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  • DAVE AND I UNPACK THE RACHEL BERNSTEIN EPISODE

    DAVE AND I UNPACK THE RACHEL BERNSTEIN EPISODE
    2026/08/18
    Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser — "Unpacking Rachel Bernstein: Cults, Narcissism & the Cultic Family System" In this episode, Vanessa and co-host Dave break down their conversation with cult expert and therapist Rachel Bernstein, connecting the dots between cult dynamics and narcissistic abuse. Topics covered: Cults come in all shapes and sizes — from Scientology and NXIVM to cultic family systems hiding in plain sightSarcasm as microaggression — how "death by a thousand cuts" through backhanded compliments and passive aggression causes long-term damage, often without conscious intentThe cycle of normalized abuse — how toxic communication patterns pass through generations, and what it means to be a cycle breakerFinancial control as a cult tactic — how narcissistic parents (and cults like Scientology) use money to keep people trapped and "in check"No contact with toxic family — why it's not a TikTok trend, and how toxic parents out themselves in comment sectionsSocietal clichés that protect abusers — "blood is thicker than water," "honor thy mother and father," and how narcissists weaponize these to maintain controlWealth and dysfunction — why high-income families and "perfect" social media images often hide the most dysfunctionThe gender divide in dating — why women are opting out of relationships, the stagnation of men in the dating world, arrested development, and the manosphereAccountability and evolution — why admitting you were wrong is one of the most attractive qualities a person can haveVanessa's personal journey — from "cult of one" (toxic relationship) to helping others heal, and why she's starting to openly say "I was in a cult"Nostalgia and tech — how social media disconnects people and why going back to basics matters for kids and adults alikeDestigmatizing cult survivorship — the overlap between cult recovery and narcissistic abuse recovery: trauma bonding, cognitive dissonance, deprogramming, and finding yourself again TIME STAMPS: 00:00 Podcast Introduction 01:17 Rachel Bernstein Preview 01:34 Meet Dave Co Host 02:07 Cult Abuse Realization 03:13 Sarcasm Microaggressions 07:13 Passive Aggression Damage 09:01 Toxic Communication Example 11:33 Financial Control Tactics 12:34 Politics And Narcissism 15:56 No Contact And Cliches 20:37 Dating Apps And Values 27:15 Accountability Is Attractive 28:10 Social Media Backlash 29:01 Bots and Trolls 30:40 Dating Divide Today 32:08 Men Need to Evolve 37:15 Role Models and Therapy 40:36 What Women Want Now 42:39 High Value Myth 44:34 Back to Real Connection 46:42 Nostalgia and Old Tech 51:54 Destigmatizing Cult Trauma 55:52 Closing and Resources Key takeaways: Passive aggression is one of the most dangerous abuse tactics because it moves slowly and flies under the radarNarcissistic abuse doesn't only happen in romantic relationships — it shows up in families, finances, religion, and politicsRecovery from a cult and recovery from narcissistic abuse require the same tools: deprogramming, rebuilding identity, and understanding mind controlThe political landscape (Trump, the manosphere, dating apps) mirrors the same coercive control patterns seen in abusive relationships
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  • RACHEL BERNSTEIN

