What if battling porn urges is actually keeping you stuck?

What if the urge isn't your enemy, but a part of you actually just trying to help?

What if freedom isn't won through fighting, but through befriending?

In this episode, I sit down with Jenna Riemersma, bestselling author, licensed therapist, and Internal Family Systems (IFS) expert.

I was so excited to have Jenna on the podcast, as her work has had a huge impact on me and my life. Her book, Altogether You was life-changing for me, and we also discuss her new book, Move Toward, which takes revolutionary IFS principles and distills them into a simple, but radical 3-step tool anyone can use to completely change the way we approach our urges.

What you'll learn:

• Why the parts inside you that drive porn use are actually good (even though the behavior isn't)
• The difference between being the "conductor" vs. letting parts "drive the bus"
• How to turn toward the urge with curiosity and compassion instead of battling and judgment
• The 3-step practice begin befriending your urges instead of battling them
• Why the next time you feel the urge, you should hold it in your hand

If you're tired of fighting and ready for a different approach, this episode is for you.

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Jenna's website:

⁠https://jennariemersma.com/⁠

Jenna's free guided exercises

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Have you ever noticed that the harder you fight a porn urge, the more intense it seems to get? Do you ever feel like you have been in a battle against porn for years and somehow keep losing ground?

What if I told you that treating porn urges like a battle is actually one of the main reasons you are still stuck, and that the guys who get free are the ones who stop fighting altogether?

In this episode you are going to discover why resisting and battling porn urges actually makes them stronger, and why everything you have been told about fighting harder and using more willpower is working against you.

You are also going to hear one of the most helpful analogies for understanding how to handle urges effectively: the toddler tantrum. It will completely reframe how you think about the moment the urge hits.

After listening to this episode you are going to walk away with a completely new way of thinking about porn urges and a clear, practical plan for what to do instead of fighting when the urge shows up.

Take the next step:

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Have you noticed that you tend to shame and beat yourself up about your porn habit? Do you feel showing yourself some compassion is light years away?

What if I told you that shaming yourself is actually keeping you stuck, and stirring in some self-compassion is actually key to paving the way to lasting freedom?

In this episode you are going to discover why self-compassion is one of the most overlooked and most powerful ingredients in the freedom journey, and how the level of compassion you show yourself is directly connected to how free you will become.

You are also going to hear a simple three word phrase you can start using today to begin making the shift from shame to compassion, both when urges hit and after a slip.

After listening to this episode you are going to walk away understanding exactly why shame keeps you stuck in the porn cycle and how to break it with a tool so simple you can use it in seconds. This one shift can change everything about how you pursue freedom.

Take the next step:

📱Get the Frontline Toolkit app - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/toolkit⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

🗺️ Download the free PATH Plan - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/plan⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

📖 Download the free Missing Piece Guide - ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠heisfree.me/guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