What can Japanese parenting teach us about raising calm, capable kids?

This week, I'm talking with Lisa Katayama, author of The Japanese Way of Parenting: What It Taught Me About Raising Mostly Calm, Caring, Capable Kids.

Lisa was born and raised in Tokyo and now lives in Northern California. In our conversation, we talk about what stood out to her as she raised kids in the U.S. while drawing from the values she grew up with in Japan.

We discuss differences between American and Japanese parenting when it comes to independence, routines, choices, meals, cleanliness, self-care, and being on time. Lisa shares how Japanese culture often emphasizes structure, respect, and guiding kids in a way that helps family life feel calmer.

One of my favorite parts of this conversation is that it's not about finding one right way to parent. It's about noticing what resonates and taking what works for you and your family.

Lisa also shares practical ideas from her book, including the concept of douzo, a gentler way to offer and share, and why making parenting more playful can shift the tone at home.

https://lessdramamoremama.com/402

Have you ever been in a situation with your child where you can feel it escalating while it's happening?

They're getting more upset, you're talking more, explaining more, trying to get things back on track, and at the same time, you can tell it's not helping.

In this episode, I'm breaking down five common things moms do that feel right in the moment, but make things worse.

These are the patterns that escalate conflict, create power struggles, and leave you feeling frustrated, even when you're trying your best to handle things well.

I'll walk you through what's happening and what to do instead, so you can respond in ways that help things settle rather than making them bigger.

If you've ever walked away from a situation thinking, "Well, that didn't work," this episode will give you a different way to approach it.

https://lessdramamoremama.com/401

Four hundred episodes.

For this one, I did something I've never done before. I asked you to send in your parenting questions by voice message, and I answered them on the show.

This episode covers six real questions from moms in my community. We talk about things like a five-year-old's defiance and name-calling, feeling overwhelmed when everything feels urgent, high-conflict co-parenting exchanges, reacting to a teenager's phone calls, sibling rivalry, and disagreeing with a husband about consequences.

There's a good chance something in this episode will speak directly to what you're navigating.

https://lessdramamoremama.com/400