    RACHEL BERNSTEIN
    2026/08/11
    Episode Summary In this powerful conversation, Vanessa Reiser, LCSW, sits down with Rachel Bernstein — licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, cult specialist, and host of the acclaimed podcast Indoctrination — for a wide-ranging discussion on cult dynamics, narcissistic abuse, the loss of self, and the road to reclaiming your identity. Topics Covered How Rachel got into cult recovery work — a personal family experience with Scientology and a Holocaust-conscious upbringing that shaped her awareness of groupthinkWhy Scientology is the ultimate "masterclass" in cult-of-one domestic abuse dynamics — isolation, brainwashing, celebrity credibility, and financial entrapment ("freeload debt")The loss of self inside toxic relationships — how victims gradually take on a persona shaped by their abuserThe unique challenge faced by those born into cults who have no prior identity to return toPractical tools for rebuilding identity: starting with who you are not, the DBT Pleasant Events List, and learning to make choices free from an abuser's influenceThe red car analogy: how even acts of rebellion can keep an abuser central — and what true autonomy looks likeThe danger of passive aggression: why it flies under the radar, how it chips away at self-worth over time, and why it may be more insidious than overt abuseThe "God bless her" move — how toxic communicators in fundamentalist and cult settings wrap insults in false benevolenceHow to respond to passive aggression without absorbing itNarcissism, cult dynamics, and groupthink in current politics and cultureRachel's new app, journal, support groups, and upcoming book (expected February) TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Podcast Setup 01:17 Meet Rachel Bernstein 02:25 Rachel Origin Story 04:45 Scientology As Template 08:37 Leaving And Aftermath 09:49 Losing Your Identity 13:22 Rebuilding The Self 16:04 Choices Without Control 19:09 Red Car Rebellion 21:47 Boldness And Empowerment 24:40 Radical Self Empowerment 25:19 Power And Patriarchy 27:32 Passive Aggression Red Flags 30:07 Spotting The Hidden Jab 32:09 Calm Comebacks And Boundaries 34:32 When Jokes Become Gaslighting 40:43 Passive Aggression In Cults 43:03 Bless Your Heart Insults 45:19 Where To Find Rachel 48:00 Final Takeaways And Sign Off Resources & Links Mentioned Rachel Bernstein's website: rachelbernsteintherapy.comPodcast: Indoctrination (weekly)Rachel's journaling/artwork app for survivors of manipulationBook: Healing the Shame That Binds You by John BradshawDBT Pleasant Events List (free PDF — Google it)Rachel's upcoming book: case-study-based, expected February Content Warning This episode contains discussion of emotional abuse, cult involvement, narcissistic abuse, coercive control, and references to Jonestown/mass homicide. Listener discretion is advised. Connect with Vanessa Instagram / YouTube: @vanessareiserlcsw Patreon: [link] This podcast is for mature audiences and is not a substitute for therapy, legal, or medical advice. Guest opinions are their own.
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    49 分
  • DAVE AND I UNPACK THE DR. CATHERINE BARRETT EPISODE

    DAVE AND I UNPACK THE DR. CATHERINE BARRETT EPISODE
    2026/08/04
    EPISODE SUMMARY In this powerful episode, Vanessa Reiser and co-host Dave open with a light catch-up on shifting East Coast weather and its surprising impact on mood, before diving into a heartfelt tribute to their friend, colleague, and brilliant clinician Dr. Cathy Barrett. They praise her authenticity, her deep commitment to disenfranchised and LGBTQ+ communities, and her unique ability to bridge clinical insight with real-world experience in forensic and criminal settings. The conversation explores how even highly trained experts can find themselves in relationships with the very personalities they study, helping reduce shame for survivors who feel "they should have known better." They discuss how power-centric environments like Hollywood and social media amplify performative, attention-seeking behavior, and why politics and global events can feel profoundly triggering for survivors due to pattern recognition, misinformation, cult-like dynamics, blackmail, Epstein-related allegations, and fears of escalating danger during narcissistic "collapse." The episode breaks down overt vs. covert narcissism, rigid behavioral patterns, the many faces of gaslighting, and practical tools like journaling early red flags, testing empathy with a simple "no," and understanding nature vs. nurture debates in personality disorders. KEY TOPICS DISCUSSED Catching Up and Weather's Mood Impact Introducing Dr. Cathy Barrett: Authenticity & Work with Marginalized Communities Hollywood & Narcissism: Power as a Magnet for Narcissistic Traits Clinicians in Abusive Relationships: Reducing Survivor Shame Politics Through the Lens of Narcissistic Abuse & Coercive Control Cult Dynamics, Epstein Allegations, and Institutional Betrayal Narcissistic Collapse: Signs of Escalating Danger Sloppiness, Grandiosity, and the Need for Supply Baseline Boredom & the Search for Stimulation Covert vs. Overt Narcissism: Threat Levels & Detection Long Marriages & the Slow Wake-Up Call Early Dating Red Flags & Essential Questions Common Narcissist Themes Across Environments Rigid Patterns & DSM Criteria Nature vs. Nurture Debate in Narcissism Grooming & Vulnerability: Anyone Can Be Targeted Teen Labels, ODD, and Early Warning Signs Gaslighting Explained Clearly & Its Many Forms Spotting Confusion Tactics & Reality Distortion Journaling Early Red Flags for Prevention Empathy Litmus Tests: The Power of "No" Wrap-Up & Teaser for Upcoming Guests RESOURCES Dr. Cathy Barrett: CB Psychological, Inc. (Calabasas, CA) – Trauma-informed therapy, forensic evaluations, coercive control, high-conflict divorce Website: cbpsychological.com Instagram: @cbpsychological Vanessa Reiser's Book: Narcissistic Abuse: A Therapist's Guide to Identifying, Escaping, and Healing from Toxic Relationships Nonprofit: Tell a Therapist, INC. — Support for survivors Instagram: @vanessareiserlcsw Patreon: Join for exclusive bonus content, deeper discussions with Dave, and to support the show CONTENT WARNINGS This episode discusses narcissistic abuse, coercive control, complex PTSD, institutional betrayal, politics as a trigger for survivors, cult dynamics, blackmail allegations, potential violence escalation, and systemic failures. May be triggering for survivors. Not a substitute for professional therapy, legal, or medical advice. QUOTES TO REMEMBER "Even clinicians who study this stuff can end up in relationships with narcissists — it helps reduce shame for survivors who think 'I should have known.'" — Vanessa Reiser "Politics and global events can feel like a minefield for survivors because the patterns are so recognizable — misinformation, cult-like loyalty, and power plays everywhere." — Dave "Empathy isn't just about feeling; it's about flexibility. Rigid thinking blocks it every time." — Vanessa Reiser "When someone can't handle a simple 'no,' that's your empathy litmus test." — Vanessa Reiser TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Catching Up and Weather 04:44 – Introducing Cathy Barrett 06:33 – Hollywood and Narcissism 09:34 – Clinician Support and Triggers 11:16 – Politics Through Abuse Lens 15:45 – Cult Dynamics and Epstein 16:54 – Narcissistic Collapse and Danger 24:18 – Sloppiness and Grandiosity 27:57 – Baseline Boredom and Supply 30:57 – Covert vs Overt Threat 31:55 – Long Marriage Wake Up 34:38 – Dating Red Flag Questions 36:26 – Common Narcissist Themes 37:38 – Rigid Patterns DSM 40:07 – Nature vs Nurture Debate 43:43 – Anyone Can Be Groomed 45:41 – Teens Labels And ODD 48:11 – Gaslighting Explained Clearly 50:56 – Spotting Confusion Tactics 56:01 – Journal Early Red Flags 58:48 – Empathy Litmus Tests 59:56 – Wrap Up And Next Guests Disclaimer: This podcast is for mature audiences and is not a substitute for therapy, legal, or medical advice. Guest opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host or affiliated platforms. Produced by Vanessa Reiser and music by Alex Productions "Once Upon a ...
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  • DR. CATHERINE BARRETT

