In this powerful episode of Mess to Badass, Pam dives deep into the infamous phrase that has haunted generations of women: “Calladita te ves más bonita” (You look prettier when you’re quiet).

This seemingly innocent saying is rooted in machismo and has been used for centuries to silence women, forcing them to prioritize appearance over self-expression. Pam unpacks the history behind this mindset, shares personal stories of growing up in a culture steeped in Marianismo, and highlights how these ideals continue to affect women today.

But this isn’t just about pointing out the problem—it’s about reclaiming our voices, breaking free from societal expectations, and turning the messiness of life into our superpower.

Whether you’re a Latina navigating the pressures of cultural expectations or anyone who’s felt the weight of being told to “be quiet,” this episode will inspire you to speak up, rewrite the rules, and embrace your messy, badass self.

Sources

Pew Research Center Stats on Latina Women – Visit Website

Madres de Plaza de Mayo

Mexican women fight for justice

Recommended Books on Feminism and Latinx Culture:

• Borderlands/La Frontera by Gloria Anzaldúa
• Feminism is for Everybody by bell hooks

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It’s 2025, besties! New year, same chaos—but this time, we’re flipping the script. Forget the guilt-ridden, impossible resolutions that fizzle by February. Instead, we’re diving into something way more badass: being unapologetically you.

In this episode, we’re calling out the toxic “New Year, New You” narrative and tossing it straight in the trash. 🗑️ Why? Because you don’t need to be “fixed”—you’re already incredible, mess and all.

💥 What You’ll Love in This Episode:

• A hilarious breakdown of why resolutions suck (spoiler: they’re like a drunk ex—tempting but disappointing).
• A pep talk on choosing authenticity over perfection—because Pinterest-perfect is overrated.
• Relatable AF stories about failed goals (hello, 5 a.m. meditation) and how to rewrite the rules.
• Permission to set messy, meaningful goals that actually light you up.

Plus, you’ll get interactive moments (DM me your floppiest resolutions!), a few laughs, and a whole lot of encouragement to own your messy magic in 2025.

✨ Key Takeaway: Perfection is boring; progress is badass. Let’s celebrate every small win and embrace the chaos together.

🎉 Ready to make 2025 the year you stop apologizing for who you are and start owning your power? Hit play, follow Mess to Badass, share this episode with your messy BFFs, and tag us @MessToBadass on Instagram with your badass goals for the year.

Teaser: Next episode? We’re diving deep into cultural conditioning with Calladita Te Ves Más Bonita. Trust me, it’s gonna get REAL.

Stay messy, stay amazing, and let’s own this year together. Besitos! 😘

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🎙️ Mess to Badass is back with a brand-new season! 🎉

This time, we're diving headfirst into adulting—how hard it can be, how messy it gets, and how to turn that mess into your ultimate superpower. 💪✨

💌 Wanna be part of the show? Hit me up at pam@embracethemess.co with your gossip, burning questions, or messy life dilemmas. I’ll bring in an expert (or a badass friend) to tackle it together.

Mess to Badass is all about building a community for anyone who feels messy, struggles with adulting, or just doesn’t fit in—and is totally fine with it. Our mission? To embrace the chaos, own our flaws, and turn them into the kind of strength that makes us unstoppable. Because let’s face it: life doesn’t come with a manual, but you don’t need it to be a total badass.

Expect episodes packed with sarcasm, humor, tough love, and some real talk. From deep reflections to laugh-out-loud moments, we’re here to ride the rollercoaster of adulting together. Life’s messy, but that’s where the magic happens. So, buckle up and let’s turn our struggles into strength—one badass episode at a time. 🎧🔥