In this powerful episode of Mess to Badass, Pam dives deep into the infamous phrase that has haunted generations of women: “Calladita te ves más bonita” (You look prettier when you’re quiet).

This seemingly innocent saying is rooted in machismo and has been used for centuries to silence women, forcing them to prioritize appearance over self-expression. Pam unpacks the history behind this mindset, shares personal stories of growing up in a culture steeped in Marianismo, and highlights how these ideals continue to affect women today.

But this isn’t just about pointing out the problem—it’s about reclaiming our voices, breaking free from societal expectations, and turning the messiness of life into our superpower.

Whether you’re a Latina navigating the pressures of cultural expectations or anyone who’s felt the weight of being told to “be quiet,” this episode will inspire you to speak up, rewrite the rules, and embrace your messy, badass self.

Sources

Pew Research Center Stats on Latina Women – Visit Website

Madres de Plaza de Mayo

Mexican women fight for justice

Recommended Books on Feminism and Latinx Culture:

• Borderlands/La Frontera by Gloria Anzaldúa
• Feminism is for Everybody by bell hooks

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