Feeling behind in life or business? Like everyone else is ahead and you should have done more by now?

In this episode I share what actually happened to the people I used to compare myself to — the ones who "catapulted" past me, hit seven figures, built huge followings while I was still finding my feet. Spoiler: I went looking for them recently. They're gone. Vanished. Accounts closed, businesses dropped, nowhere to be found.

This isn't another "comparison is the thief of joy" pep talk. This is 12 years of watching people rise and disappear in the online business space, and what it taught me about why comparing your journey to anyone else's is built on completely false data — and why, if you truly saw your own path, you wouldn't trade it anyway.

In this episode:

• The client conversation that sparked this — "I met a guy who built seven businesses by 20... what have I done?"
• The woman who claimed herself with zero validation, skyrocketed to seven figures... then vanished for two years
• The "premium positioning" trap: why selling off hot air always comes crashing down
• Why 95% of you would NOT actually want Tony Robbins' life (and what that reveals about your dharma)
• The hero's journey: why your "flaws" are the treasure you're here to bring back
• What an astrologer told me about my own timeline — and why a slower path isn't a wrong one

If you're the woman who feels like she should be further along by now — this episode is going to set you free from that loop.

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Alex on Insta — @alexh.co.

YouTube channel — @alexisharvey.

The Modern Woman Academy website — themoderwoman.academy

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⏰ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Why Comparison Hurts

02:07 Client Behind Feeling

04:17 Entrepreneur Journey Lessons

05:59 Chloe Success Then Vanish

14:44 Sarah Premium Mirage

22:27 Why Paths Differ

23:39 Dharma Not Tony

26:59 Timing Astrology Note

30:13 Hero’s Journey Framework

34:24 My Life Couldn't Fit

38:55 Childhood Trapped Roots

42:37 Final Takeaways

You look around, and it feels like everyone is selling the thing you sell. So why should you even bother? How can YOU be noticed? You don’t want to add the noise anyway.

Here's the trap: trying to fit in is the exact thing that drops you into the sea of competition.

This isn't another "find your niche" episode, or your USP, making you even more anxious about “all that competition” - in this episode I’m going to show you how to eliminate any sense of “competition” entirely.

In this episode:

• Why making your offer more "acceptable" guarantees you stay in competition
• The client who took herself out of the race entirely with one shift — not in strategy, in ownership
• The edgy money framework I scrapped overnight out of fear, and what it cost me
• How creating from your turn-on doesn't just differentiate you — it unlocks your genius and makes visibility effortless
• Why the work that feels unviable is usually your most magnetic

If you've been quietly suppressing the most alive part of your work so you’re not “rejected”, this is the episode that gives it back to you.

📖 GET THE BOOK

Be Unacceptable — https://beunacceptablebook.com

Instagram — @beunacceptable

👉 FIND ALEX

Alex on Insta — @alexh.co.

YouTube channel — @alexisharvey.

The Modern Woman Academy website — themoderwoman.academy

⚡ FIND ALEX’ BRAND ~ DARE ~

Dare website — https://darethelabel.co/

Dare Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/darethelabel.co

⏰ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

00:00 Standing Out Today

01:26 Jewellery Story Lesson

02:52 Category Of One

07:15 My Unique Method

12:52 Signature Programs

16:41 Purpose Behind Products

22:11 Survival Brain Fear

25:44 Create From Turn On

27:57 Edgy Idea Regret

31:04 Owning Your Message

34:08 Book And Wrap Up

Real self-love isn't affirmations or forcing yourself to feel beautiful — it's learning to embrace the parts of you that you reject.

You catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror and feel disgust. You judge what you create. You quietly reject the parts of you that aren't perfect, in control, or attractive — and then wonder why you can't access your creativity or your flow.

This isn't a "look in the mirror and tell yourself you're beautiful" episode. It's a completely different way of understanding self-love — through wholeness, and through learning to love even the part of you that does the rejecting.

If you've done all the self-love "work" and still catch yourself in self-judgment, this is the episode that will completely change your relationship with yourself.

📖 GET THE BOOK

Be Unacceptable — https://beunacceptablebook.com

Instagram — @beunacceptable

👉 FIND ALEX

Alex on Insta — @alexh.co.

YouTube channel — @alexisharvey.

The Modern Woman Academy website — themoderwoman.academy

⚡ FIND ALEX’ BRAND ~ DARE ~

Dare website — https://darethelabel.co/

Dare Instagram — https://www.instagram.com/darethelabel.co

⏰ EPISODE TIMESTAMPS

00:00 What Self Love Really Is

01:54 A Body Image Trigger

02:56 Embracing The Rejected Parts

05:02 Self Love Fuels Creation

08:29 Ego Concepts And Judgment

09:50 Judging Others Mirrors You

10:44 Loving The Inner Critic

11:51 Morning Self Love Practice

15:19 Divine Mother Visualization

18:01 Apply It To Your Creations

18:55 Closing And Share This