In this episode I’m joined by Brittany Martin DeJean, who helps women work through what she calls FOMU, the fear of messing up. Brittany spent 20 years in disability inclusion before she turned the lens on herself and realized the same fear that made people freeze around her dad after his accident was quietly running her own life too.

We get into her name it, own it, trust it framework, the cycle of overthinking before a mistake, the spiral during, and the recovery afterward that almost no one teaches us how to do. Brittany shares what it actually looked like for her, like spending eight hours on a single LinkedIn post and still feeling sick when two people left unkind comments, and how she learned to meet those moments with curiosity instead of judgment.

This framework has helped so many women find freedom from the fear of messing up, and it’s something Brittany actively lives herself as a solopreneur growing her own business.

Inside the episode:

• What FOMU is and why it hits high-achieving women the hardest
• The name it, own it, trust it framework for working through a mistake
• Why you can’t think your way out of overthinking
• How a failed launch became proof the inner work was landing
• Choosing joy on purpose, and why it changed everything

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ABOUT BRITTANY

Brittany Martin DeJean spent most of her life being who she thought she was supposed to be. When she was 12, a car accident took her brother’s life and left her dad a quadriplegic. Perfection became her protection. And she watched people freeze around her dad, afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. Over 20 years in disability inclusion, she gave that freeze a name: FOMU, the Fear of Messing Up. Then she realized it was the operating system running her own life. She faced those fears instead of running from them. Today, through FOMU to Flow and the Intentional Joy Club, she helps others do the same and have fun again.

Links to connect with Brittany:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/brittany-martin-dejean/
https://www.instagram.com/fearofmessingup
https://www.instagram.com/intentionaljoyclub

Ways to work with Brittany:
www.fomutoflow.com - for fomu program
www.intentionaljoyclub.com - for free dance party on nov 10th

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I have a webinar on Tuesday, and over a hundred women have signed up. This is one of the biggest things I’ve done in my business, and I’m approaching it in a completely different way than I ever have before.

This is a shorter, more personal episode. I’m pulling back the curtain and bringing you into it in real time, because the two shifts I’ve made going into this one have taken so much pressure off, and I think they’re exactly what a lot of us, especially high-achieving women, need to hear.

In this episode:

• Why I stopped treating this as one make-or-break moment, and started seeing it as one more breadcrumb on a much longer path
• The growth mindset that lets me walk in knowing I’ve already won the second I choose to show up
• How I’m protecting my space, my rest, and my family time just as fiercely as I’m protecting my prep
• Why running yourself into the ground before something big actually makes your output weaker, not stronger
• The choice to let the whole experience feel grounded and exciting instead of stressful and depleting

Because greatness was never one single moment. It’s a series of them. And you do not have to sacrifice yourself to get there.

If you’re standing at the edge of something big, a launch, a presentation, a hard conversation, a leap, this one is for you.

P.S. The webinar is called Make Space, and it’s happening Tuesday, October 20th. If you’d like to join me, I'd love to have you there.

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I've spent a lot of time talking about connecting more deeply to myself. And lately I've found a brand new layer of it, in the most unexpected place: boredom.

In this episode, I'm sharing one of the quiet practices that has genuinely shifted how I move through my days: letting myself be bored. It sounds almost too simple to matter, but there is real power in it, and I think by the end you're going to want to try it for yourself.

I talk about how I realized that from the moment I woke up to the moment I went to bed, there was almost never a stretch of silence. There was always something going into my ears, always something to absorb and respond to. And in all of that noise, I'd lost the magic of simply existing without a task attached to it.

Here's what we get into:

• Why your value living in your being, not your doing, has to show up in how you actually let yourself be
• The small, ordinary ways to reclaim pockets of quiet, from standing in line to driving in your car to washing the dishes
• What happens when you stop filling every gap with noise and finally get to hear your own voice again
• Why productivity and distraction can quietly become a shield, and what you find on the other side of putting it down

Because the boredom is where you get to see what's truly there for you. The places you're being called to grow. The parts of yourself that have been waiting for you to stop long enough to listen. And everything you've been avoiding in the stillness is the exact thing that, once you face it, is going to set you free.

If you want to go deeper on creating space and feeling safe in it, I'm hosting a free live webinar called Make Space on October 20th at 9:00 AM Pacific. I'd love for you to join me.

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