Welcome to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y., where the wine is chilled, the advice is unsolicited, and the friendships are real.

In our 2nd episode we explore our segments What Grinds My Gears, Weekly hot topic on “cutting” and teen issues, and Am I the Asshole? 🤗 Pull up a chair, pour a fresh cup of coffee, and a glass of your favorite toddy, and join us for Episode 2. Buckle up ~ it’s about to get unfiltered, a little unhinged, and absolutely unforgettable. Not your grandma’s advice column! We are so excited you’re here!

Show Notes:

📌 Source of the First “Dear Abby” Column — January 9, 1956

• The very first Dear Abby column—written by Pauline Phillips under the pen name Abigail Van Buren—was published on January 9, 1956, in the San Francisco Chronicle

https://www.sfgate.com/entertainment/article/How-Dear-Abby-column-started-at-The-Chronicle-3175255.php?utm

The 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
🌐 Website: https://988lifeline.org
📞 Call or text 988 – free, confidential support 24/7

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

https://youtu.be/rC4Bbarl6Go

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.

This week on Not So Dear Abby, a Christian widow wants to confess a decades-old affair to her brother-in-law (who just so happens to be newly single).

We crown dogs superior to humans (Hotels, take note! Fido never smoked in your rooms or wrecked the furniture).

A wedding AITA: after planning the wedding and helping the bride find a dress…she’s not invited. Meanwhile, her husband is standing proudly with the family. WHAT?! Red flags flying everywhere!

What Grinds Our Gears: “Now you’re mad” (instant rage button), endless workplace meetings (#FreeTammy), and yes online dating lies.

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.

Join this week's host Laura & co-hosts Tammy, Shelly & CYN as we talk about online dating situations and unsolicited photos!

🎙 Episode Title:
Online Dating, Unsolicited Photos & Facebook Games

📄 Episode Summary:
This week on Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast, we’re diving into the messy, funny, and sometimes cringe-worthy world of modern dating. From swiping right to sending way too much, way too soon, online dating is full of pitfalls—and we’re talking about the big one: unsolicited explicit photos. Why do some people treat it like a greeting card, and how should you handle it if you’re on the receiving end?

We’re also unpacking the social media side of relationships with Not So Dear ABBY letters.
Expect some laughs, some real talk, and maybe a few red flags to look out for along the way.

🔍 In This Episode:

The do’s and don’ts of online dating (spoiler: unsolicited pics are a don’t)

Why boundaries and respect matter more than ever

💬 Join the Conversation:
Have you had a wild online dating experience—or thoughts on posting your relationship status online? Share your story with me!

📌 Connect:
FaceBook: @NotSoDearAbbyPodcast
Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

🎧 Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—new episodes every Tuesday!

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.

This week on Not So Dear Abby we’re talking about husbands and their wild ideas. One wife wrote in fuming because her husband didn’t want her to cut her hair short—Abby told him her scissors, her choice. Another swapped out his wife’s car for a truck because “they didn’t need it”… yeah, she’s not exactly revving with excitement.

Of course, we can’t just leave it there. We spiral into clearance stickers that are practically superglued, how social media has desensitized us to showing we actually care, and plenty of our own chaos in between.

Our advice? Equal parts sass, sense, and side-eye.

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.

This week, it’s all about the sisterhood, both sweet and sour. We dig into a Dear Abby letter from Smothered in PA, whose sister has no concept of boundaries and somehow ropes in the in-laws. Then we unravel a DNA-test disaster that turned one family upside down over a misunderstanding about dads, secrets, and science. Plus, we talk family meetings (yes, with toe-pinching Tammy and slurping Mitchel), what it really means to be an aunt, and why sometimes the messiest family stories make the best laughs.

Not your grandma’s advice column… unless grandma’s on 23andMe.

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.

This week on Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast, we dive into some wild relationship dynamics: from a wife nicknamed “Mildred the dead wife,” to juggling young coworkers and their office romance drama, to dealing with a longtime partner who is suddenly into an overnight co-ed hobby meetup group… and swingers? 🍍 Along the way, we talk about what happens when love, betrayal, and illness collide.

Two full readings of Dear Abby:

• “Dead Wife’s Memory Haunts Man’s Romance With Widow” - (8/27/1991 UExpress https://uexpress.com/life/dearabby/1991/08/27)

• “Widow Fears That Wearing A Wig Is False Advertising” - (3/17/2017 The Lufkin Daily News)

And of course, our “What Grinds Our Gears” segment gets fired up about sandwich shop sins: sloppy builds, glove misuse, and the sacred art of sandwich respect. (Jimmy John 3:16: “Make thy sandwich right.”)

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.

This week on Not So Dear A.B.B.Y., the ladies dive into some jaw-dropping real-life advice column stories and serve them up with their signature sass and honesty.

Double Life Drama: A wife finds herself in a 16-year marriage to a man who’s juggling another partner on the side. Can you really “have your cake and eat it too”?

Spanking in the Courtroom?! We unpack the shocking case where a U.S. judge actually gave a husband permission to spank his wife when she “misbehaves” and how quickly discipline can turn into abuse.

What’s Grinding Our Gears: From daily irritations to personal pet peeves, the crew vents about what’s been testing their patience this week.

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.

In this episode of Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast, we’re covering it all from the way we talk to ourselves, to the little everyday annoyances that drive us nuts, What Grinds My Gears, to an all new “Am I the Asshole?” scenario you won’t want to miss. Also all new Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. letters that we discuss and cuss about!

We’ll dig into the power of self-talk and how it shapes our mindset, vent about the small things that really grind our gears, and put our judgment caps on to decide if someone crossed the line in their AITA story. It’s equal parts relatable, funny, and thought-provoking

In This Episode:

• A full reading from the original Dear Abby column (2/25/1968 Times-Union)
• Our take on how Abby’s advice holds up today
• What Grinds My Gears
• AITA
• NOT So Dear A.B.B.Y. Letters

Send a comment, or advice questions, or say hello! We can not respond, but could answer you in a future podcast! Thanks for being here :)

See You Next Tuesday!
Thanks for tuning in to Not So Dear A.B.B.Y. Podcast! Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and join the conversation. New episodes drop every Tuesday—so mark your calendar and we’ll See You Next Tuesday! 🎙

Not your Grandma's Advice Column!

Connect:
Facebook: NotSoDearAbbyPodcast: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/1C3otN5Q2j/

Email: notsodearabbypodcast@gmail.com

Listen Now and Subscribe:
Available wherever you get your podcasts—don’t forget to follow so you never miss an episode.