#203. Is your relationship just going through a rough patch — or is it time to walk away? This week, I’m joined by relationship therapist and author Laura Caruso (The Empathy Deficit) for a candid conversation about love, conflict, and compatibility. We talk about how she dates as a therapist, what really happens in couples therapy, and how she personally handled a recent breakup. Laura breaks down the difference between healthy conflict and chronic struggle, and shares tools for navigating relationships where one partner is anxious and the other is avoidant. Whether you're single, dating, or deep in a long-term relationship, this episode is full of real talk and insight. We also touch on repair vs. rupture, attachment styles, and how to know if it’s worth working through.

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#202. In this solo episode, I’m breaking down everything I’ve learned from 10 years of creating content online — from blogging in 2016 to building a six-figure brand today. Whether your goal is to become a full-time influencer or just earn some extra income on the side, this episode is your permission slip to start. We’ll talk pivots, sustainable growth, the real ways people make money online (even with a small audience), and why you don’t need to be famous to build something powerful. If you’ve ever thought “I could do that…” — you can. Here’s how.

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#201. Jade Beguelin is the co-founder of 4AM Skin — a cheeky skincare brand for girls who work hard, play harder, and sometimes fall asleep in their makeup. In this episode, Jade shares how she went from a high-stress finance job to building a brand that’s redefining what beauty can look like. We talk about career pivots, the power of leaning on your network, and the importance of putting yourself out there.

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#200. To celebrate 200 episodes of Note to Self, I’m tackling listener questions ranging from crash outs, to the *benefits* of depression, to my personal regrets, and things I’m not supposed to admit about my finances. I hope this episode can make you feel more normal, more understood, or at the very least, entertained. Thank you for letting me be a little part of your week every week. I appreciate you so much– here’s to 200 more eps!

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#199. In this installment of ASK P, we’re talking about various relationship-related topics like infidelity in long-term partnerships, boredom within your partnership, and what happens when you make your partner the center of your universe.

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#199. I’m sharing my spring favorites from styles, to skincare, to hair & makeup and more in today’s chatty episode.

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#196. You don’t need another green juice — you need to clean up your feed. In this episode, we’re going on a digital detox: unfollowing the people who make us spiral, muting the noise, and decluttering our digital lives for more clarity, calm, and confidence. If your phone is frying your brain, this is your sign to unplug and reset — one scroll-free moment at a time.

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