    DR. CATHERINE BARRETT
    2026/07/28

    EPISODE SUMMARY In this powerful episode, Vanessa Reiser welcomes forensic psychologist Dr. Catherine "Cathy" Barrett, who specializes in narcissistic abuse recovery, coercive control, CPTSD, intimate partner violence, and family-court matters including custody disputes and expert testimony. Dr. Barrett shares her journey from working at a women's shelter and the LA LGBT Center to forensic work with offenders, and how her own experience in a narcissistic relationship shaped her advocacy and teaching. Together they explore overt vs. covert narcissism, boundary-pushing, trusting gut instincts, and the empowering role of "righteous anger," referencing Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear. The conversation also expands to politics as systemic coercive control, the Epstein files and widespread sexual exploitation, and what may cause cult-like followers to "wake up," including personal economic impact and humiliation. Dr. Barrett discusses her upcoming book to help clinicians navigate law, ethics, and documentation in coercive-control cases.

    KEY TOPICS DISCUSSED Her Path Into Forensics Therapists Get Targeted Covert Narcissists Explained Trust Your Gut Instincts Anger As Empowerment and Righteous Anger Politics and Mental Health Epstein Files and Power Structures America Under Coercion Cult Wake Up Glitch Quirky Questions and Climbing

    TIMESTAMPS 00:00 - Show Introduction 01:17 - Meet Dr. Catherine Barrett 05:04 - Her Path Into Forensics 09:49 - Therapists Get Targeted 13:37 - Covert Narcissists Explained 14:44 - Trust Your Gut 18:29 - Anger As Empowerment 23:48 - Politics And Mental Health 27:34 - Epstein Files And Power 33:54 - America Under Coercion 42:10 - Cult Wake Up Glitch 45:39 - Quirky Questions And Climbing 48:59 - Where To Find Dr. Barrett 50:33 - Closing And Resources

    CONTENT WARNINGS This episode contains discussions of: Narcissistic abuse, coercive control, intimate partner violence, CPTSD, family court matters, sexual exploitation, and systemic power dynamics.

