You blocked them. You cried. You told all your friends you were DONE. You gave a TED Talk about how toxic they are. And then… somehow you're back in their house. WHY?!

This week, Alyssa sits down with John Jacobs (@maybachdiamonds) to talk about why we keep going back to toxic exes, why toxic relationships can feel so addictive, and—most importantly—how the hell you actually break the cycle and move on.

John is currently experiencing his own “I know this is toxic but apparently I hate peace” era, so we're breaking it down in real time. Why are we addicted to certain people? What triggers us to go back? Why does a healthy relationship sometimes feel boring after chaos? And how do you learn to be alone without immediately downloading a dating app or texting the person you've already blocked 14 times? Why do they always rage text you and why do we get sucked in!?

Alyssa also shares how she spent two years stuck in the on-again, off-again toxic relationship cycle, what kept pulling her back, and what finally made her realize she had to get out for good. We also get into the much heavier reality of dating someone with addiction—when supporting someone turns into enabling them, how easy it is to lose yourself in someone else's problems, and why love alone can't fix another person.

We talk toxic exes, trauma bonds, codependency, relationship addiction, breakup anxiety, dating someone with addiction, boundaries, triggers, getting over an ex, learning to be alone, dating after a toxic relationship, and how to finally stop going back.

And don't worry, this is not an hour of us pretending we've reached enlightenment. We also determine that we're both lunatics, John desperately needs a hobby, therapy should probably be purchased in bulk, and sometimes the strongest boundary is simply DO. NOT. TEXT. THEM.

If you've ever Googled “Why do I keep going back to my ex?” “Why can't I get over my toxic ex?” “How do I break a trauma bond?” “How do I leave a toxic relationship?” or “How do I stop missing someone who was terrible for me?” — welcome. You've found your people.

Because missing them doesn't mean you should text them. And being lonely is still significantly cheaper than another year of therapy.

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After planning 200+ weddings, Alyssa has learned one very important thing: you can fake a lot of s*** in a relationship, but wedding planning will expose you FAST.

In this solo episode of MissJudged, Alyssa is taking 16+ years of behind-the-scenes wedding chaos and turning it into the relationship advice nobody asked for—but honestly, everyone dating, engaged, or married probably needs. Want to know who you're actually marrying? Watch how they act when the budget goes up, the seating chart goes to hell, their mother starts making demands, and the bartender tells them the bar is closed. Also learn the recipe for a marriage that will LAST.

Alyssa breaks down what 200+ couples have taught her about love, marriage, money, family boundaries, and relationship red flags—including why the way your partner treats waiters, bartenders, planners, and other service workers tells you EVERYTHING, how they handle problems when shit inevitably goes wrong, and why wedding planning should feel like a team sport instead of one person getting a second unpaid job.

We're talking about money in relationships, spending habits and compatibility, dealing with difficult parents and in-laws, setting boundaries with family before marriage, and handling stress without becoming an absolute psychopath.

Whether you're single, dating, engaged, wedding planning, or married, consider this your unofficial relationship compatibility test from someone who's had a front-row seat to 200+ couples on one of the most stressful days of their lives. Because the real question isn't whether your partner looks good in a tux—it's whether you still want to marry them after planning Table 14 on your layout.

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Can you date someone with completely different political views—or has politics officially become one of the biggest dating dealbreakers in modern relationships? Should we be like this??

This week, Alyssa is joined by Charlie Goldensohn (@chez.chuck) for a funny, unfiltered conversation about what happens when dating, relationships, friendships, family, and politics collide. And no, this isn't a political debate. We're much more interested in what happens when the person you want to date, sleep with, befriend—or survive Thanksgiving with—sees the world completely differently than you do.

Can people on opposite ends of the political spectrum actually date? Should you end a friendship because someone votes differently? How do you deal with family members whose political opinions make you insane? And have we become so quick to block, unfollow, cancel, and cut people off that we've completely forgotten how to disagree?

Alyssa and Charlie get into:

• Dating someone with different political views and whether politics should be a relationship dealbreaker
• Whether people with opposite political beliefs can have a successful relationship
• When political differences are really differences in values, morals, lifestyle, and compatibility
• How and WHEN to bring up politics while dating
• What to do when your friends have different political views
• Whether it's ever worth ending a friendship over politics
• How to survive political differences within your family
• Why hearing opinions you disagree with might actually be a good thing
• Why we've become so trigger-happy about blocking, unfollowing, cutting people off, and cancel culture
• The opinions, jokes, social media behavior, and hot takes that can get you cancelled
• How to disagree with someone without immediately deciding they're a terrible person
• And a hilarious game of immediate dating red flags: what would make Alyssa and Charlie instantly swipe left?

