving vehicle.

What makes this particularly relevant right now is how these patterns mirror what we've witnessed in recent high-profile incidents. I walk you through the specific language in the report that describes how agents create pretexts for shootings, the ineffectiveness of shooting at moving vehicles, and the policy violations that continue to occur. This episode challenges us to pay closer attention to law enforcement practices, recognize dangerous patterns, and demand greater accountability when deadly force is used under questionable circumstances.

In this episode, you will learn:

(00:00) The context behind disturbing border patrol shooting patterns and why I'm examining this government report now

(01:19) What the 2012 Customs and Border Patrol report reveals about shootings at motor vehicles

(02:46) The pattern of agents positioning themselves in vehicle exit paths to justify deadly force

(02:46) Why shooting at a moving vehicle is ineffective and creates greater danger

(03:18) The actual CBP policy on discharging firearms at moving vehicles and how it's being violated

(04:36) How conflicting commands can create pretexts for non-compliance and justify lethal action

(05:35) Frame-by-frame analysis findings from a recent incident and the denial of medical aid

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In this episode of Now I Get It, I take a hard, compassionate look at one of the most tragic patterns I see in relationships: what I call the death spiral. It’s the painful process where two people genuinely love each other, yet slowly drift apart—not because love is gone, but because it’s never truly felt. I explain how our personalities shape the way we give and receive love, and why so many couples unknowingly miss each other despite constant effort.

I walk through how this spiral begins with good intentions, escalates through frustration and withdrawal, and often ends quietly—when the fighting stops and hope fades. But this episode isn’t about blame or despair. It’s about awareness and repair. By understanding personality-driven love expressions and learning to recognize what truly resonates with your partner, it’s possible to reverse the cycle, rebuild connection, and restore the mutual affection that brought you together in the first place.

In this episode, you will learn:

(00:00) Why loving someone deeply isn’t enough to sustain a relationship

(01:10) How personality shapes the way we give and receive love

(02:17) Why both partners often feel they’re giving more than they get

(03:15) How “trying harder” can accelerate relational breakdown

(04:00) The stages of the relationship death spiral—from criticism to silence

(05:11) How understanding love languages tied to personality can reverse the spiral

(05:45) How mutual appreciation and attraction can be restored over time

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