    RESOURCES Connect with Dr. Catherine Barrett: (Insert her website, Instagram, or professional links here once available)

    Connect with Vanessa Reiser: Instagram: @vanessareiserlcsw Patreon: For exclusive bonus content and deeper discussions

    Disclaimer: This podcast is for mature audiences and is not a substitute for therapy, legal, or medical advice. Guest opinions are their own and don't necessarily reflect those of the host or affiliated platforms. Produced by Vanessa Reiser and music by Alex Productions "Once Upon a Time".

    #NarcissisticAbuseWithVanessaReiser #VanessaReiser #TellATherapist #CoerciveControl #NarcissisticAbuse #ForensicPsychology #DrCatherineBarrett
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    52 分
  • DAVE AND I UNPACK THE ELI HARWOOD EPISODE

    DAVE AND I UNPACK THE ELI HARWOOD EPISODE
    2026/07/21

    Unpacking Attachment, Triggers, and Co-Parenting With a Narcissist (Eli Harwood Recap)

    Vanessa Reiser and co-host Dave recap Vanessa's prior interview with Eli Harwood ("The Attachment Nerd"), highlighting takeaways on attachment, healing from narcissistic abuse, and co-parenting dynamics. They discuss how people can have trauma histories without becoming abusive, and how the effects of an abusive relationship can persist in the nervous system for decades. Vanessa and Dave explore safety concerns around exposing a narcissist, smear campaigns, documentation, and the long-game tactics used in custody disputes, emphasizing the need for trauma-informed therapy and strategic protection. They focus on supporting children by validating their lived experience without disparaging the other parent, teaching fact vs. fiction to counter gaslighting, and creating secure attachment with one healthy parent, which Eli noted can significantly improve long-term outcomes. They close by emphasizing co-regulation, warmth, and safe environments as foundations for healing.

    00:00 Podcast Intro Warning

    01:17 Recap Eli Harwood

    02:03 Getting Triggered

    03:55 Attachment Takeaways

    04:43 Trauma And Narcissism

    06:55 Lingering Danger

    09:26 Expose With Caution

    10:49 Smear Campaign Strategy

    15:55 Co Parenting Court Games

    19:19 Politics Narcissism Lens

    20:42 Trump As Case Study

    22:10 Democracy And Justice

    23:17 Fight Fire With Fire

    24:23 Co Parenting After Abuse

    26:24 Teaching Kids Reality

    28:58 Validating Without Smearing

    30:37 When Kids Fear Telling

    37:22 Getting Outside Support

    40:37 Secure Attachment Takeaways

    43:05 Closing And Resources
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    44 分
  • ELI HARWOOD

    ELI HARWOOD
    2026/07/14

    Attachment, Grief, and Radical Adaptation After Narcissistic Abuse (with Eli Harwood)

    Vanessa Reiser introduces her podcast Narcissistic Abuse with Vanessa Reiser, outlining its focus on exposing abusive tactics, sharing survivor stories, and offering tools for spotting red flags and healing, with co-host Dave joining future episodes and content warnings and disclaimers provided. She interviews licensed therapist Eli Harwood (The Attachment Nerd) about attachment theory, trauma, and recovery from abusive relationships, including how secure attachment is built through a caregiver's warmth, responsiveness, and emotional reliability. Harwood explains that abuse is caused by the abuser, describes attachment trauma as requiring grief and empowerment work, and shares her own experience of lingering fear years after leaving an abuser. They discuss ongoing post-separation abuse, victim-blaming, learning agency in unsafe systems, Viktor Frankl's ideas, and reframing "radical acceptance" as "radical adaptation." They also cover supporting children in co-parenting contexts by validating feelings, avoiding making kids witnesses, and fostering secure attachment, and Harwood shares her new book and resources.