From politics and dating to friendship breakups, family arguments, cancel culture, dating apps, red flags, political compatibility, and modern relationship advice, we're asking a much bigger question than "Who did you vote for?"

Do you actually need a partner who agrees with you—or do you need a partner who knows how to disagree with you?

Because maybe the ultimate dating green flag isn't having identical opinions. Maybe it's being able to argue your point, have discourse, hear someone else's, laugh about it, respect each other—and still want to go on a second date.

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This week on MissJudged, Alyssa sits down with renowned sex therapist, relationship expert, professor, author, and 90 Day: The Last Resort expert Dr. Tara (@luvbites.co) for one of the funniest, most honest, and most educational conversations about sex, dating, and intimacy.

From the biggest misconceptions about what makes someone "good in bed" to the questions everyone is too embarrassed to ask, nothing is off limits. Whether you're single, dating, in a situationship, or married, this episode is packed with practical advice, surprising science, and plenty of laughs.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Which person is in an ENM relationship (shh)
• What men and women actually want in bed (and what they wish their partners knew)
• The truth about sexual compatibility—can chemistry be created?
• Should you marry someone with sexual incompatibility?
• The biggest sex myths people still believe
• Why communication is often sexier than confidence
• The most embarrassing sex questions people secretly wonder at night
• Common bedroom mistakes and what you can do better
• How to keep passion alive in long-term relationships
• Relationship hot takes, spicy opinions, and a hilarious game of Would You Rather that puts Dr. Tara on the spot

If you've ever wondered whether your relationship is "normal," questioned your sexual compatibility, or wanted expert answers to the questions everyone is too afraid to ask, this episode is for you.

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What happens when grief enters a relationship — and suddenly love, dating, marriage, friendship, family, and even your situationship all start acting weird? In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa is joined by viral creator Sidney Raz (@sidneyraz) for a raw, funny, and surprisingly helpful conversation about grief, loss, love, cancer, miscarriage, death, and how relationships survive life’s most devastating moments. Don’t worry we keep it fun and funny!

Sidney opens up about losing his daughter in utero, his experience with miscarriage and pregnancy loss, and how that heartbreaking loss led to the discovery of his cancer diagnosis. Alyssa and Sidney also talk about the deaths and losses they have both experienced, and how grief changed the way they showed up in romantic relationships, marriages, situationships, friendships, family dynamics, and even their own identities.

This episode breaks down how grief affects relationships, dating, marriage, emotional availability, intimacy, communication, resentment, support systems, and the way people see you when you appear resilient, positive, or “fine” on the outside.

Alyssa and Sidney also get into the five stages of grief, how long grief actually takes, why healing is not linear, and why grief does not politely follow a calendar invite. They discuss what NOT to say to someone who is grieving, how to support a grieving partner, friend, or family member, what people get wrong about miscarriage and cancer, and how humor can become a survival tool when life is being deeply offensive. Because sometimes being the funny one doesn’t mean sending someone grieving an “RIP” or a “thoughts and prayers” text.

If you have ever experienced grief, death, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, cancer, friendship loss, family trauma, a breakup, dating after loss, or trying to keep a relationship alive while emotionally unwell, this episode is honest, emotional, funny, and deeply relatable.

Topics discussed include grief and relationships, how grief affects relationships, dating after loss, love after loss, miscarriage, pregnancy loss, cancer diagnosis, death and grief, grief in marriage, grief in dating, grief in situationships, friendship grief, family dynamics, emotional resilience, toxic positivity, the five stages of grief, what not to say to someone grieving, how to support someone grieving, and how couples survive grief.

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Why do you keep choosing the wrong partners? Is it trauma, attachment style, or are you unknowingly dating narcissists and emotionally unavailable people over and over?

In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa sits down with a licensed relationship therapist to break down the psychology behind toxic relationships, narcissistic partners, emotional abuse, trauma, attachment styles, and why so many intelligent, self-aware people still find themselves repeating the same unhealthy dating patterns.

