What if true self-care isn’t just what you do internally, but how you choose to show up in the world?

In this powerful and deeply personal conversation, Kathy Love sits down with Jessica Papineau to explore confidence, visibility, and the emotional connection between how we see ourselves and how we present ourselves.

Jessica Papineau is the founder of CSJ Styling, a leading personal styling company dedicated to empowering female entrepreneurs on a mission to change the world. With over 25 years in the fashion industry, she has helped thousands of women harness the power of style to serve their purpose, boost their confidence, and elevate their image. From seven-figure entrepreneurs and executives of billion-dollar global brands to influential creators and leaders in entertainment, sports, and music, Jessica’s expertise transforms wardrobes into a strategic tool for success.

She understands that style is more than clothing—it’s a catalyst for confidence, visibility, and impact. By curating wardrobes that align with each client’s vision, Jessica helps high-achieving women step fully into their power, show up with clarity, and make a lasting impression in every aspect of their lives.

A recognized thought leader in personal styling, Jessica has been featured on ABC News, She Means Business Magazine July 2025 Cover, Voice of Changes - Top 40 Speakers, spotlighted in top podcasts, and listed among MSN’s Top 10 Self-Made Women to Follow in 2025 and in top entrepreneurial publications such as LA Wire, Women's Journal, She Means Business, and NY Weekly. Jessica was featured in the book "Slaying Sarasota," and was a nominee for Sarasota Magazine’s ‘Women Who Roar’ Leadership Award. She continues to drive conversations about the intersection of style, confidence, and personal growth. Through CSJ Styling, she is redefining what it means to cultivate a wardrobe that not only looks extraordinary but serves as a tool for personal and professional transformation.

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When women align how they feel internally with how they present externally, they naturally become more confident, visible, and open to new opportunities.

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Kathy Love is a self-care coach, speaker, author, and host of the Self-Care Sht* podcast. She helps people reconnect to themselves, build self-trust, and create lives rooted in purpose, boundaries, and emotional well-being.

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Guest:
Jessica Dean, Nutrition Expert and Intuitive Eating Coach

Episode Overview:
In today’s episode, Kathy Love is joined by her long-time friend and nutrition expert, Jessica Dean, for an enlightening conversation about intuitive eating, self-care, and the powerful connection between food and healing. Jessica shares her personal journey of shifting from disordered eating patterns to embracing nourishment as self-care, and how she now helps others, particularly women, heal their relationships with food. Tune in for insights on how to listen to your body’s signals, break free from diet culture, and transform your approach to nutrition.

Topics Covered:

• Jessica’s personal story of healing her relationship with food and discovering intuitive eating.
• The role of intuitive eating in healing disordered eating patterns and fostering body connection.
• How nourishing your body with food can be an act of self-care and why it's important to treat food as a form of nourishment, not a source of stress.
• The challenges of shifting away from diet culture and learning to trust your body’s natural cues.
• How Jessica broke the cycle of food-related anxiety in her family and modeled healthy food relationships for her children.
• Practical steps to begin the journey of intuitive eating, including how to start small and gradually build self-trust.

Key Takeaways:

1. Healing Your Relationship with Food: Learn how intuitive eating can help break free from the cycle of dieting and guilt, allowing you to reconnect with your body’s natural hunger and fullness cues.
2. Self-Care Through Nutrition: Eating mindfully and intuitively is not just about food; it’s about honoring your body and treating nutrition as a form of self-care.
3. Breaking the Cycle: Discover how healing your relationship with food can empower you to break generational cycles and model healthier behaviors for your children.

Resources Mentioned:

• Intuitive Eating Book (by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch)
• Jessica’s website: Jessica D Nutrition
• Follow Jessica on Instagram for intuitive eating tips and meal prep ideas

Connect with Kathy:

• My Self Care Sht* Podcast Website: My Self Care Sh*t
• Instagram: @KathyLoveSelfCare

Quotes:

• “Self-care is the ultimate form of self-love, and food is the ultimate form of self-care.”
• “Once you learn to trust your body, food no longer has power over you.”
• “When we start healing from disordered eating, we start reconnecting with what our body really needs.”

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In this episode of My Self-Care Sht*, Kathy Love explores the subtle yet profound ways emotional codependency can impact our lives. Often, we equate independence with being free from codependency, but the truth is, emotional dependence on others can show up in unexpected ways. Whether it’s seeking validation, comfort, or approval from others, Kathy discusses how these tendencies can create unhealthy dynamics in our relationships and personal well-being. She shares personal anecdotes, reflecting on her own journey of recognizing and healing from emotional codependency. Tune in to learn how to recognize the difference between healthy independence and emotional codependency, and discover how self-awareness and self-love can set you on the path to true freedom.

Show Notes:
In today’s episode, Kathy Love dives into the topic of codependency and what it really means to be emotionally independent.

Key Points:

• Emotional Codependency vs. Independence: Kathy shares how many people mistake emotional independence for physical independence. Just because you’re financially independent or can live on your own doesn’t mean you aren’t emotionally dependent on others.
• Looking for Validation: Whether you need others to validate your worth, make you feel safe, or make you feel understood, these are signs of emotional codependency. Kathy explores how to recognize and address these patterns in your own life.
• The Comfort Trap: Kathy talks about how she used to seek comfort from external sources like people and objects (e.g., furry clothes and blankets) to fill emotional gaps. She explains how she learned to comfort herself and why this self-sufficiency is key to healing.
• Self-Validation: When it comes to simple decisions, like choosing what to wear, Kathy explains the importance of making choices based on what feels right to you, not on the opinions of others.
• The Fear of Vulnerability in Relationships: Kathy shares how sometimes we build walls of independence to protect ourselves from potential hurt or abandonment in relationships. The fear of letting others in can often look like the need for extreme independence.
• Healthy Independence: It’s not about cutting others off; it’s about learning how to ask for help when needed and building confidence in your ability to stand on your own. Kathy emphasizes the need to reflect on whether your independence is empowering you or keeping you isolated.

Takeaways:

• Recognize when your independence is rooted in emotional fear or self-doubt.
• Learn how to self-validate and find comfort within yourself, rather than relying on others.
• Understand that emotional codependency is not about needing others, but rather about learning to trust yourself and ask for help when necessary.

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