    00:00 Trapped and Seeking Help

    00:17 Meet Vanessa and Dave

    01:17 Introducing Eli Harwood

    01:54 Why Lived Experience Matters

    03:18 Eli Origin Story

    04:30 Secure Attachment for Kids

    06:15 Attachment Basics Explained

    09:02 Healing After Attachment Trauma

    10:12 Eli Abuse Story and Empowerment

    12:06 Grief and Collective Trauma

    15:53 Ongoing Abuse After Leaving

    19:38 Reclaiming Agency

    22:07 Frankl and Micro Rebellion

    27:26 Radical Acceptance and Safety Fears

    27:47 Sandy Hook Perspective

    29:27 Radical Acceptance Reframed

    30:28 Radical Adaptation Concept

    33:48 Healing Is Not Linear

    34:31 Checking On The Abuser

    39:35 Trusting Your Intuition

    42:04 Helping Kids Cope

    46:26 Secure Attachment Parenting

    49:39 Book And Resources

    52:15 Final Takeaways
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  • DAVE AND I UNPACK THE TONIA BALES EPISODE

    DAVE AND I UNPACK THE TONIA BALES EPISODE
    2026/07/07
    EPISODE SUMMARY In this insightful recap episode, Vanessa Reiser and co-host Dave unpack key moments from Vanessa's recent interview with Tonia Bales, first wife of John Meehan (the real "Dirty John" from the blockbuster podcast and Netflix series). They break down how survivors' experiences often follow a predictable "narcissist playbook," the critical role of language and pattern recognition in healing, and how narcissistic, sociopathic, and cluster B traits manifest across relationships, families, workplaces, cultic systems, politics, and pop culture. Vanessa and Dave explore covert red flags (lack of empathy, performative apologies, cruelty to animals, escalation during separation), why covert narcissism can be especially destabilizing, and the importance of autonomy, boundaries, reality-testing (saying no, travel, observing treatment of others), and journaling for clarity. They debate nature vs. nurture in abuser development and close by teasing an upcoming conversation with Gretchen Carlson on NDAs and workplace silencing. KEY TOPICS DISCUSSED The Narcissist Playbook & Repetitive Patterns How abusers follow predictable cycles of love bombing, mirroring, devaluation, and discard Why recognizing the playbook is a game-changer for survivors Covert Red Flags & Early Warning Signs Pink flags vs. red flags in the beginning of relationships Lack of genuine empathy, performative or manipulative apologies, cruelty to animals Escalation during separation/divorce and DARVO tactics Navigating Abuse Without the Language Surviving before terms like "gaslighting," "coercive control," or "narcissistic abuse" were mainstream The challenge of identifying manipulation without a framework How widespread awareness now helps survivors name what happened Sociopathic vs. Narcissistic Traits Lack of conscience, pivoting when exposed, passive-aggressive/vindictive behavior The futility of applying logic to an illogical, pathological mind Nature vs. nurture: childhood factors vs. inherent wiring Autonomy, Boundaries & Reality-Testing Why autonomy and strong boundaries are the best protection Practical stress tests in dating: saying no, travel, observing treatment of others Journaling as a tool for clarity and pattern recognition Healing After Betrayal & Silver Linings Turning pain into purpose through advocacy and education Teaching kids and young people to spot red flags early The power of community, safe people, and breaking silence RESOURCES Tonia Bales' Book: When You See It: How I Outsmarted and Outlasted Dirty John Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and wherever books are sold Connect with Tonia: Facebook: Tonia Sells Bales Instagram: @toniabales Speaking Engagements: Available for conferences on narcissistic abuse, substance use disorder in healthcare, and survivor advocacy Connect with Vanessa Reiser Instagram: @vanessareiserlcsw Website: tellatherapist.net Patreon: Exclusive bonus content, extended cuts, and deeper survivor discussions CONTENT WARNINGS This episode contains discussions of: Narcissistic abuse and coercive control Emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and mirroring Sociopathic traits and lack of conscience Betrayal, separation trauma, and complex grief QUOTES TO REMEMBER "Once you see the playbook, you can't unsee it. That's when the healing really starts." — Vanessa Reiser "Normal people struggle to comprehend how these brains work differently—stop trying to apply logic to an illogical mind." — Vanessa Reiser "Autonomy is your greatest protection. Boundaries aren't walls—they're gates you control." — Dave "Teach kids to say no, to watch how people treat others, to trust their gut. That's prevention." — Vanessa Reiser TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Podcast Cold Open 01:17 – Meet Vanessa and Dave 03:12 – Dirty John Recap Setup 04:00 – Narcissist Playbook Patterns 09:49 – Cult Dynamics and Society 13:47 – Autonomy Over Forgiveness 20:07 – Empty Apologies and DARVO 26:38 – Empathy, Anger, and Hope 31:14 – Naming Tactics and Red Flags 34:30 – Sleeping With the Enemy 35:37 – Covert Narcissist Reveal 37:32 – Stop Taking It Slow 39:04 – Stress Tests in Dating 40:37 – Illness Exposes Empathy 42:15 – Animal Cruelty Red Flags 43:19 – Sociopath vs Narcissist 46:11 – Nature vs. Nurture Debate 52:08 – Masks and Hidden Monsters 54:18 – They're Everywhere Now 56:56 – Autonomy and Boundaries 59:40 – Questions and Journaling 01:02:11 – Tonia Full Circle Healing 01:05:06 – Teaching Kids the Signs 01:06:53 – Wrap Up and Next Episode 01:07:30 – Final Outro and Resources Disclaimer: This podcast is for mature audiences and is not a substitute for therapy, legal, or medical advice. Guest and co-host opinions are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the host or affiliated platforms. Produced by Vanessa Reiser. Music: "Once Upon a Time" by Alex Productions. Listen now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite platform. #...
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  • TONIA BALES