Forget the therapy buzzwords—we're talking about what trauma actually is according to psychology (and why Alyssa hates its overuse). We unpack the difference between Big T Trauma and little t trauma. We also get brutally honest about what it's really like to date a narcissist. How do narcissistic relationships slowly erode your self-esteem? Why is emotional abuse so difficult to recognize while you're living through it? Why do survivors often blame themselves long after the relationship ends? And how do you heal after someone has made you question your own reality?

We also dive into one of the most overlooked topics in modern relationships: sexual rejection. What happens when your partner repeatedly rejects intimacy? Can sexual rejection damage your confidence, create resentment, or permanently impact a relationship? Jessa explains the psychology behind why rejection feels so personal and how couples can begin rebuilding emotional and physical intimacy.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What trauma actually is—and what it isn't

• Big T Trauma vs. little t trauma explained

• How attachment styles influence the partners you choose

• Why so many people repeat unhealthy dating patterns

• Alyssa shares the warning signs of narcissistic and emotionally abusive relationships

• How emotional abuse impacts self-esteem, confidence, and mental health

• Why it's so difficult to leave—and recover from—toxic relationships

• How someone else's unresolved issues can become your emotional burden

• The psychology of sexual rejection and its impact on relationships

• How to heal, rebuild your confidence, and create healthier relationships

Whether you're recovering from a toxic relationship, questioning your dating patterns, trying to understand trauma, or wondering if you've dated a narcissist, this conversation offers practical insight backed by psychology—not social media myths.

If you've ever searched "What is trauma?" "Am I dating a narcissist?" "How do attachment styles affect relationships?" "Why do I keep choosing the wrong partners?" or "How do I heal after emotional abuse?" this episode is for you.

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Can your relationship survive a vacation… or is one shared hotel room all it takes to expose every red flag?

In this solo episode of MissJudged, Alyssa breaks down how to travel with your partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, or situationship without turning the trip into a passive-aggressive group project from hell. Whether you’re planning your first baecation, going away with someone you’re “not technically dating,” or trying to figure out who pays for flights, hotels, dinners, Ubers, and the random $18 airport water without killing the vibe, this episode covers the real-life rules of couples travel in modern dating.

Alyssa gets into when it’s too soon to travel together, how to plan a trip without one person doing all the emotional labor, how to talk about money in a relationship or situationship, and why “I’m down for whatever” is often the biggest vacation scam of all time.

This episode covers:

• How to travel with your boyfriend, girlfriend, or situationship
• When it’s too soon to go on a baecation or couples trip
• How to talk about splitting costs, flights, hotels, dinners, and vacation expectations
• Who should book the trip, make the plans, and handle the travel details
• Why traveling together reveals someone’s real personality fast
• How to avoid turning a vacation into a compatibility test you did not consent to
• What airport behavior, hotel habits, and money choices say about your relationship
• How to handle different travel styles when one person wants luxury and the other wants “whatever is cheapest”
• How to keep a romantic trip fun, sexy, light, and not financially insane

This episode is for anyone navigating modern dating, relationship travel, situationships, baecations, dating boundaries, couples trips, travel compatibility, and money in relationships. Because nothing says romance like realizing someone thinks a 6 AM Spirit flight with no assigned seat is “basically the same thing."

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In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa sits down with Kenny Santucci for a true bombshell conversation—the kind people don’t usually have on mic.

Kenny gets unusually candid about his past, opening up about what actually happened behind the scenes during his cancellation and sharing details he’s never publicly said before. No PR spin, no vague answers—just a raw, honest look at what it feels like to be knocked down publicly and have to rebuild from it.

They dive into the reality of cancel culture today—who it really affects, whether people deserve second chances, and how quickly public opinion can define (or destroy) someone’s reputation. But more importantly, Kenny breaks down how he pulled himself out of it: the mindset shifts, discipline, and personal accountability it took to rebuild his life, his career, and his identity.

Of course, it wouldn’t be MissJudged without bringing it back to dating. Alyssa and Kenny get into what it means to have a bad reputation in relationships, how that follows you, and whether you can actually change how people perceive you romantically. Is a reputation permanent—or can you rewrite your story?

And finally… the question everyone wants answered:

Will Daddy Santucci settle down?

This episode is about failure, redemption, reputation, and what it really takes to come back stronger—personally, publicly, and in love.

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