Nobody hands you a blueprint for marriage.
You figure it out through misunderstandings, hurt feelings, unmet expectations, and a lot of trial and error.

On Marriage IQ, marriage and sex researcher Dr. Heidi Hastings and physician Dr. Scott Hastings share research-backed tools, expert interviews, and real-life insights to help you communicate more effectively, strengthen emotional and physical intimacy, navigate conflict, and build the marriage you actually want.

✨Become a more intelligent spouse.

✨New episodes every Tuesday.

Have you ever wondered, "What's wrong with me?"

Whether you've struggled with desire, carried shame into marriage, or felt like everyone else understands intimacy except you, you're not alone.

In this special replay from the Get Your Marriage On podcast, we join host Dan Purcell for an honest conversation about the beliefs many of us bring into marriage-and how those beliefs can leave us feeling broken, inadequate, or disconnected.

We discuss:

✨Why so many couples struggle to transition from "don't do it" to enjoying healthy intimacy.

✨The truth about sexual development and why growth is a lifelong process.

✨Common misconceptions about desire—especially for women.

✨How curiosity, communication, and emotional safety create deeper connection.

✨The moment we realized nothing was wrong with us after all.

If you've ever questioned yourself or your relationship, this conversation offers hope, practical insight, and a refreshing perspective on building intimacy that grows stronger over time.

This episode originally aired on the Get Your Marriage On podcast and is shared here with permission from Dan Purcell.

👉Here are links to previous episodes that relate to today's topic :

• Episode 115 - Mastering Pleasure: Experts' Guide to Female Anatomy with Cindy Scharkey
• Episode 41 - Secrets to Unlocking Female Sexual Capacity

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The way you handle conflict. The way you give and receive love. Even the relationship patterns you don't realize you're repeating.

In this eye-opening conversation, Dr. Heidi and Dr. Scott Hastings sit down with relationship expert Larry Bilotta, who shares how the experiences and beliefs we develop in childhood become the invisible blueprint for our marriages-and why real transformation begins by changing ourselves, not our spouse.

After spending 27 years in a loveless marriage, Larry discovered that healing wasn't about fixing his wife. It was about recognizing the patterns he had carried into the relationship and choosing a different path.

In this episode, you'll discover:

✨ Why your childhood has more influence on your marriage than you may realize.

✨ The hidden patterns that keep couples stuck in the same painful cycles.

✨ What a midlife crisis may actually reveal about unresolved emotional wounds.

✨ Why lasting change begins with changing yourself.

✨ How becoming aware of your patterns is the first step toward breaking them.

If you've ever wondered why the same struggles keep showing up in your relationship, this episode may help you discover that the answers have been with you far longer than you think.

🔗Connect With Larry Bilotta : ⁠youcansavethismarriage.com | larrybilotta.com

📖 Grab your copy of Larry Bilotta's book right here : ⁠This Is Not the Woman I Married

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