    TONIA BALES
    2026/06/30
    EPISODE SUMMARY In this eye-opening episode, Vanessa Reiser sits down with Tonia Bales, a nurse anesthetist, author, and the first wife of John Meehan; the man the world came to know as "Dirty John" through the blockbuster podcast and Netflix series. Tonia shares her harrowing journey of surviving nearly a decade of manipulation, deception, addiction, and escalating threats. She opens up about the early "pink flags" she missed in the late 1980s; love bombing, mirroring, intense questioning, and boundary pushing; long before terms like gaslighting and coercive control existed. Tonia also reflects on John's later vindictive and scammy behavior, the fear created by his threats, the complex emotions after his death, and how she ultimately protected her daughters and reclaimed her life. Now an author, advocate, and public speaker, Tonia discusses finding the right language through resources like Laura Richards' Real Crime Profile, writing her book When You See It, and turning her pain into purpose by educating others about narcissistic abuse, drug diversion in healthcare, and survivor safety. KEY TOPICS DISCUSSED Early Pink Flags & Love Bombing Pink flags vs. red flags in the beginning of the relationship John's calculated approach to meeting and choosing Tonia Mirroring tactics and boundary pushing from the very first encounter Navigating Abuse Without the Language Living through narcissistic abuse in the late 1980s before today's terminology existed The challenge of recognizing manipulation without a framework John's vindictive behavior when exposed and the cost of warning others Inside the Abuser's Mind Recognizing traits consistent with antisocial behavior John's family history and the shift around age 14 His death and the complex feelings of relief Telling the kids and their different reactions Finding the Right Words and Leaving for Good Discovering Laura Richards' Real Crime Profile The healing power of writing her book "When You See It" Silver Linings, Purpose, and Supporting Survivors Finding love again and raising daughters in helping professions Using her experience to educate about substance use disorder in healthcare The importance of safe people and breaking silence TIME STAMPS: 0:00 Podcast Intro and Warnings 01:17 Meet Tonia Bales Dirty John 03:28 Early Pink Flags and Love Bombing 06:55 Mirroring and Cultural Awareness 09:38 Snark Passive Aggression Emerges 12:29 Warning Exes and Staying Safe 16:24 Understanding His Disordered Mind 18:53 Origins and Family Backstory 21:06 Hearing of His Death 26:57 Telling the Daughters 28:43 Finding the Right Language 29:46 Leaving for Good and Independence 33:19 Silver Linings and Purpose 37:05 Writing the Book Journey 40:03 Sharing Your Story for Support 42:12 Fun Personal Questions 43:58 Where to Find Tonia 45:27 Final Wrap and Call to Action CONTENT WARNINGS This episode contains discussions of: Narcissistic abuse and coercive control Emotional manipulation and gaslighting Threats of violence Death and grief Substance abuse Parental alienation RESOURCES Tonia Bales' Book: "When You See It: How I Outsmarted and Outlasted Dirty John" Available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and wherever books are sold Connect with Tonia: Instagram: @toniabales Facebook: Tonia Sells Bales Connect with Vanessa Reiser: Instagram: @vanessareiserlcsw Website: tellatheapist.net Patreon: For exclusive bonus content Disclaimer: This podcast is for mature audiences and is not a substitute for therapy, legal, or medical advice. Guest opinions are their own and don't necessarily reflect those of the host or affiliated platforms. Produced by Vanessa Reiser and music by Alex Productions "Once Upon a Time". #NarcissisticAbuseWithVanessaReiser #VanessaReiser #DirtyJohn #ToniaBales #CoerciveControl #TellATherapist
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    46 分