What happens when the person you’ve become no longer quite matches the way you show up in the world?
In this episode of the Let’s Check In Podcast, Suzie McErvale talks with Grace Lam — Fashion Stylist and Podcaster, Former Fashion Editor, Vogue China, creative consultant and women’s health advocate, about style, confidence, menopause and the uncertainty that comes with changing through midlife.
Grace believes style isn’t about following trends or hiding the parts of ourselves that have changed. It’s about finding ways to express who we are now and having the confidence to own it.
Grace shares her own experience of perimenopause, including the brain fog and insomnia that led her to discover just how little the fashion industry was talking about menopause. Through Me Not Pause, she is helping challenge the stigma around menopause and changing perceptions of what women in midlife are supposed to look like.
They also explore:
* Why style comes from the soul, rather than simply following fashion
* How what we wear can influence our confidence and even our mood
* Finding your style again when your body or identity changes
* Why you don’t need a whole new wardrobe to reinvent yourself
* Using small changes and accessories to step outside your comfort zone * What Grace learned from her years at Vogue China
* Why trying something new can help us build resilience
* The importance of challenging the assumptions we have about ourselves
* Grace’s work to open up conversations around menopause and transgender experiences
* And the question that may be worth asking at any stage of life: Who do I want to become?
Above all, this is a conversation about owning who you are, refusing to disappear as you change, and giving yourself permission to have a little more fun along the way.
As Grace puts it: “They’re not you. Period.”
Thanks for checking in. 💛
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Chapters
00:00 — Meet Grace Lam
01:39 — How style can change your confidence
01:40 — Adelaide Colour Analysis 03:00 — Fashion vs. style: dressing from the soul
03:38 — Grace’s perimenopause journey
05:28 — Why women struggle to dress during midlife
06:09 — Pulito Group Sponsor Offer 07:11 — What Vogue China taught Grace about identity
09:37 — Styling without breaking the budget
11:32 — How what you wear can create boundaries
13:55 — When the outside doesn’t match how you feel
15:02 — Finding your own style as you change
16:20 — Helping women rediscover their style
18:18 — Getting comfortable with being uncomfortable
19:29 — Grace Lam Chats and building resilience
21:10 — What Tokyo taught Grace about fashion
22:29 — Learning through Me Not Pause
25:52 — Finding purpose at 53
26:37 — Authenticity, confidence and owning your style
27:00 — Why trying something new matters
28:36 — Changing the way we see menopause
30:45 — Who do you want to become?
32:17 — Living with uncertainty and focusing on what you can control
33:14 — “They’re not you. Period.”
34:02 — Suzie’s final thoughts
34:56 — Thanks for checking in
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